Please Pray for me and my family

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Tonight my wife was supposed to come home after being in a drug treatment center for 6 months. Then she called and said that she wasn’t coming home, and she wouldn’t tell me where she was going. We have three boys, 8, 2 and 1. I am so upset I feel like I am going explode. I don’t know what to do, other than prayer. I am so scared. It sounds like our marriage is over, I think she is with another man. That hurts too much to tell. Please help me.
 
Dude.

Serious bummer. I can’t even imagine what you’re going through; I have six children. I do hope you’re wrong about the other man part.

I can pray, and I can listen. You are welcome to send me PM.

Alan
 
I’m praying for you! and your family… and your wife!

All I can do to help you is to pray for you… and offer you encouragement.

As Jesus continually says…

do not be afraid!

Unless, of course, you can’t help it. If you ARE afraid… please take a deep breath. Then, ask our Lord and His mother to be with her, to keep her safe.

I am doing just that for you, right now.

It just might be that for her healing she needs to take some time away.

God IS with her!

God IS with you!

God IS with your children!

I’m praying…

Please let us know how it goes. Even if you’re still afraid…

PLEASE stay in touch.

I love you. And others here on this board, I’m sure, love you too!

P.S. May I suggest that you say some extra rosaries, especially when you’re afraid. They do a body good!
 
I am really sorry to hear what has happened. 😦

I will definitely pray for you and your family. I’ll say a rosary with that intention in fact.

I really recommend that you contact your parish priest and/or a good friend. Don’t go through this alone. Contact friends and any good relatives for support.

Perhaps the best thing to do right now is not to jump to conclusions; and, at the same time, not to create false hopes. Try to be patient, pray and rely on the support of others during this difficult situation.

I’m sure that if you need more help there are lay as well as religious individuals on these forums who would be glad to give you guidance.
 
Hey…this is very sad and tragic…but do you know for sure she is with another man? Maybe she has fallen off of the wagon and just wants some more drugs…Your marriage is not over. We need to be optimists instead of pessemists…I am praying very hard for you and your family now. Drugs have a tendency to control people and cause them to do things they normally wouldn’t do…trust me, I know. My ex had a drug problem and I had an alchohol problem, but thank God I have defeated it…when drugs/alcohol become their primary concern…their culpability diminishes…but that doesn’t excuse them. I will say some prayers for you and your family…I will pray for the intercession of St. Jude to help your wife in what seems to be a “lost cause”. God Bless, Sonny
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Tonight my wife was supposed to come home after being in a drug treatment center for 6 months. Then she called and said that she wasn’t coming home, and she wouldn’t tell me where she was going. We have three boys, 8, 2 and 1. I am so upset I feel like I am going explode. I don’t know what to do, other than prayer. I am so scared. It sounds like our marriage is over, I think she is with another man. That hurts too much to tell. Please help me.
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Dear Dad,
I’ll offer my Rosary tonight and Mass tomorrow for you and your family. I pray God will give you His peace that passes understanding.
 
Dear friend,

Turn it all over to Our Lord. He is working in your life, your wife’s life, and your childrens’ lives. He is working even when it doesn’t seem like he is. Let him love you, your wife, your children. Trust that he will see you through this time, and all times. His arms are around all of you right now and always. As they say in AA and NA, *If God brings you to it He’ll bring you through it. *Believe. All of you are in good hands. Hang on tight! 🙂
 
You are in my prayers! Do not despair. You may feel like your life is out of control right now but it is not. God is in charge, do not be afraid. All you can see is how bleak things look right now but God has you and your wife in his care.

As Jesus prayed in the garden that “this cup pass from me” but “your will not mine be done”. Trust in God my friend, as scary and painful as this situation right now. God is the only one that will never let us down.

There was a point in my marriage where I thought it was over, we hung on by a thread but here we are 7 years later very blessed to have our relationship healed.

