Please Help me to find God again

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I suppose i will start by telling you why i have lost my faith, Im 22 years old and in 2004 i married and was blessed with a son, the same year i found out that my mmother (who is 42 now) was diagnosed with an exrteamly rare brain tumor called a “Vegal Nruroma” this tumor is very rare and occours in something like 30 million reported brain tumors, mum underwent surgery only to be told that the tumor is on her brainstem and is therefore in operable, i felt like i had been hit by a train upon hearing this devistating news. In early 2005 my grandmother who is a devout irish catholic very suddenly passed away and in the same month my wife decided that she wanted to leave me for my brother so now a year later my mum is still here and going strong but my wife wants a devorce and wont let me see my son, my mum has also been told she has brest cancer. My faith has always been srtong but since loosing my wife and son i have slipped into a massive depression and have lost all of my friends and only my mum has time for me these days, i wonder why a God who loves me so dearly as to send his only son to die for my sins would punnish me in such a way, my faith has trully been tested and now i feel like a hollow person, only half complete, i feel that God has forgotton me and to loose the one thing that you thought you would never loose really takes it out of you. I pray to God and Jesus but i feel like God doesnt have time for me anymore either. Please help me, i need to feel God’s love once more

Thank You

Lost Soul
 
Lost Soul

We will all pray for you! Pray the rosary - it is powerful - ask God for continued strength.

God bless
 
Dear “Lost Soul”,

Despite all that has happened in your life and how you feel, the Lord does love you and is there for you. He will see you through anything that comes your way, no matter how rough.

I will keep you in my prayers…
 
Lost Soul–

Often with these problems it may not be of much consolation to hear someone say “I’ll pray for you.” That said, intercessory prayer is very powerful indeed, so understand that many who read your message will be helping you in a very active way–praying for you. Many times this is more valuable than if the same people entered into your life and directly intervened, because people can make errors. God cannot.

Towards the end of your message, you seem to place the blame on God for some of your troubles.

Consider firstly that anger is rarely helpful, as difficult as it may be to accept this. Then, too, if there is anyone you should feel anger towards, it would be those who have caused you these problems.

I read that it is not God but your wife who left you. She has free will, naturally, and therefore the power to commit a great sin as is being done now.

It is intrinsically impossible for God to give human beings free will and then to prevent evil. People with free will do evil. Disease occurs. Man’s body decays. Bad things do happen often. All of this is very difficult to accept, truthfully, but do keep trying. Speak to a priest or another trusted Catholic about these things. They can help you. God often works through other people. Continue praying. With all hope you will be able to see your son again. It sounds as though your faith is important to you; you would not have asked the question if not. Even if this were to develop into a legal situation, I think you would have more than enough to make a case for your being a very good father.

You said you need to feel God’s love; if you have time, try to find some activity whereby you can serve him in a fairly stark manner. If there are any religious orders in your area, speak to them and see if you can’t serve the poor in some way.

Always pray. Go to a church at night when it is quiet and meditate. If you struggle with this, find a priest to help you learn this prayer technique. Keep trying. People are themselves praying for you.

I am sorry for your troubles.
 
It is important to recognize that it is God himself who teaches and inspires faith. It is only by the Holy Spirit that we can call Jesus “Lord” or dare to call God our “Father”(ICor12:3; Rom8:15). It is God who creates in us the very capacity to receive his own gifts. We must not think of faith, therefore, as something for us to achieve; receptivity is itself a gift we must be prepared to receive.

However that does not simply mean the end of all further discussion or endeavour. We can, as they used to say, dispose ourselves for grace; more precisely, we can seek out in ourselves where we are already in a state of receptivity, of letting God be God.

From Prayer: Living with God by Simon Tugwell O.P.

Lost Soul …trust in God…let God be God in your life.
 
Lost Soul:
Hello,
I suppose i will start by telling you why i have lost my faith, Im 22 years old and in 2004 i married and was blessed with a son, the same year i found out that my mmother (who is 42 now) was diagnosed with an exrteamly rare brain tumor called a “Vegal Nruroma” this tumor is very rare and occours in something like 30 million reported brain tumors, mum underwent surgery only to be told that the tumor is on her brainstem and is therefore in operable, i felt like i had been hit by a train upon hearing this devistating news. In early 2005 my grandmother who is a devout irish catholic very suddenly passed away and in the same month my wife decided that she wanted to leave me for my brother so now a year later my mum is still here and going strong but my wife wants a devorce and wont let me see my son, my mum has also been told she has brest cancer. My faith has always been srtong but since loosing my wife and son i have slipped into a massive depression and have lost all of my friends and only my mum has time for me these days, i wonder why a God who loves me so dearly as to send his only son to die for my sins would punnish me in such a way, my faith has trully been tested and now i feel like a hollow person, only half complete, i feel that God has forgotton me and to loose the one thing that you thought you would never loose really takes it out of you. I pray to God and Jesus but i feel like God doesnt have time for me anymore either. Please help me, i need to feel God’s love once more

