Please help,I am frightened

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First of all, please know that you are in my prayers…:byzsoc: :crossrc:
I am so sad, hearing about your great loss. I know from losing dear ones myself, just how painful this can be. You are doing the exact right thing, in seeking out help to deal with your grieving.

I am:( very sorry that your parents are behaving in this way. It is not only hurtful to you, but they are also only hurting themselves, by allowing their own bitterness to separate them from you. That is pitiful, really, to think of the fact that they have held themselves back from loving & caring. It is their loss, because now they are left alone in their pain…
It sounds to me as though they are simply very unhappy, angry people, possibly even somewhat unbalanced. (How can being a teacher possibly be a failure? Isn’t teaching one of the greatest vocations that anyone can have, to be called to instruct & mentor others? Of course it is!!)

Please, don’t give up on your faith!! Somewhere in Scripture are these words: “When my father and my mother forsake me, the Lord will lift me up”. Place yourself in the loving embrace of Our Lord. God is the one Person Who will never, ever, turn away from us.

Go to France! You are an adult now; your parents have no power & no right to hold you back from this. The only thing you can do for them, as long as they persist in this attitude, is to pray for their hearts to be softened.
God bless you, & also your husband. May you be very conscious always of the Everlasting Arms of the Almighty, holding you & comforting you. Leave your brother in His all-loving hands. Again, God bless you always!
In His Name, & in His service,
Zooey
 
You are brave. You are loved. Your brother STILL loves you. And I am going to send my Guardian Angel to kick both of your parents right in the pants…oh no…do I have to go to confession now?

Seriously - you are to remember all the time that you MATTER…God has given you an incredible opportunity to unite with the sufferings of Jesus. You may never EVER know how many people you help…but someday, in heaven, do not be suprised by those who come and thank you for helping them out of Purgatory.
 
thank you everybody so much for your kind words and prayers. they mean so much. I am lucky and it does help.

I am off to visit Tom’s grave tomorrow. I am glad you all think it is okay to still talk to him- I read somewhere that we aren’t supposed to talk to the dead, but it does help.

I have written out the passage on the premature death of the upright from the Book of Wisdom - I plan on leaving it with Tom with some flowers tomorrow to let him know how proud I am of him- in Iraq he was building schools and reconnecting water supplies. He never went into the politics of being there as far as he was concerned he was there to help people- like you are doing for me through your thoughts and prayers.

I miss him. He was the best brother, son, soldier: friend.

You are all in my prayers now too.

love
Kate
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Kate_Elasmar said:
thank you everybody so much for your kind words and prayers. they mean so much. I am lucky and it does help.

I am off to visit Tom’s grave tomorrow. I am glad you all think it is okay to still talk to him- I read somewhere that we aren’t supposed to talk to the dead, but it does help.

I have written out the passage on the premature death of the upright from the Book of Wisdom - I plan on leaving it with Tom with some flowers tomorrow to let him know how proud I am of him- in Iraq he was building schools and reconnecting water supplies. He never went into the politics of being there as far as he was concerned he was there to help people- like you are doing for me through your thoughts and prayers.

I miss him. He was the best brother, son, soldier: friend.

You are all in my prayers now too.

love
Kate
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Let us know how it goes in France and if you need us any more. I will pray for you and I am sure others will too.

Also, if you get a chance while in France, stand up and look around and just appreciate that you can be there. This is a place many of us wish to visit someday but might never have the chance, so don’t forget ot appreciate it! At least for us. 🙂
 
blossom02 said:
One night a man had a dream. He dreamed
he was walking along the beach with the LORD.

Across the sky flashed scenes from his life.
For each scene he noticed two sets of
footprints in the sand: one belonging
to him, and the other to the LORD.

When the last scene of his life flashed before him,
he looked back at the footprints in the sand.

He noticed that many times along the path of
his life there was only one set of footprints.

He also noticed that it happened at the very
lowest and saddest times in his life.

This really bothered him and he
questioned the LORD about it:

“LORD, you said that once I decided to follow
you, you’d walk with me all the way.
But I have noticed that during the most
troublesome times in my life,
there is only one set of footprints.
I don’t understand why when
I needed you most you would leave me.”

The LORD replied:

“My son, my precious child,
I love you and I would never leave you.
During your times of trial and suffering,
when you see only one set of footprints,
it was then that I carried you.”

God Loves you.🙂 He doesn’t make mistakes.
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Reminds me of a photo I took on the beach… 🙂

 
Kate, your post brought tears to my eyes. I am so sorry for your loss and for this trial you are enduring with your parents. I have a brother who is dear to my heart as well, and I can only imagine how awful it would be to lose him. But God is with you through this. I don’t have anything to add except that I am praying for you, for the repose of your brother’s soul, and for a safe trip for you and your husband. May the Holy Family comfort you when your earthly family fails you. God bless you. :console:

Write again if you feel the need.
 
