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Well, he went back on his word and told his brother. Now I need prayers that our friendship is repaired from this. My emotions have gone back to feeling as they were after it happened, and I had been doing much better.
 
You don’t have to pray for our friendship to recover. He said some things that I can never forgive him for. We are no longer friends.
 
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I thought when you mentioned the mom you thing you might mean that. Thank you for everything you have said. The whole pregnancy thing is scaring me so much because I guess this is when I’m most likely to get pregnant. So yeah. I’m doing much better than I was yesterday. I’ve decided to try to not freak out and if something comes of it, I’ll deal with it then.
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Yep, you are most fertile between about 21 and about 28, but that’s to worry about before you make the mistake. Now you either have a baby or have none. You can’t do anything about it now but eat right and prepare until the test comes back. When you know, you know what to do. If you are pregnant, be the best mother you can be. If not, just don’t do it again. I am proud of you for making that mistake only once at 21. You know how this happened; you were trying to be a tease. That is, you followed the cultural trend to use a hyper kind of sexuality to make people like you. Now you know that that is not a liberated attitude. It is a degraded one. You know better. Older and wiser is something at least. I’m so sorry no one helped you prepare for this confusing situation earlier. But we’re pulling for you.
 
Thanks for what you said. I’m usually not a tease, too. Usually I’m a complete prude. So yeah, this is what I’m dealing with now. Right now I’m just trying to get in contact with the guy, he’s ignoring me, because he doesn’t know that his brother knows. I want to warn him and make sure he knows his brother tricked me into telling him. Yeah, it didn’t happen how I said earlier. My ex bestfriend lied and said his brother told him. On Tuesday I’m going to a clinic to make sure everything’s ok. I told one of my sisters, and she’s going with me. Now the praying is more that my best friend can try and get past this and still be friends and that I didn’t get anything from this.
 
Dear psr…I doubt if one person here on CAF does not have something in their past they wish had not happened. We really do share a common humanity. I can ‘hear’ however the depth of your unhappiness re this mistake and where your virginity is concerned. God hears it far far better than I and knows your heart, which strikes me as gentle and sincere.
While you are not "a member of the Catholic Church as of yet" - there is nothing at all to prevent you from ringing the Catholic Parish House and simply asking if you could talk to a priest. You dont HAVE to be a Catholic to have a heart to heart with a Catholic priest. We are all, all of us, God’s children. If you dont feel comfortable with this, how about seeking out a counsellor. It can be a difficult thing to bring oneself to do in some cases, but very often a little bit of counselling and advice and you will start to feel more comfortable about things. Self forgiveness can be hardest forgiveness of all and it must be dreadfully hard for the loss of your virginity is involved and after you had firmly decided to keep it intact until marriage. This must indeed be hard for you.

I will pray you will find comfort and consolation - you have simply made a mistake. We all do somewhere or other.

God’s many blessings and consolations…warm regards - Barb:)
http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/16/16_14_5.gifJMJ
 
I do need to go to counselling for other reasons. I’m waiting until school starts back up on September 20 so that it’s free, though. I had forgiven myself until my ex friend acted the way he did. For a few days it was really hard to let go of him. I still haven’t let go of him, but it is getting easier to deal with the loss. Today the brother finally responded to a text. He was even more of a jerk than when he was ignoring me. He said he didn’t mean to be mean but he doesn’t care that my life is now completely screwed up. Oh, I don’t want to be mean. Whatever. If worst comes to worst I have things that I can tell the cops that’ll get him arrested, where he belongs. However, I have decided that if I am pregnant, I will do whatever I can to not have him in the child’s life because he would not be a good influence. I would be ok with his being there if at least his mom, not just his dad, was in the same room.
 
(((hugs))) Praying for you, and for a good report from the health clinic. We have all made mistakes, every one of us, but our Heavenly Father loves us! He knows that you are not yet Catholic, and the fact that you are wanting to confess to a priest anyway is a good sign of your sincere desire to make things right with Him. You* will* get through this, believe me. You can start over this very minute, making a conscious choice to never fall for the devil’s lies about premarital sex again. Hang in there and God bless you.
 
Well, I got my period today. So, I’m not pregnant, and all the STD tests were negative. That’s good.
 
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Well, I got my period today. So, I’m not pregnant, and all the STD tests were negative. That’s good.
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Oh, dear…thank God.

When I was a little younger than you, I did the same thing :o and what was so horrible, my mom threatened to make me have an abortion if I were pregnant.

Just make sure it’s a full, normal cycle. Okay?
 
Well, mine only last three days. If it only lasts like one day is that a problem? Does that mean that I could still be pregnant if it only lasts a day or two or something?
 
Forgive yourself and accept that we are all human and make mistakes. However, you must speak to a priest and, I agree with many here, find another parish and time to seek a priest’s help and guidance. The Devil loves nothing more than to throw us off track and, like you, I have been in a similar situation. It’s tough to avoid the temptations around us, but if we persevere in faith and seek prayerful guidance, we can accomplish anything.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers…
 
Prayers coming your way, but here’s a bit of hard-earned advice: Do NOT slip into despair and think things like, “Well, too late to be good now. Might as well enjoy my new identity as a terrible sinner…” Now that this line has been crossed, it’ll be a lot easier to do so in the future. Just don’t do it. Resolve to be strong and you won’t compound your despair.
 
No worries. I have no plans at all on having sex anytime soon. I am a bit concerned because my period is way lighter than it usually it. The first day is always my heaviest, too.
 
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No worries. I have no plans at all on having sex anytime soon. I am a bit concerned because my period is way lighter than it usually it. The first day is always my heaviest, too.
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Our emotions can do crazy things to our periods, so don’t freak out over this. Hang in there!
 
I’m not completely freaking out. It’s just that my period is about one-fifth what it normally is.
 
If you have any doubts, it wouldn’t hurt to do to home PG test anyway. Praying for you still!

Montanaman brings up a good point. Now that you have crossed that line, it’s much easier to do it again. Right now you are still hurt by what happened, but as time passes, you may meet somebody new and fall in love. Stay strong and don’t make the mistake that I made, thinking, “oh well, I’m not a virgin anymore anyhow, so what the heck?” All that kind of thinking brought me was a bad reputation and shameful memories…and an earful for the priest when I finally repented and went to confession! :o
 
:crossrc: I will be praying for you. I hope that you can resolve your issues. You are still young, you should make better choices for yourself and your future. Sex is a big resposibilty, and without thinking things through. A person can end up pregnant, STD’s, and HIV. Please remember this the next time you have sex.

God Bless,

Gladys

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