Thank You

Lost Soul
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Read scripture, You may find God is hollowing out to rebuild you brick by brick. I have found this to be true in my case and weak bricks may break, but remember you have a strong foundation in the Lord. God, Church- The body of Christ, prayer, the Saints, and commandments in the Word. These are just some strong of the bricks that have helped me when I have hit the foundation of my Faith. I hope they help you rebuild your life. My prayers are with you, Tim
 
Lost Soul, I can truly sympathize with you about losing a loved one too early to a disease. I’ve lost both my parents to heart disease–my dad when he was only 35 and I was only 12. From then on I had to live without him and see my mom work twice as hard to support us 4 kids. And then, she met a man and got married when I was in college, but instead of him being good for her, he was mentally disturbed and made her remaining years the hardest of her life. I am certain she died at 59 because of the stress of putting up with a man she was too afraid of to leave.

I cite all this only to let you know that horrible things happen to good people all the time. God hasn’t promised us a life without suffering. In fact, he has guaranteed we will suffer in this life, it’s a part of being human in a fallen world. You at least have your mom for now, so treasure her and her faith. Draw strength from her, it is obvious that she is the one looking forward in all this. Don’t take her burden on yourself, but carry the one God gave you to bear. We cannot ask that nothing bad ever happen to us, but we can ask for the grace to get through it. And you will.

Right now all you know is your feelings–because they are so strong. They are shouting at you for attention while the voice of God is whispering softly in your ear, through your mom and others, especially the Church, to trust in him and all will be well. And it is true. All will be well. Give your troubles to God and let go of your feelings. Tell them they are exhausting you and so you are sending them away for now. Take time for yourself and let whatever good is in your life show itself to you for there is much good, believe it or not. You and yours are in my prayers.
 
Lost Soul,

God is sufficient for you, and it would seem to be the case that your yearning for Him is an indication that you are aware of this, even if you don’t sense Him more directly. You’ve received a lot of good advice in this thread, so I won’t say much more than I already have.

Tell God how you feel, ask Him to help you grieve where grieving is called for and to give you the strength to continue to seek Him above all else; you are already doing this, though, as you have shown by posting here and pouring out your heart.

I am praying for you, just like I was prayed for not long ago here.

But be clear about this: God is not punishing you. You have discovered the reality of the Fall of Adam and Eve. Hang on, my friend. I know you can do it; hang on, but don’t fight – and you will become aware of His great love for you much sooner.
 
Thank You all for the kind messages of support and kindnessi have found great comfort in reading them, i trust god is here for me but at he same time i feel alone and isolated jut just physicly but emotionaly and sprituly, lonleyness isnt a nice feeling but im sure with ur prayers and ur kindness i will get through this, i cant blame God like u said he didnt leave me,

Your all in my prayers and thoughts

Lost Soul
 
Lost Soul…I’m glad you came to us here. Have you been to mass at all? I find it a great comfort. Or perhaps some time with our Lord in Eucharistic Adoration. Pour out your heart to him in prayer. He knows you, he loves you, he died for you. God is the one constant you can always count on.

I’m so sorry for your situation. Heading to Jesus is the best thing you can do right now - good for you.

I will pray for you! God bless.
 
Lost Soul:
Thank You all for the kind messages of support and kindnessi have found great comfort in reading them, i trust god is here for me but at he same time i feel alone and isolated jut just physicly but emotionaly and sprituly, lonleyness isnt a nice feeling but im sure with ur prayers and ur kindness i will get through this, i cant blame God like u said he didnt leave me,

Your all in my prayers and thoughts

Lost Soul
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One of the greatest things I found around here (on this forum) is that there are other people in the world who share my passions for various things. For me, people who are concerned about their spirituality, willing to discuss it, and are articulate and friendly about it, have never been easy to find, much less engage in discussion, until Internet technology became available.

Much of the things that are important to us don’t make sense to the world, so when we treat them as actually important rather than just lip service, the world gets nervous, takes notice, and isolates us so that such “foolish” thinking doesn’t spread. People who have deep questions about their faith often have a difficult time dealing with day to day temporal issues because it is sooo less important by comparison, and seemingly nobody understands. Well here, there are people who do understand and yet the world may have treated them differently. First, to know that others share our beliefs and doesn’t trash me any more than others with strong beliefs, is encouraging. Second, we “deep thinkers” can help each other find our way – both at pondering our thoughts of the divine without getting scared, and at containing those thoughts so one can live “normally” outside of the world’s system of “help.”

The problem with the world is they don’t care whether we give up our faith or cover it better, just that we had better not act in ways that confuse people who judge each other and find us wanting.

Know that anybody who judges you, judges themselves so if people think you are a blessing, it is not only because you in fact ARE a blessing, but the person observing has to have eyes to be able to recognize it. Thereby these people who write to you and consider your views valuable are not making them valuable but just affirming them – and affirming can go a long way as two or three together in God’s name can bring God into their presence.

Alan
 
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