Please help--is procrastination a sin?

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I want to say this has been discussed on here, but I can’t find the thread.

Here’s the issue. I’m moving. I am thrilled to be moving. My husband and kids are thrilled to be moving. We found a great home. We need to move in three weeks, and hardly anything is packed.:rolleyes:

My hubby is ultra structured. He is actually angry at me right now…he’s downstairs, not saying he’s angry, but I know that face. That look of …‘I cannot believe you are not packing as fast and as furious as me.’ Anyways…I know I’m procrastinating. Every time I sit down to start sorting clothes for good will…or packing a box of stuff up…I come to this board.:o

Is procrastination a sin? (grave?) And…if it isn’t…it still doesn’t feel good to be like that. Can someone offer me advice?

Thanks.
 
I’m not sure procrastination in an of itself is a sin. Angry words as a consequence of procrastination . . . maybe. —KCT
 
Congrats on the new home! Make sure to have it blessed by the priest, ask him to dinner and see if he can do it.

Okay, maybe its not procrastination really. You are parting with memories, time and love that was shared there. Maybe you think its “procrastination” when in fact its saying goodbye your way, a way that you can deal with.

As long as you dont hinder the move, and continue to do what you can, how can this be a sin?

Take some pics of the moving process too, it may be something you will look back to with much happier thoughts than this now.🙂
 
I do think procrastination is a sin. I don’t think every delay counts as procrastination (after all, Our Lord himself waited four days to raise Lazarus and three days to resurrect himself!)

Neither do I think all procrastination is invariably grave, although it can reach such a level.

I’d pray to St Martha for help in getting everything done
 
whatevergirl said:
My hubby is ultra structured. He is actually angry at me right now…he’s downstairs, not saying he’s angry, but I know that face. That look of …‘I cannot believe you are not packing as fast and as furious as me.’ Anyways…I know I’m procrastinating. Every time I sit down to start sorting clothes for good will…or packing a box of stuff up…I come to this board.:o
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I’m having the same trouble cleaning my basement that you are having in packing (except, I don’t have a husband to get angry about it 😃 )

Could it be the job is just too overwhelming? That’s my problem – the job is so big, I have trouble just getting started, even if I break it up into smaller tasks.

Any chance you can get some help with the packing? Many hands make light work. 🙂

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I’m not sure you are procrastinating. You do have three weeks. . . But maybe the two of you need to get a game plan and not have one person assume that the other person is not only reading his mind, and is perfectly in sync, and is thus deliberately being ‘lazy’ by not doing exactly what said person thinks needs to be done now this minute?

I think you are still trying to come to terms with the move, even though you are happy. DH, being male, tends to be ‘action oriented’, right? In his mind, there are X days, X needs to be done, you and he should be doing X at X time for X time.

In your mind, there are X days and X needs to be done. You and he need, by the final day, to have ‘all’ done. . .but you haven’t methodically calculated that all your stuff will fill X number of boxes, that it will take X minutes to fill each box, that you also have to do X chores (meals, child care, outside work), or even that you have to calculate for X incidents which will slow you down (child spills juice on his only clean clothes and you have to unpack to get him something else, and then repack; husband misplaces keys which helpful child had packed into the very logical place of the Fisher Price Home toy, which needs to be unpacked and repacked while other child starts to cry for one of the other toys, etc.)

Even the THOUGHT of the above would send ME to a keyboard just to gather my thoughts for a minute!
 
I think that depends greatly upon what you are procrastinating over. Procrastination in most cases is a personal imperfection, but is not a sin.

If you put off going to the doctor though you know you are overdue for an regular exam, you are sinfully neglecting your health. If you put off writing invitations until the last minute, you are not being sinful.
 
You have PLENTY of time!

We had just under two weeks to be out of our old house when we closed on its sale. We didn’t have a house to move into at the time. We just knew the general area of where we were going to move (3 hours away). DH’s uncle found our current house one day, we drove up the next to look at it, made an offer that evening and it was accepted the next day.

