Poll on importance of looks....Are they really that important?

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Sorry to harp on about this,but there are many attractive types i know are also the laziest.Governments pay lip service to the idea of equal opportunities for the disabled.Many disabled people can do a job better than what i call the “posers” who are not nearly as good-looking as they think they are.Why is there this reluctance to give a bit of leeway to the disabled when a bit of speed is required?Is it about jealousy that the disabled person might show some people up when accuracy is more important than speed?
There are some jobs which can make the dumbest blonde on the planet look good.The kind of work which requires quick fingers but no brain,which children could basically do but the volume
required is the problem.If Governments are as serious about
equal opportunities for the disabled as they seem to be about
women and other minorities,why do they not practise positive discrimination with regard to the disabled as they do with women and ethnic minorities?Either subsidize Companies in order that they can accept a lesser amount of work from the disabled or
give the disabled the option of working the necessary extra hours without overtime payments,in order that they can do the required volume of work.That option is not always available to them. :mad:
 
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Maggie:
What I think the question always hinges on in reality is, does that mean any of us should focus on the external at the expense of the internal? And the answer to that is no.
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You so beautifully relayed this issue in your post Maggie. You’re 100% right. Still, it’s not gonna change some people’s minds. Many folks in the world today still care way too much about looks because I think, they are just more superficial people all around I guess. I really blame it solely on the media today. There are such rotten images and saturation on TV with looks, sex, Hollywood, immorality, etc., even the news today…it’s who’s doing what in entertainment, girls in bikinis, etc. It’s most unfortunate for today’s young people --teens and twenties…cuz they’re the ones most influenced I think.

As a Christian, I really feel we all need to work on our character so we can BE the right mate for someone someday, and for our spouses we already have. We have to nurture Godliness, purity and lovliness, and encourage those traits in our kids too.

It’s so cute–sometimes we’ll be watching TV and some bimbo gal will appear on TV in some form or the next, and one of my son’s will say: “EEEWW MOM–she’s so gross --but thinks she’s soooo hot…ycch”. They’re totally turned off to all the pretentiousness of being artificial and “Hollywoodish”. I’m so glad --So hopefully they’ll learn as they mature to look primarily on the inside of a person.

Those of you not married yet—pray for your future spouses and work on being a Godly man/woman now. There is nothing more beautiful!!!
 
I have to say “no” because going for looks first could make you miss out on someone who’d make a wonderful spouse. From experience, I have many close male Catholic friends who tell me that I’m just the kind of woman they want to marry (kind, generous, devoted to God, self-sacrificing, etc.), if only I looked like…[fill in the blank].
 
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Jeane:
I have to say “no” because going for looks first could make you miss out on someone who’d make a wonderful spouse.
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That’s for sure!!! I know from experience here!!!
 
This is really a loaded question.

I have never considered myself to be very attractive…and yet I have been attracted to men other people (whom I consider beautiful) have also found attractive. And sometimes, I’m was the girl who “won the guy.” None of those relationships really lasted although one maybe could have had our life circumstances been different.

But now I’m 30, and really almost feel over the hill in the dating scene. Looks ARE important…but I have to say that when I see an attractive guy along the lines of…say…Hollywood or modeling…I actually turn away. They dont’ interest me as they appear nothing but superficial.

Now, when I meet a new person, although of course I see their looks, I try to find someone more in the “plain” category like myself.

Looks are important to a degree…but it seems for everyone a different degree. I have also taken notice of couples around me…and remember “categorizing” looks when I was in high school.

This may sound very uncharitable, but so be it. I have seen couples who really are not attractive at all…yet they are so happy and perfect together. I have seen beautiful couples likewise happy together. It seems therefore there are categories of attractiveness, and people seem to find their own niche within the span of “beauty.”

And you know? I’d far prefer to spend time with an “ugly” person with a great heart than a “beautiful” person with a focus on the superficial and material aspects of life. I’m really not that much to look at myself so who am I to expect a fairytale prince?

