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You say you’re not sorry, but by this do you mean you don’t feel sorry? If you recognize that you have sinned, reject the sin at least because you fear hell, and resolve to try your best to avoid the sin in the future, you have the contrition needed to be forgiven in confession. The feelings of remorse often associated with guilt are useful, but not required, because contrition is something you will, not feel.
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No I have not spoken to a priest. Yes I have been to confession.
I’m afraid of what is going to be said to me.
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If you have the kind of contrition mentioned above, just go to a priest for confession and get these sins absolved.

Oh, and since I’m not sure when you confessed last (i.e. if it was before or after this), don’t deliberately leave out a mortal sin in confession; that would be an additional mortal sin (if you were aware) and you would not receive forgiveness even for the sins you did confess. Yes, confessing can be uncomfortable. But the priest is not going to judge you for what you’ve done. He’s there so that you can be reconciled with the Lord in grace. He can help you through it, don’t worry.
 
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You are a child of God. Sin separates us from God and makes it harder for us to receive God’s graces. You must go to confession as soon as possible to reconcile. Once, you have done that it will be easier to not fall into sin again. Regular reception of the sacraments and prayer will help you in resisting sin. Do not be discouraged!
 
I’d start by paying less attention to “feelings”. Count how many times you used this word in your short post.

Feelings are like dogs. They are good, but they need an owner…the will and the intellect…otherwise they make messes wherever they go, just like dogs.

A good priest told me this…and he is so darn correct.

Whether it’s our “sexual attractions”…or our attractions to food…or drink…or “experiences”…or other forms of consolations (addicting to Facebook because of self mentions, etc.).

Attending to feelings self reinforces.
 
Some attractions absolutely are sinful.

We can tune our attractions, making them stronger, sharper, etc.

Gambling is an attraction.
Porn is an attraction.

We need clearer thinking in this forum.
 
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Some attractions absolutely are sinful.

We can tune our attractions, making them stronger, sharper, etc.

Gambling is an attraction.
Porn is an attraction.

We need clearer thinking in this forum.
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While true that both those things are attractions, it is not a sin to feel an inclination to gamble, nor is it a sin to have an inclination to look at porn. The only sin would arise in the following through on the attractions to those things. So the attractions are not themselves the sin, but can give rise to the sin if we do not remain vigilant.
 
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It’s a sin to nurse what is not good.

We aren’t automatons; we have a will and we need to exercise it continually toward the good…and it’s our intellect not our feelings that tell us what is good and true.
 
I’m having trouble figuring out what you’re trying to say? Are you saying that it is a sin to simply feel homosexual attraction?

As someone who suffers from SSA I can assure you that there is no way of “weakening” this attraction. The only thing you can do is accept it for what it is, and overcome it by not giving in to it. But there is no way of making it go away.

If I’m misunderstanding what you’re trying to say, my apologies.
 
I’m saying urges happen in little ways first.

And if they lead to pleasure they are reinforced and grow stronger and more directed.

50 years of behavioral psych -now conveniently forgotten by the academy and liberals - tell us about reinforcing behavior.
 
khall said:
I am attracted to girls and guys. It makes me feel really bad about myself. I feel bad because I am constantly living my life sinning but what makes me feel guilty is the fact that I am not sorry for it. I need help and do not know what to do. I want to fix this and get my life back in order and I need advice and your prayers please.
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daily rosary and mass, ascending for your intention
 
My own same sex(sexual) attraction has weakened as a result of processing shame, grief, and insecurities. So I would disagree here.
but yes, we need to be very clear that experiencing an attraction is not sinful.
 
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