Please pray for our marriage

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Hi, I am a Catholic after being what I call a luke warm Catholic for the last 12 years. It took my marriage separation to bring me back to God. My husband told me that he doesn’t love me anymore and we are separated but living together still. He is not religious and never has been, although he has attended church with me until now. I am asking for anyone’s prayers for my marriage to heal and for my husband to reconsider as I love him very much and do not want a divorce or this separation. I am glad that God has lead me back to him as I am privileged that he wants me to follow him. But, I do not want to lose my marriage and I pray for this as well as my husband to find God also, as it is the best foundation for our marriage which has been lacking in the last 12 years.
 
Lord, lay your healing hands down on this family and give them what they need. Amen.
 
Thank you for your prayers Omegapd. I am doing all I can to give him space and be loving at the same time. But it is hard and I know there will be nothing in return from him. But, I will build my love and devotion to God and I look forward to feeling God’s comfort and love at this very trying time.
 
Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

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Holy Mother, please intercede for us.
Hold the sorrowful, strengthen the fearful,
give aid to all needing help or healing,
assist those who are sick, in pain or suffering,
be with those needing peace, console the lonely,
comfort the lost or hopeless, guard the unborn,
pray for those who are dying or who have died,
protect those in danger, guide us from evil,
soften those with hardened hearts,
enlighten those who do not yet see truth;
may all who keep your sacred commemoration
experience the might of your assistance.
Amen.
 
Thank you Starryheart. It has been two months since we separated and he has been very hostile and mean. But, more recently, he can be nice to me. But, he will not try to work things out. I almost thought he was having an affair, or suffering from PTSD as he has suffered childhood trauma (He was reminded of this recently after blocking it out), and he is ex-military, and has seen things that I know are not nice. I am told by him that he is in counselling for stress through his work, but I have no way of proving this. He has shut me out completely, and can get very aggressive and annoyed if I try to find out what is really wrong. We have no children.

We haven’t had the easiest of marriages as we argued, more so during stressful periods: (He hates his job, he had a near fatal accident last year, he started studying for a degree, he was told about his Mother’s abuse who died when he was 15, he lost his favourite dog suddenly to cancer, I had to stop work last year because of bullying at my work, and haven’t been able to find a job since). So there are a lot of issues with him, and he said that he needs to fix himself and can’t have relationships. We have been together 12 years and married for 8 years! He is a good man, i just can’t figure out why he wants to end the relationship. He hasn’t asked for a divorce, but says it’s inevitable. We just sleep in different rooms and he acts withdrawn unless I am patient and do not ask any questions, then he acts as normal like watching tv with me etc. But nothing else. It’s as if he is my roommate. He said I deserve better, but he can’t understand that all I want is him. It doesn’t matter we don’t own a house and are not rich. But he will not open up, and I am lost as to what to do, except pray.

I am praying for clarity and for God to show me what I need to do. I am not sure as I am so confused and feel as if I am on a rollercoaster. If he is having a mid life crisis, it’s the strangest one I have ever seen!

Thank you all for your prayers.
 
Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Thank you janefromengland and tbcrawford for your special prayers.
 
Memorare

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary,
that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother!
To thee do I come, before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful.
O Mother of the word Incarnate, despise not my petitions,
But in thy clemency hear and answer me.
Amen.
 
Lord, by your Spirit and grace, heal this matrimony and bestow on this couple graces for love, humility, faith, and fortitude. Send angels with them every step for the rest of their lives. Form them into a shining example of a marriage bond, the image of your espousal to your Bride the Church. Lead this couple to you now and forever and keep them close to you in good times or bad. Mary, pray with us. Amen. :gopray2:
 
Devoted73 said:
Hi, I am a Catholic after being what I call a luke warm Catholic for the last 12 years. It took my marriage separation to bring me back to God. My husband told me that he doesn’t love me anymore and we are separated but living together still. He is not religious and never has been, although he has attended church with me until now. I am asking for anyone’s prayers for my marriage to heal and for my husband to reconsider as I love him very much and do not want a divorce or this separation. I am glad that God has lead me back to him as I am privileged that he wants me to follow him. But, I do not want to lose my marriage and I pray for this as well as my husband to find God also, as it is the best foundation for our marriage which has been lacking in the last 12 years.
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I am sure that many here will offer a lot of prayers for your family situation but I was in the same situation and I am now divorced/annulled. It was the best thing that happened to me. He would have continually come between me and God…partially his doing, partially mine.

The proper prayer isn’t “save my marriage”…I found that out. The proper prayer is “Thy will be done with this marriage”. Then you can move forward regardless. You cannot make someone love you who does not love you. You really don’t want him to stay if he truly doesn’t want to and doesn’t love you, do you?

If things can work out, God bless you both but sometimes God’s greatest gifts are the unanswered prayers.
 
Thank you MarcoPolo for your prayers.

Irishgal79, I totally hear you. I have been praying for God’s will to be revealed to me too. Whichever way it goes, I will follow. I am working hard to develop my relationship with God which has suffered in recent years. However, I do love my husband and I believe he loves me, and has shown me signs of kindness and caring recently that a man who does not love his wife and wants a separation, will not do. But, I think he doesn’t want to take back what he said and is being careful. I am just giving everything over to God, and all in God’s time. What will be will be. I am not going to be the one filing for divorce and he is happy for me to live in the house until next June, although I thought I can’t possibly last that long like this!

I will hopefully have a happy outcome and will keep you posted.
 
Hail Mary full of grace, The Lord is with Thee, Blessed art Thou amongst women and blessed is the fruit of Thy womb Jesus. Holy Mary Mother of God, Pray for us sinners. Now and at the hour of our death. Amen

Loving Mother. Please save this marriage.
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To all who have said prayers for me, I am eternally grateful.

I forgot to say to Irishgal79, my husband has never come between me and God. In fact, he quite encouraged it. Even now, he still asks if I will be going to church on Sunday, and seems interested in how it went, which I gladly tell him. Just forgot to mention.🙂
 
Devoted73 said:
To all who have said prayers for me, I am eternally grateful.

I forgot to say to Irishgal79, my husband has never come between me and God. In fact, he quite encouraged it. Even now, he still asks if I will be going to church on Sunday, and seems interested in how it went, which I gladly tell him. Just forgot to mention.🙂
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Well that’s good. In my case my ex was Jewish and was angry when I returned to the Church but I actually didn’t return until I moved out. He got aggressive and I had to leave. But turning it over to God is the right thing to do and whatever His will is, He will give you the strength whichever way it goes. Blessings to you both!
 
Irishgal49 said:
Well that’s good. In my case my ex was Jewish and was angry when I returned to the Church but I actually didn’t return until I moved out. He got aggressive and I had to leave. But turning it over to God is the right thing to do and whatever His will is, He will give you the strength whichever way it goes. Blessings to you both!
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I am sorry to hear that. Sounds like you had a very hard time and did what was best in the end with God’s direction. Thank you for your prayers.
 
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