Pray and trust my friend. I can give you an example in my own life that scares me if I start to despair. I have a life threatening heart condition and will need a transplant within the next few years. I’m only 32 and have 9 year old daughter. With transplant there a 50% chance of survival, which means thre’s also a 50% chance I could die. If I do not say to myself “God is in chage, it his plan not mine” I can easliy fall into a panic. But I have to remind myself he is in charge.

Hug your children and pray for your wife, what ever the outcome you will ok I promise you that. God Bless you.
 
pray for her, and get your kids praying for her, so they understand they too can be doing something to help her. we are all praying for you and your family.
 
I just wanted thank those who responded to my post. My wife admitted today to breaking our marriage vows with a man in the treatment center. I feel like I want to die. I want to hate her but I have loved her so much for so long, that I feel sorry for her. But I also am afraid for me, and my health. My wife and I came together a couple of times since she’s been there if you know what I mean. I can’ stop thinking about my wife sleeping with another man and I think I am going to lose my mind. That thought does something to me that I can’t put into words other that comlete anguish and insanity. And the more details I think the worse it is. Please God Help Me!!!
 
I am sorry for the painful situation you are in. Is it possible that you and your wife could attend a Retrouvaille weekend? Is she willing to work on your marriage? A marriage can recover from this, trust me I know.

It’s something I don’t share usually but my husband confessed to being unfaithful when we were having very serious marriage problems. It happen years earlier while he was serving in the military and I had no idea at the time. I made him stop before he gave me the where, when, with who or for how long. I didn’t want to know exactly when in my memory I thought we were fine and instead my husband was living a lie. I still don’t want to know. If I would have found out immediately afterward I can’t imagine how much harder it would have been. Part of me just wanted to punch my husband, but despite all the pain and tears I still loved him very much.

At the time I found out my husband had developed a friendship with a women at an AA meeting that was heading in the same direction. We went to retrovaille and thankfully that put our marriage on the road to recovery. But it about three years before I began to trust my husband again. Do not let your wife tell you anything else about this particular incident it will only add to your pain.You may think you want to ask questions but trust me you really don’t want to hear the answers.

Since this had happened years earlier in our marriage I would have been much happier if my husband had never told me about it, and I wish I could erase it from my memory. But I have healed and I have forgiven him completely. He is a very different person today than he was then. I think Retrovaille is the best thing for marraiges in dire situations. I will continue to keep you in my prayers. God will help you my friend. The deeper the suffering the closer we are to Christ on the cross. Draw close to him, he will get you through this. You have your children that need you especially now.

I’m sure you feel like your living a nightmare, but nightmares don’t last forever. One day you will wake up and the sun will come out again. Life is always that way, don’t lose hope. God Bless!

retrouvaille.org/
link to Retrouvaille
 
I will pray for you. Drugs are very powerful and very hard to overcome. I hope she can overcome them and be the wife and mother she is supposed to be for you and your children.

You are right to be concerned about your health and should she make an effort to make things right, you will have to insist that testing be a priority. You are the rock in your childrens’ lives and they can’t lose you too!

Should she want to make the effort, Retrouvaille is a good program.
 
Not sure where in Baltimore you are, but find a good priest to talk to. He can pray with you and help you sort this out. How devastating. I’ll pray, too. —KCT
 
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Not sure where in Baltimore you are, but find a good priest to talk to. He can pray with you and help you sort this out. How devastating. I’ll pray, too. —KCT
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Um… hate to say it, but you must get tested for HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases.

**NOW.

While you’re still in shock. Putting it off won’t make it any easier.**

And you’ll be glad that you did get tested. Either way.

She has to get tested, too.

I know this is a good thing to do even if you hope it ain’t so because my husband and I got tested several years after we got married. We were each others’ only sex partners since we met. Yet, we both had a history of at least one person before we met.

**Please, ** get tested, at least for yourself. Or your children’s sake.

:gopray: :gopray2: ❤️ :twocents:
 
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