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For a while now I have been plagued by weird fetishes and masturbation.
It seems like after I go to confession it just happens again. Something inside me tells me I can’t live without it, but I know I can. How do I break free?? Please pray for my sorry soul!!😦
 
Hail Mary conceived without sin
Pray for us who have recourse to thee!

Hail Mary conceived without sin
Pray for us who have recourse to thee!

Hail Mary conceived without sin
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Fallen_Lamb said:
For a while now I have been plagued by weird fetishes and masturbation.
It seems like after I go to confession it just happens again. Something inside me tells me I can’t live without it, but I know I can. How do I break free?? Please pray for my sorry soul!!😦
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Where there is a will, there is always a way Fallen Lamb .🙂
Avoid anything that might cause you to sin. I have in mind some movies, novels etc.
Call on the Holy Name of Jusus at such times and ask for His help. You are probably doing all this; if that is the case, persevere; You wil get there. Do not loss hope, do not dispair.
 
Identify the things that trigger your temptation. If its the internet, do something to address that. Ask your mom or Grandma to install a porn blocking software so they will get an email if you visit a bad site or try to guess their password.

If its something other than the computer, identify it. Find ways to avoid it or “desexify” it.

DO NOT LET YOUR GUARD DOWN! Even if you think you have it under control at some point! These things sneak up on you when you are at a moment of weakness!

Confide in someone you trust!

and of course…CONFESSION CONFESSION CONFESSION.

Daily Rosary **will **help as well!
 
Pray of course. Finding someone you can trust to confide is extremely important. If possible, find a person with professional counseling and a a Catholic orientation, can be most helpful. Remember always God loves us; Jesus died for us sinners.
Lord have mercy,
Christ have mercy,
Lord have mercy.
 
Learn to respect you body. Learn that your body is a gift to be given to your spouse, not a toy for you to enjoy at your own whim.

When you feel the urge to masturbate, get up and go do something. Immerse yourself in a crowd of people until the feeling passes. Try to think of non-sexual things. Pray, read a book, do a word puzzle or sudoku, take a walk…heck if need be…take the proverbial cold shower.

It will get easier, but you have to remember that the Evil One wants you to fail. The more you fail the more you open yourself up to the Evil One.

Definately go to confession. Go weekly…go every time you fall. We live in a society that tells us casual sex, porn, masturbation are all normal and okay…we as Catholics know that this is a lie.
 
Fallen_Lamb said:
For a while now I have been plagued by weird fetishes and masturbation.
It seems like after I go to confession it just happens again. Something inside me tells me I can’t live without it, but I know I can. How do I break free?? Please pray for my sorry soul!!😦
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BF and I will pray that you feel better and are not so distraught. 🙂

I’m not sure what you mean by “weird fetishes” however I have a thought that could be why you have them. Keep in mind this is only my opinion and I can be totally wrong here.

Maybe you have weird fetishes because you feel masturbation is such a sin and so wrong and dirty and disgusting. So since you feel that way, then when you are masturbating to “regular things” you have guilt that is being supressed by your hormones but in the back of your mind you still feel sinful, wrong, dirty, disgusting, etc. So when you search out the porn or fantasy or whatever you subconsciously search out something that society feels is wrong, dirty, disgusting, weirds, etc. as a means of dealing with your guilt that you don’t even is there at that time. You feel you ARE sinful, wrong, dirty, disgusting, etc.; so you search that out subconsciously thinking that is what you “deserve” to masturbate to.

So yeah that’s my possible take on it and my little bit of psychology. 😛 Could be totally wrong there and maybe those fetishes are just what you really are into. Keep in mind, if they are what you really are into, that’s fine. That’s just how you are. You can’t change “what floats your boat” but not all things that are fetishes should be acted out. Though some can, IMO.

For instance if your fetish is you love whip cream in bed, go for it. You love feet, fine. You think your dog’s sexy, NO WAY! Another thing that IMO is bad is BDSM. That can get some people, not all, to go down a “bad road”.

So just be careful what your fetishes are because if you get too trapped up in them, you may not be able to have a normal sex life when the time is right.
 
Fallen_Lamb said:
For a while now I have been plagued by weird fetishes and masturbation.
It seems like after I go to confession it just happens again. Something inside me tells me I can’t live without it, but I know I can. How do I break free?? Please pray for my sorry soul!!😦
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Be wary that not all who give advice in these threads know and/or obey Church teaching on matters involving faith and morals, even if they identify themselves as Catholic.

I suggest that you read the sticky above, “Specific Questions About an old Topic: Masturbation.” Here’s the link that you can click:

forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=208045

I hope that you learn a thing or two from the sticky thread that would help with the anxiety you feel about the issue of masturbation.

Peace.
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Hail Mary conceived without sin
Pray for us who have recourse to thee!

Hail Mary conceived without sin
Pray for us who have recourse to thee!

Hail Mary conceived without sin
Pray for us who have recourse to thee!
 
Fallen Lamb, the second you feel tempted to any kind of masturbation or fetishes or anything of the sort-the second you feel tempted, pray a Hail Mary. It helps. It honestly does. Say it as many times as you need to until that urge, that sinful temptation goes away. I do this when I’m tempted to commit a sin, (except for me, it’s just a different sin then yours…) Keep on praying until you feel strong again. Or, you can memorize the Saint Michael the Archangel prayer, and recite that as well. Or both. Have faith, my friend!
~Maria
 
All of your responses have instilled a thread of hope within me. I WILL BEAT THIS!!!
 
I like Theology of the Body to give a rational argument for the teachings of the Church about this - sometimes it is the rationalizing that empowers us to continue this sin.

I like the Rosary to gain the additional grace to combat this sin - but understand this is a hard battle and the enemy will increase your temptation before it allows this fight to be lost. Don’t give up faith, but endure in your resolution and your prayers.

The Dynamic Catholic show had a good episode about how to turn resolutions into character. I suspect it is available for download. Understand you are trying to to change a major component of your life.

I will include you in my prayers, this is not an easy walk - but one that is possible.
 
Fallen_Lamb said:
For a while now I have been plagued by weird fetishes and masturbation.
It seems like after I go to confession it just happens again. Something inside me tells me I can’t live without it, but I know I can. How do I break free?? Please pray for my sorry soul!!😦
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That “something inside you” is just Satan lying to you. It’s up to you whether or not you’ll believe those lies. With Christ, you can do ANYTHING. Just put your full trust in him, keep going to Confession (even if it seems like it’s not helping, because trust me, it is!), and you’ll learn to stop listening to those lies. It’ll take a while, so don’t expect anything immediate. That’s a fault of today’s society: anything we want, we want it yesterday. It’ll happen, just keep trying!! I’ll pray for you!
 
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