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[angelinefromtx]

Okay I’m really confused/sadden I need advice please my fellow brothers and sisters. I don’t know where to begin. So when I was 16 I committed on what I now know was a grave/mortal sin I didn’t know at the time but I did feel sadden and disgusted afterwards and since then I never did that again. (No I haven’t confessed it) it pops up every now and then,it haunts me and I start to cry in fear and cause I haven’t confessed it I’m to embarrassed. Is it still considered a mortal sin or should I confess? Does it have to be my priest or can I go to one I won’t see again cause I’m really disgusted and embarrassed. Ok next one I have my boyfriend ( I see him just as a friend though)(he doesn’t know) and we have been together almost two years on and off and in the begging I have sinned by having premarital sex and yes I confessed and I struggled with it for a while but now we just kiss and touch not like “the parts” but touch like butt and chest. See now I’m not having sex before marriage and I’m scared because I love him but as a friend and care about him. He’s catholic but is not practicing I guess you can say. He hasn’t done his communion misses sunday mass and is not really living the faith so to say. He respects me and is a good guy. But I’m afraid were we are going if we are going anywhere that is (marriage wise). future wise. Should I just keep it at kissing? Or just not kiss( kiss I mean french) idk what to do! Please help me. And thank you for your time once again. I really do trust catholic forums so please help. GOD BLESS YALL!! Feel free to ask quest. for better understanding

 

[Rence]

Okay I’m really confused/sadden I need advice please my fellow brothers and sisters. I don’t know where to begin. So when I was 16 I committed on what I now know was a grave/mortal sin I didn’t know at the time but I did feel sadden and disgusted afterwards and since then I never did that again. (No I haven’t confessed it) it pops up every now and then,it haunts me and I start to cry in fear and cause I haven’t confessed it I’m to embarrassed. Is it still considered a mortal sin or should I confess?

It’s not as grave a sin if you truly did not know it was a sin when you committed it. But now that you know it is a sin, you should of course, talk to your priest about it.

Does it have to be my priest or can I go to one I won’t see again cause I’m really disgusted and embarrassed.

You can go to another priest. It does not have to be your priest.

Ok next one I have my boyfriend ( I see him just as a friend though)(he doesn’t know) and we have been together almost two years on and off and in the begging I have sinned by having premarital sex and yes I confessed and I struggled with it for a while but now we just kiss and touch not like “the parts” but touch like butt and chest. See now I’m not having sex before marriage and I’m scared because I love him but as a friend and care about him. He’s catholic but is not practicing I guess you can say. He hasn’t done his communion misses sunday mass and is not really living the faith so to say. He respects me and is a good guy. But I’m afraid were we are going if we are going anywhere that is (marriage wise). future wise. Should I just keep it at kissing? Or just not kiss( kiss I mean french) idk what to do! Please help me. And thank you for your time once again. I really do trust catholic forums so please help. GOD BLESS YALL!! Feel free to ask quest. for better understanding

What I highly recommend you do, is when you go to confess that sin that bothers you so much that you described above, talk to the priest about your concerns with this boy, and ask for his guidance.

For me, If you’re not considering marriage, and already know that, then you shouldn’t be dating him at all. You really shouldn’t be dating someone who isn’t a “candidate” for marriage. Though you can always be friends with him, but please be honest with him so that he can move on with his life. And touching “the parts” is still a sin, so you should stop doing it.

May I ask how old you are?

 

[angelinefromtx]

Thank you so much!! Yes I kinda had that thought! No we don’t touch our …like ‘areas’… Yes I do wanna marry but if he were to purpose to me tom I would say no…I guess I don’t wanna hurt him again by breaking up with him…again! I’m 19… Why? And thank you again

 

[I_Fortuna]

HI there, first of all no one is without sin. It is very sad that you do not feel comfortable enough to talk to your priest. Whatever it is, I am certain he has heard worse and will not judge you but help you with penance and to begin anew with this burden off your shoulders to bring you closer to God.

In any case, I hope that you go to him or another priest soon and that you recover from this burden. Something else that would help is to pray to the Blessed Virgin Mary, she has comforted me a lot in times of hurt. Have faith and try to pray some every day.

My best to you, God Bless.

 

[camerong]

You were given good advice above. I add my thoughts only to reinforce what the posters above wrote.

Regarding the mortal sin you say you committed… do go find another parish. When I first became Catholic, I ONLY confessed at a neighboring parish, because I felt more comfortable that way. Now, I confess frequently to both my parish priests, and have no problem with it. Consider going to confession more frequently, as I find that helped me become much more comfortable with the process.

You should not be with anyone you don’t see as a husband. You don’t want to hurt him? Then break it off now, don’t wait several more years for his feelings to only grow stronger. It is never going to get easier!

Now, regarding the touching… I would strongly suggest that you cease all of that immediately. Draw a line somewhere safe–with brief kissing (that would be best). And then never cross that line, with anyone, until you’ve said “I do.”

Finally, let me reassert, you should really bring all this up to a priest in confession. Go some place with daily confessions, where they tend to have less of a line, and you would feel more comfortable taking more time in the confessional.

 

[angelinefromtx]

Yes good advice again thank you very much. I do need a good long confession its usually really fast I don’t ever take my time. I get filled with anxiety and nervousness. And I have a heard time opening up to people. I’ve been wanting to confess but I chicken out or don’t do it cause the shyness overcomes me. Actually as I’m typing this I’m going to mexico city to visit where mother mary appeared and I’m going to ask her to please help me. I guess its really holding me back spiritually. As for my bf I did just break up with him 2 months ago and for some reason I went back with him and I really don’t know why. I missed him to much but instantly I realised the mistake I made. And to break up with him again idk how I will do that. Thanks yall for the helpful advice.