In order to avoid the dreaded double move, we were able to get our financing pushed through in 6 days. One week after our offer was accepted, we were loading up the U-Haul. DH and friends can attest to the fact that we packed in one week (and got rid of four truck loads of accumulation.) 👍

No worries. God will help you complete what needs to be done. 😃 Just tell your DH to stop worrying. IMHO, worrying can be just as bad as procrastination. :whistle:
 
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I’m not sure you are procrastinating. You do have three weeks. . . But maybe the two of you need to get a game plan and not have one person assume that the other person is not only reading his mind, and is perfectly in sync, and is thus deliberately being ‘lazy’ by not doing exactly what said person thinks needs to be done now this minute?

I think you are still trying to come to terms with the move, even though you are happy. DH, being male, tends to be ‘action oriented’, right? In his mind, there are X days, X needs to be done, you and he should be doing X at X time for X time.

In your mind, there are X days and X needs to be done. You and he need, by the final day, to have ‘all’ done. . .but you haven’t methodically calculated that all your stuff will fill X number of boxes, that it will take X minutes to fill each box, that you also have to do X chores (meals, child care, outside work), or even that you have to calculate for X incidents which will slow you down (child spills juice on his only clean clothes and you have to unpack to get him something else, and then repack; husband misplaces keys which helpful child had packed into the very logical place of the Fisher Price Home toy, which needs to be unpacked and repacked while other child starts to cry for one of the other toys, etc.)

Even the THOUGHT of the above would send ME to a keyboard just to gather my thoughts for a minute!
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do you know my husband?😃
 
You know, I have three papers to write in about three weeks (okay, two and a half) and they are pretty long. True, depression and GAD are a bit of a problem when it comes to time-management - but I feel your pain.
I don’t think that you should (or I should, for that matter) call it procrastination. Why not call it “wasting time” or “making my husband angry”? Because these are the results of procrastination - we should be Marthas, but we pretend to be Marys, when, really, we are just … well, hm… :rolleyes:
I think you’d feel better if, instead of going online when you should be packing, you’d do something else, like cooking or cleaning, but still DOING something meaningful, being active, so that you get into the “working mode”. My worst way of procrastination is surfing the net - my best, doing laundry or ironing or doing the dishes or sewing. See the difference? I’m sure your hubby would 😉

But don’t worry about the packing, you have time. Just change your mindset from doingnothing to upandabout!
 
Great post. I’ve always wondered this and wanted to post the question. Somehow I just never got around to it.
 
I’ll do when I get to it.
When I get to it, it will get done!

Yogi Berra!😃
 
Margita said:
You know, I have three papers to write in about three weeks (okay, two and a half) and they are pretty long. True, depression and GAD are a bit of a problem when it comes to time-management - but I feel your pain.
I don’t think that you should (or I should, for that matter) call it procrastination. Why not call it “wasting time” or “making my husband angry”? Because these are the results of procrastination - we should be Marthas, but we pretend to be Marys, when, really, we are just … well, hm… :rolleyes:
I think you’d feel better if, instead of going online when you should be packing, you’d do something else, like cooking or cleaning, but still DOING something meaningful, being active, so that you get into the “working mode”. My worst way of procrastination is surfing the net - my best, doing laundry or ironing or doing the dishes or sewing. See the difference? I’m sure your hubby would 😉

But don’t worry about the packing, you have time. Just change your mindset from doingnothing to upandabout!
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thanks margita…you helped me a bit with your reply. i cleaned a small corner of our breakfast nook/living room area…that counts for something…

yes?
no?
😃

ok…ok…i’m off to do MORE…thank you for listening everyone. i suppose it’s not a sin, but it might be incredibly selfish for me to not do my share and leave this nasty packing stuff all to my hubby…who has done a lot of it thus far.

so…my conscience is calling me now.🙂 ciao for now.
 
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