Please I need advice

[synlly]

Prayer partners i don’t know if this is the right place but i really need advice.I have this boy i really want to marry.But the job he has is not a good one.We are planning to get married;I have no job myself.My mom thinks he cannot take care of a family which is true because the pay is too small;Her condition is we both get good jobs before she can give me out for marrige.Without that we will have to wait.We do not know God’s plans,it could be that God is planing to bless us with great jobs after the wedding.i am really confused .I don’t have the courage to talk to her to tell her what i fell.I really want to get married tito this boy.Please advice me on what to do.Thanks in advance

 

[reindeer]

Hail Mary,full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women and
blessed is the Fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners
now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

 

[Trishie]

Our God, You know if in Your wisdom You wish in any way differently for the true good of synlly and the boy she is attracted towards. You can see ahead, not we, and sometimes You speak through good parents though not for the reason they might think.
But we ask Your kindness and wisdom, and Your enlightenment in this wish of synlly’s heart. May Your love be best served in how things unfold.
Mother Mary we ask Your maternal prayer for synlly and all concerned

 

[Jim_Dandy]

Your mother is correct. Don’t even think of getting married until you and your intended are financially stable. Marriage is very difficult with many challenges, including children. Your happiness will soon fade if you are not financially prepared. Most divorces (half of all marriages end in divorce) are caused by fights over financial problems.

 

[puzzleannie]

Prayer partners i don’t know if this is the right place but i really need advice.I have this boy i really want to marry.But the job he has is not a good one.We are planning to get married;I have no job myself.My mom thinks he cannot take care of a family which is true because the pay is too small;Her condition is we both get good jobs before she can give me out for marrige.Without that we will have to wait.We do not know God’s plans,it could be that God is planing to bless us with great jobs after the wedding.i am really confused .I don’t have the courage to talk to her to tell her what i fell.I really want to get married tito this boy.Please advice me on what to do.Thanks in advance

if you want prayer, you have it, and this is your forum
if you want advice, try family life
if you really are boy and girl, not man and woman, and not finished with your education and established in jobs that can support a family, and not emotionally mature so you are not “given out” in marriage by a parent, then you are not ready for marriage

remember we can only give advice based on what you say here. so without more info, that advice is wait, pray, and prepare for adult life as a Catholic wife and mother.

 

[midori]

What is the purpose of being raised by a family? Is it to keep from starving until you’re old enough to find someone you love?

You live with your family while you learn to be an adult. You get to graduate from your family and become independent after you are able to provide all those things for yourself that your family previously provided for you: having a job, keeping a budget, being able to plan meals and cook. An education is important for your chances at a decent-paying job-- how far along are you in your education? Transportation is important in keeping a job as well-- can you afford gas and car insurance on top of your vehicle if you live in a place where there’s no mass transit?

Once you are confident in your ability to live as an adult for yourself, then you can worry about living as an adult for others-- whether it’s for a husband, or for children.

So give yourself a goal. Pitch in around the house and show your mom you’re interested in learning how to run a household like an adult. If you’re not pursuing education, then look for a job-- not just a minimum wage job, but something that you could feasibly pay rent, pay water, pay electric, and buy groceries with even if your husband ended up being laid off. Don’t spend it. Put it into savings. And, of course, pray that God helps you along the path that he knows is best for you.

Good luck!

 

[fixxer]

My advice is pray about it and take it one day at time, be patient. Things change daily, take today as it is not as you want it to be. You can still plan for the future but you don’t know what tomorrow brings. Seeking advice from your mother and others, like here, is good. Prayer is important, if you really love each other waiting won’t hurt if it’s God’s will He will guide you on when and how. Pray. Visit the Blessed Sacrament if you can. Even if you are not catholic, perhaps you can find a catholic who can help you visit a catholic chapel/church. Sometimes God’s voice is just a whisper, sometimes a roar, be open to Him He is waiting.
God Bless,
fixxer

 

[Soldier_Of_God]

If your love for this man is true, it will endure a little waiting. You want to make sure that your marriage is successful so it won’t hurt to make sure you are financially set. A major cause of marital break-up is over money problems due to the antagonism it can fuel. I will pray for you…

Our Father, Who art in heaven
Hallowed be Thy Name;
Thy kingdom come,
Thy will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us;
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

 

[244Rocket]

Praying.

 

[ready]

Lord, please grant Synlly patience, strength, courage and peace. Help her to pray as if everything depends on you and to work as if everything depends on her. May she continue to grow in the virtues until she can be married to Vally. Amen.