Poll: I can understand why people leave the Roman Catholic Church

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(I just want to point out that I see this thread is very long with over 14 pages. Please know that I did not read the entire thread. Just the poll.)

I voted “other”

This is why. I understand that the focus in this poll is ment to be the Catholic church.

But people leaving any church or faith tradition can be far more complicated that just leaving any given denomination.

I believe many people leave their faith traditions often because they are experiencing a crisis of faith (I know what it’s like to have one. It’s very painful and difficult to get thru)

So while I do think that some people leave the Catholic church because it’s the Catholic church, I would be willing to bet that just as a many leave not so much because its the Catholic church but because they are experiencing a crisis of faith.

IMO there is a distinct difference
 
A lot of people don’t feel they’re being fed in the CC. That’s their perception, so they leave. Many also just plain don’t agree, whether we like it or not, with Catholic teachings. And some hypocritically decide to stay and still use birth control, divorce and remarry at will, ignore confession, cohabitate, etc. Actually the folks who flat-out are honest and say they’re leaving the CC because they believe birth control is perfectly moral are better than people who stay and keep it up while participating in the sacramental life of a Church they disagree with and openly ignore. I think there are a lot of reasons people leave and my experience is faith is not usually one of them. Most people who leave because of a lack of faith just leave Christianity altogether. If they move from CC to another denom. it’s usually out of theological differences. Tough issue because there are so many motivations and perceptions…
(I just want to point out that I see this thread is very long with over 14 pages. Please know that I did not read the entire thread. Just the poll.)

I voted “other”

This is why. I understand that the focus in this poll is ment to be the Catholic church.

But people leaving any church or faith tradition can be far more complicated that just leaving any given denomination.

I believe many people leave their faith traditions often because they are experiencing a crisis of faith (I know what it’s like to have one. It’s very painful and difficult to get thru)

So while I do think that some people leave the Catholic church because it’s the Catholic church, I would be willing to bet that just as a many leave not so much because its the Catholic church but because they are experiencing a crisis of faith.

IMO there is a distinct difference
 
I’ve learned many things and changed many of my views through study and CAF discussions. I’ve been challenged to reading/study, etc. Catholics make a great case for many things, such as infant Baptism, the Real Presence, the Sacraments, etc.

Yet, when it comes to discussions regarding the “primacy” of Peter and what that means; I have had to pull back, because anyone who disagrees with the Catholic view is usually “pounded”; and the issues that concern me most are lost in all the arguments.

Protestants are blasted, being reminded of how recent Protestantism is and the lack of respect for the tradition of ECF’s. A valid point in many respects. Yet the Orthodox disagree on the issue of Peter and the Papacy also; and they are drawing from historical arguments and calling upon tradition. So, it isn’t just Protestants who disagree with Catholics.

I’ve seen this on many threads. I finally decided, my time is better spent reading and studying the issue of Peter from different view points. I can get a wider view of history and tradition, without being insulted along the way.

I respect Catholicism and my Catholic friends, here. It’s just that sometimes the steamroller approach can cause people to back away. Yet, no one has the corner on the “steamroller approach.” Sadly, many Protestants hit the forums with guns blazing, determined to show Catholics the “error of their ways”–Sadly, many crash and burn within a few days; and are banned for failure to abide by charity guidelines. It is definitely their loss, because many misconceptions about Catholicism are cleared up on the forums.
That’s what I mean. I know that every once in a while we get the Jack Chick loving KJV-Only nut who comes in, as you said, “guns blazing” (nice metaphor btw 😃 ), but at the same time when someone asks, “Why are people leaving Catholicism?”, and I know from former Catholics this is an issue, it shouldn’t be a hostile thing to bring it up.

The ironic thing is these kinds of threads become a testament to it. How many times do these “Why ain’t you no longer Catholic?” threads, in the guise of open forum, become a game of “Let’s all pound the former Catholics.” Before anyone hops in here - yes, I fully recognize that some people leave churches and denominations for bad reasons. I recognize that some people leave Catholicism for bad reasons. I also know, however, that there are reasons that at least need to be looked at and addressed. Keep in mind that it may not even be a reflection of Catholicism as a faith, but Catholicism on a local level, such as Catholicism in America (I refer back to the posts made by Andrew a few pages back, which I think should be read and meditated on). Paul criticizing the faults of the church in Corinth wasn’t by any means an attack against the entire church across the Mediterranean, nor did anyone react to them as such.

