Please, I Need Your Help

[VetA]

Sorry, I am willing to bet if I were privy to what has gone on in those people’s life I would find the underlying problem. People do not always (probably rarely) tell others about the darker sides of their lives even if they are the victims. I don’t suggest that you try to get to the bottom of it. In fact if you tried to do so you would most probably be out of line.

Annie

now you are trying to say that you know that my family members and friends were abused or had ‘underlying problems’ you need to get off your pedestal, me and those two cousins grew up together, i can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt that nothing happened to them or me. as i have said you seem to have a high opinion of yourself and what you ‘know.’ just because of the experiences you’ve had make something seem one way that does not make it true for everyone else in the world. as for my aunt and uncle other than growing up poor nothing happened, if your logic held up my father and five other aunts and uncles would be gay.so would i. just because you are poor when you grow up does not make you gay, as i have said that was the only ‘underlying problem’ that my family had

 

[Travelfar]

Thanks again so much for all of the helpful responses! I feel so blessed that there are people out there who genuinely want to help me. The reason why I want a family and children is because I do not want to be alone someday. I love children and am a very loving person. I hope to meet a girl who is also a devout Catholic.

VetA, I really really appreciate you sticking up for me. (Edited) Sexuality is biological. (Edited) The fact that you responded VetA really made my day and I hope God blesses you for it.

Also, God Bless the rest of you for being so kind to me.

 

[anthony022071]

Travelfar,

Sexuality is not ultimately determined by biology,because it is our mind,which is spirit, that animates our genetic material and is the source of our sexual inclinations. Homosexuality is a manifestation of original sin,like depression. You should pray the rosary,the divine mercy chaplet and novenas every day,attend mass daily and practice Euchariristic devoltion. This will purify you of your inclination. Don’t be discouraged by shame and guilt. It’s just a temptation,not a fault of your own doing.

 

[UnreadApologist]

The reason why I want a family and children is because I do not want to be alone someday.

Forgive me for saying as I must: I believe this to be a flawed reason for wanting a family. Some of the best spiritual counsel ever given to me is that we should make our decisions out of our love for Christ, not out of fear. This sounds very much as if it is a fear decision. You are afraid of being alone. But you need not fear. God is always with you, even when you do not feel him. You are not alone, and cannot be alone in this life. He is right beside you, even within you.

Again, I urge you to find a qualified spiritual director and work with him on figuring out and then pursuing your vocation. Remember that your vocation is how you love God the best, and thus it is a very important facet of your life. Perhaps you are called to have a family, but first you will need to come to the real reason for such a vocation, which is to share God’s joy and love. Joy and Love are expansive, they burst outwards and spread to others, even create others to spread to. Fear and hate are that which contract, and bring a person in upon himself. I’m afraid that if you marry out of fear, your marriage will leave you far more lonely, ultimately.