I have also found that once you ask, “well what do you mean by ’ a personal relationship with the Lord’?”, they will immediately come back with: “Well, it means: do you KNOW you will be saved?”
That’s a little curious as it doesn’t sound so much like a relationship with Jesus but as focus upon personal self. It doesn’t sound like it’s about friendship and relationship with Jesus so much as being happy about your own good fortune…possibly they don’t mean it to sound that way. Personal relationship with someone is about that person, in this case Person.
Personal relationship is responding to that person’s needs and wishes, and that isn’t a static thing, but everyday giving and response to that person/Person. Jesus in Matthew 25 verses 31-46, indicated that in practical acts of kindness to others, we are giving practical acts of kindness to Him…and where we don’t choose to live in practical acts of kindness to others, we also are refusing to love Him and so don’t merit heaven…it’s all from His own mouth!
Therefor Jesus makes very clear that salvation, and personal relationship is not dependent on a one off claim of Him as Lord and Savior, but a daily dedication to living the commandments of love.
As I said on another thread:
These practical acts of kindness and living the commands of love are not a “once done” always saving event. We have to lives thes principles every day, not consider, okay “I chose to accept Jesus as my Lord and Savior on the 27th of February 2011, so I am always saved”, no I must get up again each day and live the commands of love in practical acts of kindness every day. Without this living both in faith and good works, to claim I am once saved aways saved isn’t very logical to my mind at least. Nor would it indicate a personal relationship with Jesus if I do not respond to Him by living daily in practical love of others.
Amongst many scripture verses, James 2: 14-24, Ezekiel21-24, Luke 6:45-49,
Galations 6:7-9…and so on