The fact is, dialogue, even against a contrary mindset, can help. Maybe about a year back, I remember a Muslim woman had created a thread about Christianity. She was just asking questions. Myself and another poster were making responses that merely answered her questions. Then, in came other professing Christians who started railing against her like she was asking this to make something of herself. I was embarrassed and it was only by God’s grace that she didn’t leave the forum altogether. Thankfully that storm subsided and we got back to a good Q&A pattern. Then later I got a PM from the woman thanking me for my calm answers, and that through them it had made her do some serious thinking about her own theology.

I have always believed there is nothing wrong with asking questions. Yes, there are baited questions, and yes some people really aren’t looking for answers, but we shouldn’t get hostile because there’s a question mark at the end of a poster’s sentence. We shouldn’t have a Protestant simply asking, “What’s the proof for the Supremacy of Peter?” met with, “WTF YOU JUST NEED TO BOW DOWN TO ROME AND ACCEPT IT BTW MARTIN LUTHER SUCKS LAWL.” Guess what - another soul lost. And like it or not, there are Catholics out there - perhaps weak in faith but Catholic Church members nonetheless - who, seeing every question met that way, begin to believe there is no response to such questions. As Paul said concerning food and wine, it is not good to “do anything that causes your brother to stumble” (Rom 14:21).

But that’s a side rant that might derail the thread into a “Who’s more hostile in their posts” debate, which I don’t want it to. I just wanted to thank Anna Scott for putting into better words what I couldn’t. 👍 Also, I agree with gurney that CAF is in many ways still a good forum in this regard, if anything because I have found there is greater consistency in the theology - and not just because the majority are Catholics. I’ve been to Christian forums where you’d have Catholics, Molinists, Non-Trinitarian Messianics, and Word of Faith Christians all arguing several things in a bloodied mess. :whacky:
 
Without quoting half of the posts I’ve seen since my last entry, I’ll just say that I acknowledge my own “steamroller” approach, though this is generally directed at cultural Marxists and universal heretics in terms of promoting views in direct conflict with traditional Christianity that nearly every respectable and sincere denomination upholds. Also, just to make it clear, I realize that some stances that I have on certain issues are deemed heretical to the Catholic Church specifically.

However, I AM open to the possibility that I am indeed in error and am willing to invest the time into researching and studying the development of dogmas and doctrines of the Church and how their scriptural references were interpreted in the beginning to follow a logical progression. With over 2000 years of history, I’m sure I’ll be able to find the answers I seek.

What I don’t like is having my loyalty to Christ questioned by people who think their little sect of Christianity is the ‘right’ one while not knowing squat on how to defend that belief and yes, I have run into such people at work. I do not question their sincerity in searching for God, but I DO question anyone who asks me to basically abrogate my sense of reason, especially if I have a superior knowledge base about the subject matter.

For example, I bring up how I read The Shack and how endorses all kinds of wacky heresies like Monarchical Modalism (Sabellianism), Universalism, and Restorative Hell. When I brought up Sabellianism and what it was, he didn’t seem to really have a grasp of it, considered that how the Trinity relates to itself didn’t matter and that we should just focus on What Would Jesus Do?

With responses such as that, is it any wonder more and more young people turn to other religions or outright atheism?

The thing that gets me is that you don’t hear this kind of stuff at Mass. And by the way, the person I mentioned in the above paragraph was raised Roman Catholic and now is a member of the United Church of Christ. While I’m really not trying to slam people who are part of that community, I went to the website to see what they’re all about and quite frankly, the UCC is NOT for me. If I go onto a Christian forum where someone is claiming that the Gospel of Judas is canonical and no one is correcting him or her, that’s a BAD sign.
 
Andrew, brother, I hear ya. I gave up even eating in the staff room at work. The teachers I work with (I teach sixth grade) are just so “out there” sometimes. They asked me if I have read the “DiVinci Code” and went off about how awesome it was. I told them no and they kept on me. Why? Why? I finally told them I thought it was a blasphemous concept in the book and insulting to the Lord and man, they went to town on me!

