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Serap
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yes it’s unlikely to get pregnant 6 days before period is due.
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Serap
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Dollar store pregnancy tests are very effective. Just as effective as drugstore pregnancy tests.
You can test 9 days after your accident to see if she’s pregnant. If it’s negative and no period, she should continue to test until 14 days after the accident.
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Serap
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Has she gotten her period yet?
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Catechesis
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I don`t even know whats going on with her anymore. She still hasnt had her period and the tender breast feeling she had yesterday went away today. Im getting more and more nervous each day… when we talked today she told me perhaps her periods irregular this month, because for the longest time she told me that her periods were irregular but ever since last January they became normally cycled. Also she told me that she hasnt been eaiting correctly and that that may be affecting the blood flow which causes the period and that may be why its late.
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heidi_storage
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Whoa, relax; you don’t know that she’s pregnant! Like others have said, stress can delay periods, and teenagers can be kind of irregular anyway.
And if you two are very fertile, well, yes, that is a blessing; so many couples go through immeasurable heartache trying to conceive and bear a child. Either way, you must trust God. Take your fears to him–you’ll probably have to do that more than once!–and repent.
And, uh, it sounds to me that what you two did counts as “actual sex.” I really, really wouldn’t try to find loopholes for fooling around; you know that the two of you engaged in intimate relations, and as you have already discovered, pregnancy can result from activities other than complete vaginal intercourse. I believe there have been cases where a man [WARNING: EXPLICIT CONTENT] left semen on the woman’s thigh and the woman conceived–that is, enough sperm made it to the woman’s vagina.
You’ll also want to disabuse yourself of the notion that something called “safe sex” exists. Besides being prohibited by the RC church, condoms are notorious for having a high typical-use failure rate, and no form of contraception will guarantee you 100% baby-free relations. Even secular health sources will admit that this is true.
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Serap
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she is a couple of days late so far. she could try a pregnancy test (an early response one) and see if it detects the pregnancy harmone? it has been 8 or 9 days since sex right? It’s possible that a test may detect it. If the test is negative, it could take a week before the test will come up positive.
if she’s not pregnant, then this is a lesson for you both.
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Catechesis
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I hope I am not speaking to soon but today I went by myself to my local Catholic Church and I prayer and I prayer and I begged Saint Lawrence, Mary the Mother, Saint Alphonsa, and a Patron Father who I did not know the name of (there was a statue of Saint with an ax and board) to pray for me and ask the Lord to forgive me and my girlfriend for all our sins and offenses against him. I told the Lord he may do whatever he likes with me but I begged him not to ruin her future and a child though beautiful would bring her so much suffering, not just physically but mental and emotional suffering as well.
After leaving the church I checked my phone and saw a text from her saying her stomach started cramping up again, which is another common sign of her period. I noticed she sent the text only a few minutes after I had cried out to the Lord, perhaps this is a sign? I don’t know but please I ask you all to pray for me.
After leaving the church I checked my phone and saw a text from her saying her stomach started cramping up again, which is another common sign of her period. I noticed she sent the text only a few minutes after I had cried out to the Lord, perhaps this is a sign? I don’t know but please I ask you all to pray for me.
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Rau
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The suspense is quite gripping…
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Serap
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buy a dollar store pregnancy test today. It should give an accurate response by now.
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Catechesis
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Sigh, I have no idea whats going on, shes having these period symptoms but there jumping around. For example earlier this week she had the tender breasts then that went away, than yesterday night she had bad stomach cramps and bloating and now thats gone to. Does this mean her periods on the way? Or are these pregnancy symptoms?
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maryjk
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Stop it. Just stop it.
Do not look at everything she does and everything she says and come to some conclusion.
Honestly? You need to just leave it alone.
Either she is pregnant and you will have to live with that. Or she isn’t. I understand you being nervous.
But until you know the outcome, continually asking questions, badgering her about symptoms and questioning whether you really had sex, isn’t going to help.
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Contra_Mundum_1
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It could be either.
How late is she? If she tests early she could get a false negative. But a blood test would give you the result.
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Serap
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You guys had sex like 10 or 11 days ago; you could do a pregnancy test now. Get one of the sensitive ones like First Response or one that says 14 MIU at the dollar store.
This is driving you guys crazy!!!
This is driving you guys crazy!!!
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PennyinCanada
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Take a deep breath. What will be will be, and you and your families will handle it. Just breathe, and repeat, Jesus I trust in You. Regardless of how things work out, God is in your midst.
I want to suggest that your girlfriend learn about natural family planning. I wish that I had known that in my teens because my periods would delay and go 2 or 3 months and I never knew what was going on. When I was engaged I went to learn natural family planning and for the first time in my life I could tell when I ovulated, or when ovulation was delayed, delaying my period. Every young lady should take that class as far as I’m concerned. Not to be sexually active but to understand how things work. As I mentioned in this thread already, eating a salty meal can cause water retention and bloating, and after we ovulate, we can crave salt. That’s exactly when we need to stay away from chips and salty meals. Eating salty stuff before our period will give us more pain too.
