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Hi. I am a 15 yearold boy who needs some guidance.
I am question my sexuality. I am atraccted to girls and can see myself doing you what and marrying them
However, I am atracted to some boys yet i am disgusted by you know what,
What am I?
Is that Wrong?
I am a bit scared. I pray the rosary everday and i wonder if the devil is trying to tempt me

thank you
 
Dear endwherewebegin,

I just want you to know that you are not alone. There are many guys, like yourself, who are struggling through the same thing. Yes, it can be confusing. As an adolescent, your mind and body is still developing. Beware of cognitive behaviour therapists, psychologists, and social workers who would have you believe that you are gay.

The Canadian Council of Catholic Bishops has published a letter titled “Pastoral letter to young people with same-sex attraction”. You may find this helpful. Click on the link below to download the PDF document. It is available free of charge.

cccb.ca/site/images/stories/pdf/ministry-ssa_en.pdf

Here’s the web page where it is referenced:

cccb.ca/site/eng/media-room/archives/media-releases/2011/3155-pastoral-letter-to-young-people-with-same-sex-attraction

And here’s also the article on EWTN’s website that mentions the letter:

ewtnnews.com/catholic-news/Americas.php?id=3497

Just because you feel you have an attraction to other guys does NOT automatically mean you are gay. Please don’t think that. To give you my own personal answer would require a lengthy response. How I would see this is this - think of it as something a step above friendship, perhaps “brotherhood”?
 
This is perfectly natural. Your body and mind is a mess of hormones at your age. Dont be scared and keep praying the rosary!!
 
I also agree with cessnawag’s comments.

Keep praying the Holy Rosary. You have nothing to fear.

I was trying to edit my last post, when I got timed out. Getting back to the letter by the Canadian bishops,
here are three excerpts from the document that I feel are important (although I encourage you to read the entire letter):

3. We wish to stress that, although sexual identity helps situate the person as a unique individual,
the human person “can hardly be described by a reductionist reference to his or her sexual orientation.”
Those with same-sex attraction are first and foremost human beings, our brothers and
sisters in Christ. Because of their inherent dignity, they always deserve our respect. By fostering this
profound esteem we imitate the Good Shepherd’s love for his flock.

6. In her teaching, however, the Church never condemns persons with same-sex attraction. She
carefully distinguishes between an individual’s inclinations or feelings – some of which are transitory
and/or situational and others which are deep-seated or permanent – and one’s actions. While
homosexual acts are always objectively wrong, same-sex inclinations are not in themselves sinful
or a moral failing. To the extent that a same-sex attraction is not freely chosen, there is no personal
culpability in having such an inclination. Nonetheless, when oriented toward genital activity,
this inclination is “objectively disordered.” This does not mean that the person as a whole
is somehow defective or “badly made,” or that he or she has in some way been rejected by God.
Inclinations to homosexual acts in no way diminish the full human dignity or intrinsic worth of
the person. For many people, same-sex attraction constitutes a trial. They therefore deserve to be
approached by pastors with charity and prudence.

8. All young people, whether or not they experience an inclination to same-sex attraction, strive to
understand and appropriate their sexual identity. The progressive maturing of a person’s freedom
is a long-term process that can be encumbered by numerous obstacles. These include pressures
from the media (particularly on the internet), a widespread moral relativism, and the hedonism
propagated by secular society itself.

Source: cccb.ca/site/images/stories/pdf/ministry-ssa_en.pdf

Take care.
 
You’re young. Your hormones are crazy right now. Don’t worry about it. Just don’t dwell on the thoughts that come.
 
endwherewebegin said:
Hi. I am a 15 yearold boy who needs some guidance.
I am question my sexuality. I am atraccted to girls and can see myself doing you what and marrying them
However, I am atracted to some boys yet i am disgusted by you know what,
What am I?
Is that Wrong?
I am a bit scared. I pray the rosary everday and i wonder if the devil is trying to tempt me

thank you
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Most guys are able to tell what guys are attractive in order to size up the competition, it’s perfectly normal. If you are disgusted by sex with the same sex it is not same sex attraction, relax.
 
Dakota_Roberts said:
Most guys are able to tell what guys are attractive in order to size up the competition, it’s perfectly normal. If you are disgusted by sex with the same sex it is not same sex attraction, relax.
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This is probably true. Most guys are able to appreciate the looks, talent, manliness etc. of another male. That’s perfectly natural. If you dislike the idea of sex with guys then I would discount same sex attraction.

It is common at your age to develop a friendship with a particular brother/male role-model figure whom you admire. This is also normal and not to be feared.

Continue with the rosary and praying to the Virgin Mary & God Bless
 
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