Then they ganged up on me about not daycaring my kid. They thought I’m nuts because my wife stayed home with our kids as per our pre-marriage plan. One teacher, a female, told me that “it’s easy for you to say” when I said my wife loves being home with out kids. She told me that I’m a chauvenist dumping three kids on my wife then going to work, leaving my wife unempowered. 🤷 Barf bag time! My wife really rolled her eyes on that one! :rolleyes:

Then you always hear this one at work: I’M NOT RELIGIOUS BUT I’M…SPIRITUAL!

PUKE! Again, makes me wanna ralf!

Then the Catholics I work with leave something to be desired in their consistency in living out their faith as well.

I know some Protestants my age, one I went to school with and work with and she’s 35 like me and she’s had THREE DIVORCES already? LOL. I’m 35 and have been married going on 12 years?

My principal told my sixth graders the other day, “please try to sing the school songs and patriotic songs at the assemblies. Be proud! And remember that God might not have given you a good voice for singing. Get back at God by singing as loud as you can! Oops, I’m just joking there…” I wanted to vomit again LOL

I eat alone in my classroom and lock the door. Safer that way. Coworkers should be outlawed!! :p:p:p
Without quoting half of the posts I’ve seen since my last entry, I’ll just say that I acknowledge my own “steamroller” approach, though this is generally directed at cultural Marxists and universal heretics in terms of promoting views in direct conflict with traditional Christianity that nearly every respectable and sincere denomination upholds. Also, just to make it clear, I realize that some stances that I have on certain issues are deemed heretical to the Catholic Church specifically.

However, I AM open to the possibility that I am indeed in error and am willing to invest the time into researching and studying the development of dogmas and doctrines of the Church and how their scriptural references were interpreted in the beginning to follow a logical progression. With over 2000 years of history, I’m sure I’ll be able to find the answers I seek.

What I don’t like is having my loyalty to Christ questioned by people who think their little sect of Christianity is the ‘right’ one while not knowing squat on how to defend that belief and yes, I have run into such people at work. I do not question their sincerity in searching for God, but I DO question anyone who asks me to basically abrogate my sense of reason, especially if I have a superior knowledge base about the subject matter.

For example, I bring up how I read The Shack and how endorses all kinds of wacky heresies like Monarchical Modalism (Sabellianism), Universalism, and Restorative Hell. When I brought up Sabellianism and what it was, he didn’t seem to really have a grasp of it, considered that how the Trinity relates to itself didn’t matter and that we should just focus on What Would Jesus Do?

With responses such as that, is it any wonder more and more young people turn to other religions or outright atheism?

The thing that gets me is that you don’t hear this kind of stuff at Mass. And by the way, the person I mentioned in the above paragraph was raised Roman Catholic and now is a member of the United Church of Christ. While I’m really not trying to slam people who are part of that community, I went to the website to see what they’re all about and quite frankly, the UCC is NOT for me. If I go onto a Christian forum where someone is claiming that the Gospel of Judas is canonical and no one is correcting him or her, that’s a BAD sign.
 
I once had a coworker who was a rabid atheist who made open comments like, “I hate Christians” around the workplace. In other words, you two had it easy in that regard. 😛

But in regards to what Andrew1983 said, I too like questions because they build my faith. Sometimes being asked questions - whether for good or evil - helps us grow in knowledge of our faith. In that regard, even the rabid anti-whatevers help us all.
 
Sure thing, Socrates! 😃
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But in regards to what Andrew1983 said, **I too like questions **because they build my faith. Sometimes being asked questions - whether for good or evil - helps us grow in knowledge of our faith. In that regard, even the rabid anti-whatevers help us all.
 
That’s rich. Do these people not seem to understand that if everything espoused by the DiVinci Code is true, it effectively nullifies the point of ANY valid form of Christianity?

“Oh yeah, we’re sticking it to the Catholic Church AND the giant spider” >8<>~d (Byzantine_Wolf will appreciate this sentence as it’s an in-joke among college buddies). Bah! If it nullifies the apostolic church then it effectively nullifies everything that came after, including Eastern Church, Western Church, and all the Protestant denominations.