I want to suggest that your girlfriend learn about natural family planning. I wish that I had known that in my teens because my periods would delay and go 2 or 3 months and I never knew what was going on. When I was engaged I went to learn natural family planning and for the first time in my life I could tell when I ovulated, or when ovulation was delayed, delaying my period. Every young lady should take that class as far as I’m concerned. Not to be sexually active but to understand how things work. As I mentioned in this thread already, eating a salty meal can cause water retention and bloating, and after we ovulate, we can crave salt. That’s exactly when we need to stay away from chips and salty meals. Eating salty stuff before our period will give us more pain too.
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Catechesis
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I never thought I would ever put myself in a situation like this, this is probably the greatest way a teenager could fail. I’m not so sure how I can be calm, the anxiety is killing me, if she is pregnant both of our lives are ruined… If the burden could just some how be passed to me I wouldnt mind but I dont wanna ruin her life, she actually has something ahead of her. Shes top 25% percent at her school and has plans to become a dentist, if shes pregnant all of that goes down the drain… Her parents already hate me after they found out about us a year ago, and since than we’ve been “secretly dating”. We’ve been through alot, getting in trouble many times from our parents but yet we still wanna be with each other. We’ve always felt like we had a strong relationship and I’ve always wanted to take it even further when we were the right age… but if that test turns out positive, only God knows where our lives will go.
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Xantippe
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“if she is pregnant both of our lives are ruined…”
Not at all. There are several moral, workable options, even if she is pregnant, which she probably isn’t.
As people have said, don’t worry until you do the tests. In my experience, all hormonal activity throws off very similar symptoms, regardless what it is indicating–ovulation, PMS, early pregnancy, etc.
Also, don’t do this again.
“If the burden could just some how be passed to me I wouldnt mind but I dont wanna ruin her life, she actually has something ahead of her. Shes top 25% percent at her school and has plans to become a dentist, if shes pregnant all of that goes down the drain…”
Do you mean top 25th percent of high school or top 25th college? Top 25th high school is not that impressive (unless maybe it’s a specialty magnet high school or something). Top 25th college would be impressive, especially in one of the harder majors.
People (even women) have babies in medical school and get through. People even have a bunch of kids in med school and get through. For a sufficiently talented person with good support (that’s where you come in) and a strong work ethic, it is entirely possible.
Were you planning to get married before this episode? How old are you (sorry if I missed the info earlier in the thread).
Not at all. There are several moral, workable options, even if she is pregnant, which she probably isn’t.
As people have said, don’t worry until you do the tests. In my experience, all hormonal activity throws off very similar symptoms, regardless what it is indicating–ovulation, PMS, early pregnancy, etc.
Also, don’t do this again.
“If the burden could just some how be passed to me I wouldnt mind but I dont wanna ruin her life, she actually has something ahead of her. Shes top 25% percent at her school and has plans to become a dentist, if shes pregnant all of that goes down the drain…”
Do you mean top 25th percent of high school or top 25th college? Top 25th high school is not that impressive (unless maybe it’s a specialty magnet high school or something). Top 25th college would be impressive, especially in one of the harder majors.
People (even women) have babies in medical school and get through. People even have a bunch of kids in med school and get through. For a sufficiently talented person with good support (that’s where you come in) and a strong work ethic, it is entirely possible.
Were you planning to get married before this episode? How old are you (sorry if I missed the info earlier in the thread).
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PennyinCanada
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Her plans don’t go down the drain. If she can carry a baby to term (many first babies don’t) she can always put the baby up for adoption to a couple who are settled and ready to meet the needs of a baby. As difficult as that is, you both will look back and be glad that you gave that baby life and it will be given every opportunity to excel. I am sorry that you are going through this right now, but if she is pregnant, it only puts her academic plans on hold for a time.
I’m not expecting you to be calm, by the way. Just know a baby is only a delay, not a catastrophe and train wreck! Hugs to you both.
I’m not expecting you to be calm, by the way. Just know a baby is only a delay, not a catastrophe and train wreck! Hugs to you both.
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Anglewannabe
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With all due respect, you seem to be overly focused on whether or not your girlfriend is pregnant. True sorrow for our sins comes from the fact we regret hurting God. It does not appear you regret hurting God you only regret your GF may be pregnant. Praying to God for forgiveness is great, but the motive isn’t so that your GF will end up not pregnant, the motive should be for you to have the strength to quit sinning.
Doing God’s will is to repent from our sins and take responsibilities for our actions. If your GF is pregnant, then lean on God for strength to deal with the situation. If your GF is not pregnant, don’t breath a sigh of relief and go on with life. Keeping going to God for strength not to sin
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Doing God’s will is to repent from our sins and take responsibilities for our actions. If your GF is pregnant, then lean on God for strength to deal with the situation. If your GF is not pregnant, don’t breath a sigh of relief and go on with life. Keeping going to God for strength not to sin
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Any new developments, Catechesis? Hang in there and accept whatever news comes your way.
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