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Im really desperete at the moment. I have been struggling with masturbation since I was 5 and when I embraced Christianity to its fullest last year, I have not slowed down the tiniest bit. I need advice on what to do and what to read, etc etc. It really ashames me than in an entire year, I have done nothing but slowed it from once a day to once every 1-2 weeks.

I also suffer with SSA which often leads me to looking at SS pornographic material.
Please pray for me and share some advice; is there anyone on this forum that is struggling with this aswell? :(😦
 
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Im really desperete at the moment. I have been struggling with masturbation since I was 5 and when I embraced Christianity to its fullest last year, I have not slowed down the tiniest bit. I need advice on what to do and what to read, etc etc. It really ashames me than in an entire year, I have done nothing but slowed it from once a day to once every 1-2 weeks.

I also suffer with SSA which often leads me to looking at SS pornographic material.
Please pray for me and share some advice; is there anyone on this forum that is struggling with this aswell? :(😦
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Hello Scimitar60,

I will first type the Ave Maria before going into my opinion.

Ave Maria, gratia plena, Dominus tecum. Benedicta tu in mulieribus, et benedictus fructus ventris tui, Iesus. Sancta Maria, Mater Dei, ora pro nobis peccatoribus, nunc, et in hora mortis nostrae. Amen.

Now, first of all, I know I am not a qualified individual to “share some advice” with you, however I will go off words I heard a priest of mine tell a friend of mine, I am paraphrasing, The Priest first asked him if he tried hard to resist the temptation of masturbation. My friend responded positively. My Priest answered, then it cant be full consent of the will.

The priest then went on to say that this should NOT be used as an excuse, but instead a way to help us and to show us forgiveness. I am not saying he is right, but I am saying he knows a bit more than I do.

Also, I cannot stress enough the importance of three things: Prayer, confession and patience. Set up a routine that works where you openly confess your sins to a Priest. I, as a human, have had urges as well. However, I do not suffer from any illness, disorder, etc. that makes me more on the edge to succumb to such temptations. When I feel I am being tempted, I do not raise the white flag. I instead occupy myself with prayer or other chores.

I do not remember who said it, but it could never ring more true. “The Devil makes work for idle hands”

God’s love is everlasting.

~ Pius :knight1:
 
I am sorry you suffer so. And all sins can be hard habits to break.

there is possibly resources out there on the topic you can find. However, sometimes by putting effort into stopping a problem, we think about the problem which makes it a temptation.

Let me give you an example. I struggle with weight issues. So If I tell myself ‘I should go to the gym to loose weight’ then I am reminded I am overweight because I eat too much. Then I am reminded of all the fatty foods I love and I can and eat junk.

If I tell myself ‘I think I will go to the gym because I find aerobics so much fun and I can say ‘hi’ to my friends’ I still am exercising but my focus is different and I am less likely to eat junk

So, try and change your focus from ‘I will take a cold shower to resist’ to 'hhmmm I am going to me Joe at 3 perhaps I should shower to look presentable

Do you understand my point?

CM
 
Thank you both for your replys.

I feel like an idiot for not pointing out that I’m currently still in RCIA and cannot go to confession (as far as I know). Anything I can do instead?
 
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Thank you both for your replys.

I feel like an idiot for not pointing out that I’m currently still in RCIA and cannot go to confession (as far as I know). Anything I can do instead?
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You are quite welcome!

I will begin again with the Ave Maria.

Ave Maria, gratia plena, Dominus tecum. Benedicta tu in mulieribus, et benedictus fructus ventris tui, Iesus. Sancta Maria, Mater Dei, ora pro nobis peccatoribus, nunc, et in hora mortis nostrae. Amen.

Please remember I also said Praying and Patience. I also cannot stress enough the importance of the two. We all have our tests of faith, from me, to you, to Abraham, and even Jesus was tempted. You are not alone in your struggle. What I reccomend, primarily because it is what I do from time to time, is to research the lives Saints. not only is it fascinating it also gives you a goal, an objective, a rolemodel (not to mention a diversion).

God bless you.

~ Pius :knight1:
 
May I offer this: www.comepraytherosary.org .Praying the Rosary daily is very powerful and will over time, be a big help.Don’t be to hard on yourself.Thank God for any progress with this problem.The best way to overcome sin is through the opposite Virture.Talk to your Priest,you are not going to shock him or say anything he has never heard.I will be praying for you,Rocky.
 
Thanks for the replies again,

I was actually in the process of learning how to pray the Rosary not to long ago… I just got lazy I suppose. That will become my priority.

Anyone know any good books on the Saints?
 
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