I’ve never really had to deal with my beliefs being aggressively assaulted, so I agree with B_W that I’ve got it easy.
Andrew, brother, I hear ya. I gave up even eating in the staff room at work. The teachers I work with (I teach sixth grade) are just so “out there” sometimes. They asked me if I have read the “DiVinci Code” and went off about how awesome it was. I told them no and they kept on me. Why? Why? I finally told them I thought it was a blasphemous concept in the book and insulting to the Lord and man, they went to town on me!

Then they ganged up on me about not daycaring my kid. They thought I’m nuts because my wife stayed home with our kids as per our pre-marriage plan. One teacher, a female, told me that “it’s easy for you to say” when I said my wife loves being home with out kids. She told me that I’m a chauvenist dumping three kids on my wife then going to work, leaving my wife unempowered. 🤷 Barf bag time! My wife really rolled her eyes on that one! :rolleyes:

Then you always hear this one at work: I’M NOT RELIGIOUS BUT I’M…SPIRITUAL!

PUKE! Again, makes me wanna ralf!

Then the Catholics I work with leave something to be desired in their consistency in living out their faith as well.

I know some Protestants my age, one I went to school with and work with and she’s 35 like me and she’s had THREE DIVORCES already? LOL. I’m 35 and have been married going on 12 years?

My principal told my sixth graders the other day, “please try to sing the school songs and patriotic songs at the assemblies. Be proud! And remember that God might not have given you a good voice for singing. Get back at God by singing as loud as you can! Oops, I’m just joking there…” I wanted to vomit again LOL

I eat alone in my classroom and lock the door. Safer that way. Coworkers should be outlawed!! :p:p:p
 
“Oh yeah, we’re sticking it to the Catholic Church AND the giant spider” >8<>~d (Byzantine_Wolf will appreciate this sentence as it’s an in-joke among college buddies).
“I don’t like the Da Vinci Code because it attacks the original Church.”
“So you’re saying the Catholic Church is the original one?”
"No! I mean the original! >8<> "
“Wha…huh?”

(Yes, in-joke among college buddies, just walk away folks 😃 )
 
I left for several reasons, but primarily because the Catholic Church seemed to be becoming rigid and retrogressive in many areas and on many issues, and also because the leaders of the church were taking increasingly rigid and inflexible positions on various issues and demanding unquestioning obedience for their decrees and teachings. No matter what you call it, I’ve always felt uncomfortable about authoritarian leaders who demand you blindly follow their decrees and orders. I have always respected areas of thought like science and philosophy which don’t rest blindly on tradition but try and work things out using reason, argument and evidence. I could never be happy with a religion that seems to demand you ‘check your brains at the door’ (to use an Anglican phrase). Yes, a Christian lives in communion with other Christians, but I don’t think the leaders of the church should have our unquestioning and blind submission in any matter, especially if the church has obvious problems which desperately need reform. The Catholic Church has obvious scandals and flaws which desperately need fixing, particularly the shortage of priests, the rapid decline of Catholics taking part in the sacramental life of the church in many countries, and above all, the sex abuse scandals involving children. I think it is clear most of these problems stem at least in part by the refusal of the church’s leaders to make themselves accountable to the laity and to the wider secular world in terms of their actions, and hide behind the mystique of the clerical rank and their aura of otherworldliness that comes with ideas like ‘infallibility’

I think it is a very dangerous thing to invest infallibility and inerrancy to any sinful, finite and fallible human being, and I think that idea above all (along with the attempts to control my belief and life down to the smallest details in the name of God) is something I find very unattractive about the Catholic Church, despite all of its beautiful liturgies and churches, all its depth in terms of spirituality and prayer, and the interesting and thoughtful theology that by some miracle manages to come from such a repressive and authoritarian church. I can’t ever see myself wanting to rejoin the Catholic Church until another Pope ‘opens the doors’ again to the world rather than trying to take the church back to the medieval era.
 
