Please pray for my relationship...

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Hello.

It’s been a few months since I broke off a long term relationship. For reasons beyond my personal control (like my parents not approving of it), and also tensions within the relationship such as difference in characther, disagreements, me not getting along with her friends. I know that the reason why this did not work was because I did not put enough effort into it… and I know that the breakup has left her totatlly crushed. totally.

I miss my ex dearly, but I am still confused as to what direction God wants me to take in this. One side of me is telling me to move on, the other side is also telling me to swallow my pride, win her heart and try to make things work again.

I tried to suppress it, but the feeling is becoming stronger each day… especially the missing part. I have a hunch that as always, God wants me to endure in suffering and take the path of the cross. Its always the cross… (when are we ever free from it sigh)… but I need to clearly know what path I should take.

I tried to talk to God about it, prayed over it via adoration and the rosary but I still don’t know. It’s been like this for months now but I still don’t have a definite answer. I feel that if I delay any longer, that I might lose her for good.

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Are you old enough to be considering marriage to this person?

If so, would you ever consider speaking with a couple from your marriage preparation program in your parish? Even though you are not engaged, perhaps trying again with an objective third party, someone who is in tune with what it takes to make a relationship work, might be helpful/productive in discerning if you two would be compatible life-long partners.

Or maybe reading some marriage-oriented books together by someone like Gregory Popcak (Catholic, doctoral degree in pastoral counseling) and then discussing them could help the two of you see what strong points you do/would share as a couple, and what weak points need some work.

Popcak’s books include For Better…Forever! A Catholic Guide to Lifelong Marriage, and The Exceptional Seven Percent: The Nine Secrets of the World’s Happiest Couples.
 
Here’s a perspective from a bitter divorcee (me).

I wish that I had broken it off with my ex, for similar reasons to the ones you cite (differences, disagreements, not get along with her parents), and either found someone else, or stayed single, instead of marrying her. She would have been mighty hurt if I’d done this, but in the end I was hurt much more, and had a lot more damage to clear up.

Also, please be very wary of any sexual needs which might be drawing you into the relationship, even if you intend to remain chaste with her. These feelings can be very deceptive.

I will pray for you, and your discernment here.
 
Lord God, please bless TemplarKnight1 with wisdom and knowledge. Please let him know in ways he truly understands Your plan for him and his ex. AMEN.
 
I am definitely praying that God bless you with the wisdom to make the right choice and that you are blessed with happiness with whichever decisions

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,The Lord is with Thee.
Blessed art thou amongst women, and
Blessed is the Fruit of thy womb Jesus.
Holy Mary Mother of God,
Pray for us Sinners, now and at the our of death. Amen

Keep your head up, Believe Miracles do happen, God Bless you:)
 
Praying for your intentions….

Lord Jesus, You have said, “Learn from me, for I am meek and humble of heart.” With confidence in Your loving heart which offers rest to weary souls, we come to You in this time of special need. In Your unfailing love, read the prayer that is written on our hearts, and grant the grace that we ask of You, in accordance with Your holy will. In Your name we pray. Amen.

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, and sought thy intercession, was left unaided. Inspired with this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother, to thee I come, before thee I stand sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate! Despise not my petitions, but, in thy mercy, hear and answer me. Amen.
 
Mother Mary, I commend TemplarKnight1 to you. Please help him to properly discern. May he do what he thinks our Lord wills for him and his friend. May he do whatever is best for his and his friend’s soul. Amen.
 
Loving God please give healing and guidance.
May Your loving will be fulfilled.
 
haily mary full of grace the lord is with thee blessed are thou amongst woman and blessed is the fruit of thy womb jesus holy mary mother of god pray for us sinners now and at the horus of our death, amen.
 
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