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johnzitro2014
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I am asking for help in learning how to cope with someone who is constantly tormenting me about my love life. I know it may sound strange to many of you especially coming from a single guy like me.
All my life I have never really been able to attach closely with either gender’s, no I am not gay or a transgender, I am neutral in that I’m just not attracted to guys or girls.
With that being said I have made “friends” with this person, who is married and has four children, and just recently I was awaken by a reality that he never was a friend.
Like a relationship a friendship takes two people and when one person doesn’t talk about anything but only see’s you as a joke and never stands up for you when harassed by others but only laughs at things that amuse him, it gets old after a while and rather hurtful.
The one main thing that makes my skin boil is his constant questions about my love life, ignoring all other questions I’ve asked to improve our friendship, such us how is his family and making clear some doubts about his own married life he just wants to talk girls and sex and it makes me mad.
Now, I’ve never been amused with all the high fives and whatever else men do whenever they “nail a girl” as they call it or kind give you the nudges when a pretty girl walks in, in fact, it’s down right annoying.
Most times when I ask a girl out I am always put down so I just stopped doing it all together and never bother making friends with girls only because I am annoyed by people nudging me and saying “hey, isn’t she pretty, why don’t you ask her out”
I am not gay, I am not anti women I just have a hard time connecting with people in general and when a married man asks me (just so they can get a laugh out of it) how my love life I want to punch him.
Why, because most married men who point to girls walking alone at shopping centers and or sitting alone at bars are trying two things. Frist, he is trying to convince me how sexy she looks so I could to get her number Why would I want to get her number if I am not interested?)
Secondly , they try and make me say some sexual remark just so they can get a laugh out of it and these married men who do this are usually the one’s who’s own marriage is going down the tube.
So, I ask for help and how to properly address this issue without offending him. I don’t want to hurt the guy I just want him to realize how much I dislike his actions and questions.
Thank you
All my life I have never really been able to attach closely with either gender’s, no I am not gay or a transgender, I am neutral in that I’m just not attracted to guys or girls.
With that being said I have made “friends” with this person, who is married and has four children, and just recently I was awaken by a reality that he never was a friend.
Like a relationship a friendship takes two people and when one person doesn’t talk about anything but only see’s you as a joke and never stands up for you when harassed by others but only laughs at things that amuse him, it gets old after a while and rather hurtful.
The one main thing that makes my skin boil is his constant questions about my love life, ignoring all other questions I’ve asked to improve our friendship, such us how is his family and making clear some doubts about his own married life he just wants to talk girls and sex and it makes me mad.
Now, I’ve never been amused with all the high fives and whatever else men do whenever they “nail a girl” as they call it or kind give you the nudges when a pretty girl walks in, in fact, it’s down right annoying.
Most times when I ask a girl out I am always put down so I just stopped doing it all together and never bother making friends with girls only because I am annoyed by people nudging me and saying “hey, isn’t she pretty, why don’t you ask her out”
I am not gay, I am not anti women I just have a hard time connecting with people in general and when a married man asks me (just so they can get a laugh out of it) how my love life I want to punch him.
Why, because most married men who point to girls walking alone at shopping centers and or sitting alone at bars are trying two things. Frist, he is trying to convince me how sexy she looks so I could to get her number Why would I want to get her number if I am not interested?)
Secondly , they try and make me say some sexual remark just so they can get a laugh out of it and these married men who do this are usually the one’s who’s own marriage is going down the tube.
So, I ask for help and how to properly address this issue without offending him. I don’t want to hurt the guy I just want him to realize how much I dislike his actions and questions.
Thank you