Pointless praying when angry
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Seagull
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Anger - is like lust - a LOT of mind activity -
You must of really been mad
When I’m angry, in the very midst of it, I cant possibly go to gentle Mary -
that’s my thought - " Seagull, stop all this cawing. Right now, please "
But what better place to confront yourself, but before Mary.
It’s like driving your car and hitting a unexpected speed bump
You must of really been mad
When I’m angry, in the very midst of it, I cant possibly go to gentle Mary -
that’s my thought - " Seagull, stop all this cawing. Right now, please "
But what better place to confront yourself, but before Mary.
It’s like driving your car and hitting a unexpected speed bump
Tis_Bearself
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It’s okay to pray when you are feeling angry, despairing, anxious, or doubtful. The Lord realizes you’re trying to push past your state of mind.
We can’t always just “switch off”. Sometimes prayer means prayer in spite of how bad we feel.
Sometimes we express our anger to God or Mary while we are praying. “Mary, I want to pray this daily rosary but I am right now just so angry over what that person at my work just did, I can barely even think straight! Help me!”
God and Mary will help even if you don’t feel better right away.
We can’t always just “switch off”. Sometimes prayer means prayer in spite of how bad we feel.
Sometimes we express our anger to God or Mary while we are praying. “Mary, I want to pray this daily rosary but I am right now just so angry over what that person at my work just did, I can barely even think straight! Help me!”
God and Mary will help even if you don’t feel better right away.
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Mary888
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This. I double this advise.
This is when we should definitely pray - when in need, when we are not at our best at all.
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bquinnan
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Matthew 5:22-24 comes to mind:
Realistically, you may not be able to be reconciled with the person who made you angry before you go to pray, but perhaps you can at least make some peace with him or her in your heart. You could pray something like, “Dear Lord, I know that you love us both, and I pray that you help me to find you in this person despite my frustration, and that I may show your love to him/her.”
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guanophore
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I can’t. When I am angry and cannot enter into the mysteries I just talk to God instead about what is bothering me until I calm down.
Prayers are never wasted, even if you don’t feel better, but you might benefit more from a different kind of prayer.
Or the situation. Forgiveness will help get past the anger.
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2towers
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I myself would not pray the rosary when angry, but rather a prayer for the ones I was angry with, and an intercessory prayer to Our Lady, asking her to help rid you of the destructive anger. I have done this many times, and I have always gotten a result, though sometimes I have to ask again later.
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Tulitas
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Just ask for God’s will, and forgiveness and peace.
Realizing you are angry is a great start.
Even Jesus got angry.
Don’t be so hard on yourself.
Remember that you are praying for people you LOVE.
Realizing you are angry is a great start.
Even Jesus got angry.
Don’t be so hard on yourself.
Remember that you are praying for people you LOVE.
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JamalChristophr
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I have felt like that at times.
Sometimes I will just go into a church and quietly be angry in the presence of the Blessed Sacrament. You might give it a try. I mean, you might find that not speaking can still be a prayer. Going and sitting with God in silence is a prayer, and I think it may well help.
Sometimes I will just go into a church and quietly be angry in the presence of the Blessed Sacrament. You might give it a try. I mean, you might find that not speaking can still be a prayer. Going and sitting with God in silence is a prayer, and I think it may well help.
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MonteRCMS
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Pray anyway.
Let your Guardian Angel take care of your emotions.
Let your Guardian Angel take care of your emotions.
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Reuben_J
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When I am angry, I would not pray because I can’t pray in that condition.
I would try to calm myself and get out of that angry mode as fast as possible. Thanksfully it is possible for me to do that.
If I am too angry, I tell God I am upset and ask God to help me to cool down.
They say for most normal people, we can always tone down our anger. There can be something wrong with a person who cannot control his anger, and he should look into that.
God bless.
I would try to calm myself and get out of that angry mode as fast as possible. Thanksfully it is possible for me to do that.
If I am too angry, I tell God I am upset and ask God to help me to cool down.
They say for most normal people, we can always tone down our anger. There can be something wrong with a person who cannot control his anger, and he should look into that.
