Please pray to Holy Family for healing of my parents' miserable marriage

[joshrp]

Hi,

I just want everyone to pray for a healing of misery in my parent’s marriage. Both my parents have always been two of the most miserable people I have ever known. I say this to stress the urgency of your prayers for their healing. My dad is just the meanest person I can think of. He wants everyone to know how miserable he is, and he wants everyone to be as miserable as he is. My mom tries to be kind, but she thinks that because she feels miserable, she has the right to treat others like dirt. She constantly bugs me and my brother to help her do things around the house, and then when we help her, all she does is act like a tyrant and insult us and swear and complain about us and our father, and I am just sick of it. I can’t handle it anymore. Recently I’ve discovered a pattern. As soon as I start driving home at the end of the day I become extremely miserable, just like they are. There is nothing I can seem to do to help them. They just keep demanding and demanding, and they don’t seem to have any belief that there is any merit in trying to be decent to their children. My dad had knee replacement surgery this year and if I were not still living here because I have a neurological disability, he would’ve had to take care of himself for everything while my mom was working 9-5. He thanked me once and cried and that was the only time I felt that he really appreciated me in any way. But now he is right back to being a jerk. No matter what I do to help him, it seems he just gets an almost sexual pleasure from snapping at me and calling me a moron and a f-king idiot whenever he can. I think both my parents are a bit psychotic honestly, but I am not mental health professional. I fear that if I say anything in my defence, they will just start to abuse me, and threaten to kick me out of the house and stuff. There is no love in this family. Please ask the Holy Family of Jesus, Mary, and Joseph to bless this house with true love. Honestly, I am afraid of my dad actually treating me like a human being whom he loves for a consistent period of time without going even a day cursing and swearing and calling people vulgar and vile things. I would probably think that he is mentally ill and have to see a doctor. “What seems to be the problem?” “He’s just not acting like a complete spiteful mean prick. There’s gotta be something wrong with him. He’s not himself.” It’s like my parents have pride in placing their identity in being rude and indecent to people, like they have a special right to do so. Like God made them miserable or something and that must mean that they have the right to make people feel that way.

I am sorry for being so blunt. I love them to death, and I’ve tried to suffer patiently, but I need as many people praying for us as possible because I just cannot stand to see this family go on living this way. I want to be able to go home and not be afraid of falling into deep depression and having all kinds of psychological problems because I am constantly trying to tip toe around my parents.

Please pray for us.
Joshua

 

[joshrp]

I don’t want my dad to be sad anymore. He’s had a really rough life. He had a stepfather who physically and emotionally abused him, and he’s been mistreated by so many people. I just want him to be happy and not feel so miserable about himself and other people. I wrote him a text message telling him how much I love him and like him, and he just seems to recoil whenever I say such things. I’m afraid to say to him “I love you” on a regular basis because I anticipate that he’ll just say “Yea, whatever…” and I think he actually did last time I said this to him.

Please pray really hard. As much pain as I am in, he is in much worse than I am and he deserves better. He has been battered and abused and betrayed by so many people and he probably does not feel loved by anyone, not even God. Please ask God to love him more and more and shower His love on him. I want to be able to pray the Lord’s prayer with my dad someday. I’ve never prayed with my dad once and I want to be able to pray with him every day.

 

[Fan_of_Francis]

Dear Josh,

I do not have words to say, only tears for the pain that you and your family are in.

Novena to Saint Joseph

Glorious St. Joseph, foster-father and protector of Jesus Christ! To you I raise my heart and my hands to implore your powerful intercession. Please obtain for me from the kind Heart of Jesus the help and the graces necessary for my spiritual and temporal welfare. I ask particularly for Josh and his family.
Guardian of the Word Incarnate, I feel animated with confidence that your prayers in my behalf will be graciously heard before the throne of God.

Glorious St. Joseph, through the love you bear to Jesus Christ, and for the glory of His Name.
Hear my prayers and obtain my petitions. Amen.

Mother of love, of sorrow and of mercy, pray for them
Remember, O Virgin Mother of God, when thou shalt stand before the face of the Lord, that thou speak favorable things in our behalf and that He may turn away His indignation from us.

Thou art my Mother, O Virgin Mary: keep Josh and his family lest they ever offend thy dear Son, and obtain for them grace to please Him always and in all things.
Amen.

 

[Belle10]

:hug1:

Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless and the treasury of compassion - inexhaustible, look kindly upon us and increase your mercy in us, that in difficult moments we might not despair nor become despondent, but with great confidence submit ourselves to your holy will, which is love and mercy itself, Amen.

(optional closing prayer of the chaplet of Divine Mercy)

 

[Salonika]

Dear Joshua

My heart bleeds for you and your situation.

Prayers for you all but especially for you who is in a situation not of your own choosing which is clearly hurting you greatly. .

Unfortunately when some people are unhappy they take this out on other people, especially those who are close to them. I am not surprised that your mood goes down when you are on the way home. In fact, I’d be surprised if it didn’t happen.

Prayers for your parents that they may realise the damage they are doing to themselves and to you and get help to change their behaviour. May they be willing to get help to stop doing this and as a result have a happier home.

Prayers that you may be able to cope with the behaviour of your parents and their insults while you consider ways that you can get into a healthier environment, either at home or elsewhere, if this is necessary.

May your father come to see your care for him after his operation as a blessing and come to realise that he lost an opportunity to get closer to you.

I hope you have friends who are able to show you how happy families work as this is not easy for someone in your situation to know unless you experience it.

Comment - Do you think going to counselling would help? Not because there is anything wrong with you but because we all have a limit to what we can cope with and that while coping strategies may not change the situation they may reduce the impact of it.

Regards

Salonika

 

[tbcrawford]

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

 

[Nelka]

Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless and the treasury of compassion — inexhaustible, look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us, that in difficult moments we might not despair nor become despondent, but with great confidence submit ourselves to Your holy will, which is Love and Mercy itself. Amen.

 

[ready]

I will pray the Chaplet of 7 Sorrows of the Blessed Virgin Mary tonight for you and your family. May God touch the hearts of your parents and help them to show more love to you. May our Lord give you strength to persevere in faith and in a state of grace, and help you to carry your cross courageously, patiently and lovingly. May you know how much the Lord loves you. May you offer up your pain and suffering co-redemptively and gain great merit this way. May you have good friends who love you and a good priest in your life to look up to and to help you. Amen.