POLL FOR GUYS: What is most important in selecting a spouse?

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OhioBob:
Yup. And Playboy has great interviews too. 😉
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…here we go… right in the dumper…

 
Where has chivalry gone you guys! GET IT TOGETHA! lol ;)! I refuse to believe that you wonderful Catholic gentlemen value looks as high as faith. Cliche, yes, but inner beauty really does show on the outside. Look at Mother Theresa and try to tell me she isn’t gorgeous. 😃 Pax ya’ll
 
Someone said to me today, and I laughed my head off.

He said that he wanted to find Miss right, and he said eventually he married Miss right, but later found out her maiden name was Always. 😉 Always Right :rolleyes:
 
With perhaps a single exception, everyone I’ve dated has always been a friend first, so I picked the “sharing interests” option, but it might have been equally valid for me to chose the “how interesting she is…” option.
 
Being Catholic would be a first choice as well.

I said affectionate and loving because of the loving part. My experience is that it is vital for both to surrender themselves in a commitment to give all that they are.

I myself did not do this and had to learn the hard way. (Thankfully, not too hard).
Some people never quite get this. When you look to see what you will get, you miss out. When you just give, wonders open up for you.
 
  1. faith and faith priorities
  2. moral values
  3. is this the woman who should raise my children?
  4. Is this the woman I want to spend a lifetime with?
  5. is this woman attractive?
  6. any warning signs to stay away?
 
yes being catholic is most important, id feel awkward to the max if on sunday we went to different churches. affectionent is nice too. we need not have the same interests, but when I start talking about one of my pet subjects Id like something better than one of those spaced out looks. in the looks dept all I ask is some length to her hair. just thinking out loud.
 
Woah woah, who picked the thing about women working professionally?

It’s a guy only thread.

If you work proffesionally good job and I support you, but I wouldn’t go out with someone just because of their job. I’m too dumb to do that 😃
 
You may consider this the “male copout”, but I truly have to say that none of them is “more” important. It is the interaction between all of them that makes the person either right or not.
 
I answered affectionate/loving. how ever I would have to say I would hope men would look at the womens faith life as number one
 
This is pretty complex…it’s not just physical…It all happens on some deeper level.
 
Almost 100% of women currently lack the basics.

And what are the basics? The basics are that the woman believe what the Catholic Church believes and teaches, and that she have good morals.

Almost anyone who is willing to marry someone who is divorced, who engages in pre-marital sex, who practices birth control, and who is willing to marry a non-Catholic will have no problem getting married.

Just the fact that almost 100% of Catholics believe that it is ok to use contraceptives proves beyond all reasonable doubt that in the United States it is almost impossible to be a good Catholic and get married.

Almost all people who are Catholic and who have gotten married in the past 35 years were able to get married because they were willing to defy the laws of God.

Sure, it is still possible to be a good Catholic and get married . But the probabilty of it happening are about the same as winning the jackpot in Powerball.
 
Chris Jacobsen:
Almost 100% of women currently lack the basics.

And what are the basics? The basics are that the woman believe what the Catholic Church believes and teaches, and that she have good morals.

Almost anyone who is willing to marry someone who is divorced, who engages in pre-marital sex, who practices birth control, and who is willing to marry a non-Catholic will have no problem getting married.

Just the fact that almost 100% of Catholics believe that it is ok to use contraceptives proves beyond all reasonable doubt that in the United States it is almost impossible to be a good Catholic and get married.

Almost all people who are Catholic and who have gotten married in the past 35 years were able to get married because they were willing to defy the laws of God.

Sure, it is still possible to be a good Catholic and get married . But the probabilty of it happening are about the same as winning the jackpot in Powerball.
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Glad your standards are set so high, mine are up there as well. Seeing how our world is today, I also deem it about impossible to find a good Catholic person.
www.avemariasingles.com this site may help us though, ^^
 
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Hermione:
This is a follow-up to my previous poll. I’d appreciate it if only guys answered in it! Married guys can answer too 🙂

Thanks!
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None of these are the most Important.

My future Spouse will:
1.) Share a love and understanding for Christ’s Church, and have a deep love for the Eucharist.

2.) She will Love Jesus Christ First in her life, accepting all His and His Church’s Teachings.

3.)Be completely giving of herself (selfless), to her God and her family.

Now, these are all fine and good, but you must seperate “The Meeting” and, “The Marrying”…

“The Meeting” will be a courtship, where I will assert my general attractions: which come from the physical senses.
For example, she will have to be physically attractive to me which is a mixture of sight and smell.

Of course there is a good probabiltiy of “core” attractions if i meet her at church, I know she is Catholic, and through conversation, I will be able to assess how devout she is and if her and I are on the same page…

then oneday if she meets the top three criteria, …I ask her to marry me (and hopefully she would say yes at that point 😉 )

if your would add “Core beleifs” to your list it would help, since you asked about a Spouse, but you have meeting criteria up there, and most of that is irrelevent at the spouse stage… just my humble opinion
 
Well there is a girl that is pretty darn close to perfect according to my list that lives on my floor. She is a faithful Catholic, tall, cute, humble, knows German (I am a German major) and will not use contraception when she is married and has kept herself pure! I am stoked, but I want to take it slow as friends first but its so hard when shes got all the right characteristics! Finding a girl like her is like winning the lottery at my college! Holy Mary pray for me!
 
For me If I were to select a spouse it would be could she help me get to heaven?

Padre Pio “Don’t worry, work and pray.”
 
Hi all,

For a woman…

My important criteria is a Reasonable and Realistic outlook on Life.
This includes a good self-esteem.

And a willingness to look at an issue objectively.

Even if she gets emotional during an incident - she must be able to come back the next day willing to discuss the issue -
Give forgiveness & Get forgiveness.

So here is my list :
*** Self-Esteem - Faith**
*** Give Forgivness - Mercy**
*** Ask for forgivness - Humility**
 
My wife and I do not share the same intrests. I think that honesty and values are the most important. That is what we have based 14 years of marriage on. All the rest fell in to place.:love:
 
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