Kate, I am praying for you. Please do pray for your brother and ask him to pray for you. One thing about the Catholic Church that I love deeply is the doctrine of the Communion of Saints - the idea that we are not cut off from our loved ones who have died. They are still a part of the church and are able to pray both with us and for us.
 
Honey, my heart hurts for you. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. One person posted something very important, please have Masses said for your brother, even though he is not here with you physically, there is still a way you can be of help to him, and that is to have Masses said for him. You also have a Heavenly Father who loves you so much and also a Heavenly Mother, so go to them. Pray the Chaplet of Divine Mercy for your parents conversion. God Bless you.:gopray:
 
My heart goes out to you. You will be in my prayers for quite a while and while I can’t add much to the wonderful advice that the others have posted you, I have found it helpful to go to mass and receive the eucharist often. Gods grace will fill you all the more.:console:

May gods peace be with you.
 
I went to France. It was a very long day, but worth it I think as I spent some time with Tom, it was quiet and still.

I can’t quite grasp that he is still dead- I know that may sound strange- since I got back I have felt very down, but today is All Saints Day and I will keep trying to get used to the idea that just because I can’t see him doesn’t mean he isn’t there.

Thank you for all your support and prayers

Kate
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Kate_Elasmar said:
I went to France. It was a very long day, but worth it I think as I spent some time with Tom, it was quiet and still.

I can’t quite grasp that he is still dead- I know that may sound strange- since I got back I have felt very down, but today is All Saints Day and I will keep trying to get used to the idea that just because I can’t see him doesn’t mean he isn’t there.

Thank you for all your support and prayers

Kate
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Kate

I am very pleased for you that you made the journey to France and I am sure Tom travelled with you every step of the way. I am glad you laid your flowers and talked there with your brother and with God.

Tom is so very close to you in Jesus so talk with Tom always.

In the Living Prayer of my life always.
 
Kate_Elasmar said:
I went to France. It was a very long day, but worth it I think as I spent some time with Tom, it was quiet and still.

I can’t quite grasp that he is still dead- I know that may sound strange- since I got back I have felt very down, but today is All Saints Day and I will keep trying to get used to the idea that just because I can’t see him doesn’t mean he isn’t there.

Thank you for all your support and prayers

Kate
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When you feel down, go to the Cross and pray. Hide yourself in the holy wound of our Lord Jesus. Just cling to Him.

My prayers for you continue.
 
Kate_Elasmar said:
I went to France. It was a very long day, but worth it I think as I spent some time with Tom, it was quiet and still.

I can’t quite grasp that he is still dead- I know that may sound strange- since I got back I have felt very down, but today is All Saints Day and I will keep trying to get used to the idea that just because I can’t see him doesn’t mean he isn’t there.

Thank you for all your support and prayers

Kate
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He is only physically dead. He is still alive in Christ, and like you and all of us is part of the communion of saints. I’m glad you spent some time with him and I know that he is glad as well.

I don’t have any advice on your parents except to echo an earlier poster who said that perhaps the best thing to do is distance yourself from them so that you can heal. You can also ask your brother to pray for all of you, to intercede on your behalf.

God bless you. I will pray for you and your family.
 
I am very sorry to hear of your loss,and am praying for you and Tom and your parents.Have you heard the story of how Jesus is carrying you even when there is only one set of footprints?This applies to you,because He will carry you through this.He is there to support you even when you do not feel him.Also,Tom is an angel now and is watching over you and protecting you,and he is in Heaven and will always go with you.Maybe your parents just do not understand-you could ask the Holy Spirit to help them.Remember that Tom is gone to be with God,and is not lost forever.
 
Kate_Elasmar said:
I went to France. It was a very long day, but worth it I think as I spent some time with Tom, it was quiet and still.

I can’t quite grasp that he is still dead- I know that may sound strange- since I got back I have felt very down, but today is All Saints Day and I will keep trying to get used to the idea that just because I can’t see him doesn’t mean he isn’t there.

Thank you for all your support and prayers

Kate
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Good! Mission accomplished!!! Nicely done!!!

You’re going to have days when you’re a little down. And you are right, just because you can’t see him, does not mean he isn’t there.

Put your energy into your husband and your wonderful work.
 
Dear Kate - I have read this thread right through tothe end and would like to come up with something that would heal your pain. Sorry, no such magic. The thing that impressed me most was that Jesus actually has been ministering to you - surely you have felt the love outpoured in the posts above. These are people who have felt pain and and grieve with you and for you - and pray heartfelt prayers for you. These will definitely help.

I feel it was God that led you to turn to this site. He has not abandoned you. Try, if you can, to bask in the love of others for you - those on this site, and those in your life. That is the love of God! Wherever you find love, there is God! Wherever you put love, there is God.

Pray for your parents for they have had a great loss also. They, too, have trouble dealing with Tom’s death. Having lost a child myself, I can assure you they have been suffering.

Look about and see if there is someone in need of your love. Your husband, for instance. I don’t know who said it, but “where there is no love, put love, and you will find love.”

My prayers are with you. God loves you and will see you through this.

JESUS, I TRUST IN YOU!
 
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