God bless.
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Reuben_J
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There’s scriptural verse, ‘do not let the sun go down on your anger’ (Eph 4:26). One that we can keep in mind when we are angry.
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StevenFrancis
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I try not to pray during anger spurts. (apart from a small silent prayer to remove my anger). It wouldn’t even occur to me to attempt a rosary or a chaplet in that state, so you’re miles ahead of me to begin with, since prayers should be always present in our hearts. You may find this verse of scripture helpful. Perhaps not. The connection to your question doesn’t seem obvious on the surface, but upon reflection, it seems apt to me.
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To me, it seems we should reconcile with the person who is the object of our anger, and approach the Lord with a heart of forgiveness before offering our gift, (in this case, formal prayer, such as a rosary), unless we are simply having an informal dialogue prayer with God asking for His grace in helping us to overcome feelings of anger. When we get to our protracted and focused prayer for the well being of others, we should have that intention of love firmly in our hearts.
On another note…(that is , focus and quiet in general for prayer), i.e. to have a heart of peace for prayer, and to come to meditative or contemplative state in our prayer, we need to cultivate an environment within ourselves of serenity. Serenity, like all good things, is a grace of God, and our prayers for virtue and grace are nearly always satisfied if sought sincerely.
If you practice formal prayer, such as a rosary, liturgy of the hours, divine mercy chaplet etc. ask the Lord for His peace, and for the Holy Spirit to help you to a state of internal quiet and peace at some point each day.
Having said all this, however, quiet and peace are difficult to carve out in the average day while we are enmeshed in this crazy world of 2018. Because of that, it is more important than ever to pursue those moments. We can petition God in any state. But we can only hear God’s answers in the silence.
Psalm 46:7 Nations may be in turmoil, and thrones totter, earth shrink away before his voice; 8 but the Lord of hosts is with us, the God of Jacob is our refuge. 9 Come near, and see God’s acts, his marvellous acts done on earth; 10 how he puts an end to wars all over the world, the bow shivered, the lances shattered, the shields burnt to ashes! 11 Wait quietly, and you shall have proof that I am God, claiming empire among the nations, claiming empire over the world. 12 The Lord of hosts is with us, the God of Jacob is our refuge.
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To me, it seems we should reconcile with the person who is the object of our anger, and approach the Lord with a heart of forgiveness before offering our gift, (in this case, formal prayer, such as a rosary), unless we are simply having an informal dialogue prayer with God asking for His grace in helping us to overcome feelings of anger. When we get to our protracted and focused prayer for the well being of others, we should have that intention of love firmly in our hearts.
On another note…(that is , focus and quiet in general for prayer), i.e. to have a heart of peace for prayer, and to come to meditative or contemplative state in our prayer, we need to cultivate an environment within ourselves of serenity. Serenity, like all good things, is a grace of God, and our prayers for virtue and grace are nearly always satisfied if sought sincerely.
If you practice formal prayer, such as a rosary, liturgy of the hours, divine mercy chaplet etc. ask the Lord for His peace, and for the Holy Spirit to help you to a state of internal quiet and peace at some point each day.
Having said all this, however, quiet and peace are difficult to carve out in the average day while we are enmeshed in this crazy world of 2018. Because of that, it is more important than ever to pursue those moments. We can petition God in any state. But we can only hear God’s answers in the silence.
Psalm 46:7 Nations may be in turmoil, and thrones totter, earth shrink away before his voice; 8 but the Lord of hosts is with us, the God of Jacob is our refuge. 9 Come near, and see God’s acts, his marvellous acts done on earth; 10 how he puts an end to wars all over the world, the bow shivered, the lances shattered, the shields burnt to ashes! 11 Wait quietly, and you shall have proof that I am God, claiming empire among the nations, claiming empire over the world. 12 The Lord of hosts is with us, the God of Jacob is our refuge.