I left for several reasons, but primarily because the Catholic Church seemed to be becoming rigid and retrogressive in many areas and on many issues, and also because the leaders of the church were taking increasingly rigid and inflexible positions on various issues and demanding unquestioning obedience for their decrees and teachings. No matter what you call it, I’ve always felt uncomfortable about authoritarian leaders who demand you blindly follow their decrees and orders. I have always respected areas of thought like science and philosophy which don’t rest blindly on tradition but try and work things out using reason, argument and evidence. I could never be happy with a religion that seems to demand you ‘check your brains at the door’ (to use an Anglican phrase). Yes, a Christian lives in communion with other Christians, but I don’t think the leaders of the church should have our unquestioning and blind submission in any matter, especially if the church has obvious problems which desperately need reform. The Catholic Church has obvious scandals and flaws which desperately need fixing, particularly the shortage of priests, the rapid decline of Catholics taking part in the sacramental life of the church in many countries, and above all, the sex abuse scandals involving children. I think it is clear most of these problems stem at least in part by the refusal of the church’s leaders to make themselves accountable to the laity and to the wider secular world in terms of their actions, and hide behind the mystique of the clerical rank and their aura of otherworldliness that comes with ideas like ‘infallibility’

I think it is a very dangerous thing to invest infallibility and inerrancy to any sinful, finite and fallible human being, and I think that idea above all (along with the attempts to control my belief and life down to the smallest details in the name of God) is something I find very unattractive about the Catholic Church, despite all of its beautiful liturgies and churches, all its depth in terms of spirituality and prayer, and the interesting and thoughtful theology that by some miracle manages to come from such a repressive and authoritarian church. I can’t ever see myself wanting to rejoin the Catholic Church until another Pope ‘opens the doors’ again to the world rather than trying to take the church back to the medieval era.
The hardest thing for people to understand is that God doesn’t change…we do. We are the ones who move away from him because we feel we are more enlightened, more educated etc. Pride has been the main problem since the fall of man…nobody wants to follow authority even if it decreed by God himself. But that is a choice he gives to all of us. I do not believe it is because of the Church’s unwillingness to bend to the secular world that we have problems in the church…it is because of sin and the weakness of human nature. All people in the Church (Popes all the way down) have the capacity to sin…they are not immune to it because of their office. It is in the “teachings of the Church dealing with faith and morals” where the Holy Spirit will not allow them to err. So no matter what laity or the secular world choose to say is moral…it is God who has the final word…it is our choice to obey that word or not.
 
The Catholic Church is liken to Noah’s Ark, in the confines of the Ark or the Catholic Church you are Saved, but if you leave or Jump out, you will find yourself in deep water, where the sharks live and all kinds of calamity.

It is a good thing Noah and his family did not leave or jump out, don’t you agree?

Ufamtobie
 
Your statement that you “don’t believe everything the Catholic Church teaches” falls primarily under “personal interests”. You disagree with the Church’s teachings is a personal matter and is because of your interests in whatever you disagree with. Because you disagree does not mean that the Church’s teaching is wrong. The teaching may not be the Church’s, but a personal one of the teacher.

By the very fact that it is founded by Jesus Christ, the Church cannot err, the Church cannot teach falsely, the Church cannot sin, and the Church is infallible in its teachings. Jesus IS the Church and the Church IS Jesus. But, members of the Church, from the Pope on down, are human and are subject to error and sin.

PAX DOMINI :signofcross:

Shalom Aleichem
:clapping:
 
The Catholic Church is liken to Noah’s Ark, in the confines of the Ark or the Catholic Church you are Saved, but if you leave or Jump out, you will find yourself in deep water, where the sharks live and all kinds of calamity.

It is a good thing Noah and his family did not leave or jump out, don’t you agree?

Ufamtobie
i jumped out whne i was young & ignorant & uncatechized…

& exactl y what you say will happen happened to me!!

One really good thing came from me being so stupid, though:

When i finally did find the Church (or it found me??? Hmm) I appreciated her SO much more than i would have otherwise…

Still… as the Word says: it is not God’s will that one [become a prodigal son]

Sin is far more destructive than many realize:(
 
Well if she is not repentant for the sin of murdering children, than confession wouldn’t be valid. You have to be truly sorrowful for what you have done to offend God. If she is not, the confession wouldn’t be valid. You might fool the priest and maybe yourself, but you will not fool God.

