Picking your brains

[ChristHealsAll]

I could use some advice and/or opinions.

Say a guy really likes a girl and this girl might like this guy, they both kind of suspect it but don’t say anything. One is still kind of discerning religious life while the other is fairly convinced he/she is called to marriage and feels strongly called to the other person and has pretty good reason to believe (signs through prayers) that God may have a special relationship in store for the two. Is it appropriate to tell the other person how you feel, and what you think God’s call is? Because if you’re wrong, then you just look like someone who was trying to force a relationship. But if you truly believe God has something in store, should you tell that person?

 

[ohioszo]

We hear that one of the main problems in marriage is the lack of communication. Who do we hear this from? Advice from other Catholics and/or other Christians. If you are communicating your hopes, and feel free to communicate your dreams with another person of the opposite sex, that is surely healthy and a good sign! Too much heartache ensues when we do not speak about what is important to our own souls.

And, we think the person who is indecisive about us, iow, have plans that don’t include us, will change their minds and love us, maybe because we are rather self-centered. Our egos tell us that we as Catholics have power over those poor souls who don’t know God as we do! We may have power through the Holy Spirit, but it isn’t self-serving … God’s plan is usually a mystery.

Attraction is normal when one is young, between men and women. A religious vocation is a higher calling. It doesn’t mean that those religious have *never *had an almost engagement. Probably having the ability to form one or many close loving relationships is a sign of having a vocation!

My opinion, and it is rather late and I’m tired. Haven’t you posted this same question before? What do the parents’ say? Hers or yours? Don’t make someone with a vocation miserable, by reminding them of your unhappiness. If you love someone, you would give them room to breath.

How many of us would like to start over again, and stay away from those, almost numerous folk, who are driven by their baser instincts and pretend love. You may have a lot of time, or you may not … but, if there is school to complete and a career to start then you do have time to wait a little.

I wonder what St. Paul would say to you!

 

[ChristHealsAll]

We hear that one of the main problems in marriage is the lack of communication. Who do we hear this from? Advice from other Catholics and/or other Christians. If you are communicating your hopes, and feel free to communicate your dreams with another person of the opposite sex, that is surely healthy and a good sign! Too much heartache ensues when we do not speak about what is important to our own souls.

And, we think the person who is indecisive about us, iow, have plans that don’t include us, will change their minds and love us, maybe because we are rather self-centered. Our egos tell us that we as Catholics have power over those poor souls who don’t know God as we do! We may have power through the Holy Spirit, but it isn’t self-serving … God’s plan is usually a mystery.

Attraction is normal when one is young, between men and women. A religious vocation is a higher calling. It doesn’t mean that those religious have *never *had an almost engagement. Probably having the ability to form one or many close loving relationships is a sign of having a vocation!

My opinion, and it is rather late and I’m tired. Haven’t you posted this same question before? What do the parents’ say? Hers or yours? Don’t make someone with a vocation miserable, by reminding them of your unhappiness. If you love someone, you would give them room to breath.

How many of us would like to start over again, and stay away from those, almost numerous folk, who are driven by their baser instincts and pretend love. You may have a lot of time, or you may not … but, if there is school to complete and a career to start then you do have time to wait a little.

I wonder what St. Paul would say to you!

thanks for the response, looking back yes I did post this question a while ago. I must’ve forgot in the bustle of life! I see your points, but in this case it is a feeling that the OTHER person knows God better, and not that I think I have power over a soul who doesn’t know God as well. It’s the exact opposite and so that’s why I’m wondering if it’d be appropriate to talk to them about it. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve spent a good deal of time in prayer about it and God has given me happiness about it, I’m certainly not unhappy and realize that whatever happens, God’s plan will be fulfilled.

 

[Augustine]

IIs it appropriate to tell the other person how you feel, and what you think God’s call is?

No. If God is your witness, then pray that He moves the other person’s heart. If it’s God’s will, it’ll happen. If it’s just the old enemy, you won’t place a stumbling block in front of someone who God’s calling.

 

[ChristHealsAll]

No. If God is your witness, then pray that He moves the other person’s heart. If it’s God’s will, it’ll happen. If it’s just the old enemy, you won’t place a stumbling block in front of someone who God’s calling.

God bless you for the advice. Thanks!

 

[Spirithound]

I could use some advice and/or opinions.

Say a guy really likes a girl and this girl might like this guy, they both kind of suspect it but don’t say anything. One is still kind of discerning religious life while the other is fairly convinced he/she is called to marriage and feels strongly called to the other person and has pretty good reason to believe (signs through prayers) that God may have a special relationship in store for the two. Is it appropriate to tell the other person how you feel, and what you think God’s call is? Because if you’re wrong, then you just look like someone who was trying to force a relationship. But if you truly believe God has something in store, should you tell that person?

Perhaps you might ask this person to discern a relationship with you. Each of the couples from from the leaders of my parish’s youth group (3 of them!) went through a period of discernment with each other before starting dating.

 

[ChristHealsAll]

Perhaps you might ask this person to discern a relationship with you. Each of the couples from from the leaders of my parish’s youth group (3 of them!) went through a period of discernment with each other before starting dating.

Thanks! It appears I might be moving in that direction…she might too.