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Francis
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@Nelka Hi,As Jesus said before we stand in prayer, we have to forgive, others wise God will not forgive our sins, nor listen to our prayers,the anger and the words linger for some time its natural,we all can’t pray with concentration.the best way is lift up our hand and praise God and pray the forgiveness pray, before starting any prayer ,second we need to humble ourselves ,by saying in our hearts Jesus have mercy on me a sinner,am not able to forgive by myself ,but your grace is sufficient for me,give me your grace to forgive other who have hurt me as you have forgiven my sins i also ask your help to forgive others and ,as you have forgiven on the cross in LK 23:34 Then Jesus said, “Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing.”And they cast lots to divide his clothing. iam dust and ashes,Lord, do not look upon my sins, though they are like sands of the sea and stars in the sky ,but the love you have for me Jesus, am precious in your eyes ,heal me of all my wounds with your precious Blood, Cleanse my thought words and actions.thirdly we should remember that we are not fighting against flesh and blood but against the evil spirits,a kind of spiritual warfare in Ep 6:10-20, so at time evil spirits use temperately those who are close to us either at work place or family members. don’t give room for the devil.at the end of the day make an examination of conscience before we sleep,it will be nice.
Matthew 5:21 “You have heard that it was said to those of ancient times, ‘You shall not murder’; and ‘whoever murders shall be liable to judgment.’ 22 But I say to you that if you are angry with a brother or sister,you will be liable to judgment; and if you insult a brother or sister, you will be liable to the council; and if you say, ‘You fool,’ you will be liable to the hell of fire. 23 So when you are offering your gift at the altar, if you remember that your brother or sister has something against you, 24 leave your gift there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother or sister,[j] and then come and offer your gift. 25 Come to terms quickly with your accuser while you are on the way to court[k] with him, or your accuser may hand you over to the judge, and the judge to the guard, and you will be thrown into prison. 26 Truly I tell you, you will never get out until you have paid the last penny.
Ephesians 4:26 Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, 27 and do not make room for the devil.
As Job forgave and prayed for his friends ,the Lord blessed and restored all his fortunes.other wise we will be in some kind of spiritual prison ,we will not have peace of mind.
Job 42:10 And the Lord restored the fortunes of Job when he had prayed for his friends; and the Lord gave Job twice as much as he had before.God Bless
Matthew 5:21 “You have heard that it was said to those of ancient times, ‘You shall not murder’; and ‘whoever murders shall be liable to judgment.’ 22 But I say to you that if you are angry with a brother or sister,you will be liable to judgment; and if you insult a brother or sister, you will be liable to the council; and if you say, ‘You fool,’ you will be liable to the hell of fire. 23 So when you are offering your gift at the altar, if you remember that your brother or sister has something against you, 24 leave your gift there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother or sister,[j] and then come and offer your gift. 25 Come to terms quickly with your accuser while you are on the way to court[k] with him, or your accuser may hand you over to the judge, and the judge to the guard, and you will be thrown into prison. 26 Truly I tell you, you will never get out until you have paid the last penny.
Ephesians 4:26 Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, 27 and do not make room for the devil.
As Job forgave and prayed for his friends ,the Lord blessed and restored all his fortunes.other wise we will be in some kind of spiritual prison ,we will not have peace of mind.
Job 42:10 And the Lord restored the fortunes of Job when he had prayed for his friends; and the Lord gave Job twice as much as he had before.God Bless
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poche
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Do the best you can. God sometimes allows this in order for you to grow in holiness.
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egretps
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Is this something you’ve talked about with a priest? Even in confession. This sounds like dryness. Nelka, you are in my prayers. I’ll be leaving in about twenty minutes to visit the Blessed Sacrament. God bless you.
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Jump4Joy
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I think praying when angry is the best time to pray. Unfortunately feelings don’t always diminish as quickly as you want. Prayer may give you peace.
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Brendan_64
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Just pray whether you are angry or not. Get on with it and say the words, you might feel like it is pointless, but it isn’t.
There are many things we have to carry on doing when we don’t feel like it - going to work, going to school, etc. There are people sufferring from serious disabilities for whom even the most basic things are a serious struggle, but they persevere day after day.
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