See the pride comes from thinking IVF and the following abortions are the persons right. If a person is infertile, there is always adoption, instead people whom choose IVF choose their desire for biological children over the innocent lives flushed down the drain in pursuit of that goal. If choosing the death of multiple humans to achieve ones goal isn’t pride, I don’t know what is.

I am sorry to hear this about your friend, but going to the Episcopal Church doesn’t absolve her, mortal sin is still mortal sin, and going to another “Church” that says it is ok, doesn’t change the Truth. I will pray for your friend.
thanks… lovely to read this… I’m glad to meet someone who sees abortion (at any age) as murder… been speaking to many these days who insist its not really a baby… Geeeze… what is it then?? a frog??? an amoeba??? then at … say, 7 months or 9 months (no one knows :rolleyes:) it turns into a human child…

there’s some logic for ya…
 
thanks… lovely to read this… I’m glad to meet someone who sees abortion (at any age) as murder… been speaking to many these days who insist its not really a baby… Geeeze… what is it then?? a frog??? an amoeba??? then at … say, 7 months or 9 months (no one knows :rolleyes:) it turns into a human child…

there’s some logic for ya…
The trouble is that too many believe in and follow “political(y) correct(ness)” as instituted during the sexual revolution of recent times. It gives many, whether it’s wrong or not, an excuse and a reason to do what they want without assuming the resultant responsibility.
The claim is “freedom”. Freedom of will, freedom of sex, freedom of choice, etc. Therefore, no one can tell you how, when, and what to do what you want to do without interference, especially the Church and the “moralists”. Yes, Satan is still alive and well…

PAX DOMINI :signofcross:

Shalom aleichem
 
I think people leave because of lack of fellowship like you get at the mega churches. I for one get tired of going to mass and being out aged by everyone by 100 years.
unfortunately for me; I also don’t get anything spiritually out of rock music in church and lack of sacraments like the service in the Mega Churches, Plus I have been burned pretty hard by mega churches. Really I can understand why people hate any church in particular I think most churches do it to themselves.

Cheers! 👍
 
I think people leave because of lack of fellowship like you get at the mega churches. I for one get tired of going to mass and being out aged by everyone by 100 years.
unfortunately for me; I also don’t get anything spiritually out of rock music in church and lack of sacraments like the service in the Mega Churches, Plus I have been burned pretty hard by mega churches. Really I can understand why people hate any church in particular I think most churches do it to themselves.

Cheers! 👍
I personally know people have left the RCC because their ‘new’ mega church is more…FUN. That is one of the issues today with so many folks,the constant need of having to be entertained even at church.
 
I personally know people have left the RCC because their ‘new’ mega church is more…FUN. That is one of the issues today with so many folks,the constant need of having to be entertained even at church.
Now that probably is the real reason why people leave the Catholic Church. They aren’t having any FUN! The Catholic Church is TOO demanding and a strict disciplinarian. You MUST devote all your time to God and the spreading of His word. There’s no FUN in that !:sleep:

PAX DOMINI :signofcross:

Shalom Aleichem
 
I personally know people have left the RCC because their ‘new’ mega church is more…FUN. That is one of the issues today with so many folks,the constant need of having to be entertained even at church.
i totally agree… i think these are the kinds who watch TV a lot…

i dont watch ANY… I know some of it is OK but not much & seems u have to wallow throw a lot of garbage to get to the good stuff… so i dont bother. The news (not FOX) is particularly bad cuz its biased & they don’t tell you a lot of the important things going on in the world…

I get my current events through books. One i think all Americans should read ASAP is The Obama Diaries … &/or that one by that guy named Dinesh something… cnt recall title :confused: something about BHO’s rage…

I was scared when that guy got elected & I’m even more scared after reading those books… :eek:

anyhow, I never knew Jesus intimately (nor did i know how much we all need Him!!!) until i became a catechized Catholic (tho I’m a cradle Catholic… was never taught my faith :mad::()

So i will choose being close to Jesus over “entertaintment” any time…

In other words: The Real Presence!!! 🙂
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