That’s exactly what my mom said. I know others will probably have a much different opinion than mine by the symbolism of feeding each other the first piece of the bridal cake is to represent you will take care of each other. Smashing the cake in your new spouse’s face seems to me say the exact opposite.
Congratulations! If it bothers you and your fiance, you shouldn’t do it. You can still do the bouquet thing and not the garter thing–it is your wedding! There is no obligation to do both of them together or not at all. Believe it or not, you will talk to some people who will tell you just that. What they really mean is that they like the tradition, your personal tastes are “silly” (sound familiar?), and therefore, you should just do it because that’s the way it is and that is the way everyone else does it. My advice would be to not listen to them and do what you want. This party is for you and your future husband and you don’t have to justify yourselves.
) We didn’t do the garter thing, and I didn’t toss a bouquet. (Heck, I decided to carry a fan instead of flowers - I hate the way they smell!!!)
I’ve never heard of the “Dollar Dance.” It brings to mind certain adult establishments. I hope it has nothing to do with any of that!!
You pay to dance with the bride & groom.I’ve never heard of the “Dollar Dance.” It brings to mind certain adult establishments. I hope it has nothing to do with any of that!!
Well, that seems silly to me for various reasons. We definitely won’t be doing that, either.
Couldn’t agree more! I find it abusive and embarassing each other in public?! It’s beyond me!!!
The first time I saw the dollar dance the bride only did it and the lady sitting next to me said “They’re only just married and he’s already selling her off”
Yes, also dislike the dollar dance.Never heard of that either. Sounds unbelievably tacky. Hey, we know you took the time to come here to wish us well, probably got us a gift too, but hey, if you want to dance with one of us, pay up! People actually pay? It would be funny if no one did.
I like the tradition. It’s a good excuse for a shy family member to ask the bride or groom to dance. We had this at our wedding and my youngest brother kept coming up with dollars and came up to dance with me over and over again. It was so cute and sweet! It also gives the photographer the opportunity to photograph the bride or groom with their grandpa, auntie, family friend, etc and I’ve gotten some really great pictures from dollar dances. The only thing I don’t like about it is when the DJ insists that all the guests clear the dance floor. This seems to be the custom where my husband is from in Wisconsin and the end result is only the bride and groom are dancing for twenty minutes while the guests have nothing to do. At most of the weddings I’ve been to, the dance continues for the rest of the guests while the dollar dance goes on, so I insisted on that for our wedding, even though we got married in my husband’s hometown. I think it’s much nicer when everyone is dancing and enjoying themselves. PS- the extra cash came in handy because we forgot to get money to tip the servers and the DJ ahead of time.
How well I remember my parents’ reaction the first time they encountered one of those at a wedding!
Suffice it to say that the comments were far from positive. They seem popular in some communities and unheard of in others.I’m glad it’s unheard of here thus far and hope it stays away.How well I remember my parents’ reaction the first time they encountered one of those at a wedding!
We didn’t do it at our wedding, but the tradition never bothered me.