Looks are great as attraction is important…but not all of us think that the current image of beauty is the real standard.
 
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sparkle:
That’s for sure!!! I know from experience here!!!
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Aww … c’mon Sparkle:) … maybe you don’t have a “wonderful spouse”, but you certainly have a spouse God can use to make “you wonderful.”:yup:
 
I agree that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I have noticed something odd, the closer I get to God the wider range of beauty I have now. For instance I can see beauty in the actual physical features of someone that I would have used to thought ugly. I wonder why that is?
 
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Jeane:
I have to say “no” because going for looks first could make you miss out on someone who’d make a wonderful spouse. From experience, I have many close male Catholic friends who tell me that I’m just the kind of woman they want to marry (kind, generous, devoted to God, self-sacrificing, etc.), if only I looked like…[fill in the blank].
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Boy do you have brutally honest “friends”. Be glad you don’t end up as their wife.
 
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Ana:
I agree that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. I have noticed something odd, the closer I get to God the wider range of beauty I have now. For instance I can see beauty in the actual physical features of someone that I would have used to thought ugly. I wonder why that is?
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Because you see Christ in them 🙂

Peace.
 
Look at women in the Victorian age. The ideal “lady” had an exaggeratedly female shape, which was actually achieved by tight lacing and corseting, to the point that, in order to reflect the “beauty” of that time, women actually DIED because their lungs, liver, heart, kidneys etc. were distorted and even crushed over time?
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This is a myth. There were very few tight-lacers, and tight-lacing was recognized as unhealthy behaviour. Victorian corsets generally take a couple of inches off the waist: they do not crush internal organs.
 
***Believe me, dear ones, ***Looks are not that important when it gets down to the nitty gritty of life–raising kids, having a family, loving and serving God, living the Catholic life.

I would choose character and spirituality over looks any day. THIS is truly what matters.
 
sparkle said:
***Believe me, dear ones, ***Looks are not that important when it gets down to the nitty gritty of life–raising kids, having a family, loving and serving God, living the Catholic life.

I would choose character and spirituality over looks any day. THIS is truly what matters.
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what about the pirates in your life…

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space ghost:
what about the pirates in your life…

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Hey SG,
Is this what the Ghost looks like ? without his mask of course 😃

:hmmm: I say looks don’t matter but good grooming does 👍
 
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aimee:
Hey SG,
Is this what the Ghost looks like ? without his mask of course 😃

:hmmm: I say looks don’t matter but good grooming does 👍
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in my dreams…err… maybe :cool:
 
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Finella:
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Take my husband and myself for example… I personally never noticed any similarity… but we have been mistaken for brother and sister on more occassions than I can remember!

Finella
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I have heard it said that the longer a couple is married, the more they will resemble one another. Test this theory for yourself and you’ll see that in many instances it to be true. In your case, however, have people always said that you and your husband look alike, even when you just got married, for example?
 
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SocaliCatholic:
What is the purpose of looks anyways? It is so much more fullfilling to be around people who are good spirited and good hearted!
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You bet. Definitely matters in the work world. First impressions matter for hiring, and looks matter for first impressions.

Do we think the worse of poor people because they are often clothed in ill-fitting garments? I think so. Clothing that is the right size, color, fit, and fabric costs money. So does maintaining a wardrobe.

Its like, you might wonder if a clean house matters. But it does if you want to convert the JW at your door. Them’s just the facts. And if you have medium gold tone oak crown moulding, it probably helps too.
 
The bottom line on this topic is that the only thing that matters is what you look like on the inside!
 
I know this may sound odd, but I wish we could do away with the adjectives “ugly” and “beautiful”. It seems to me that our society has put way too much emphasis on looks. It has caused an almost epidemic proportion of eating disorders among young girls and women and has also caused an increase in the amount of steroid use among young (and not so young) men.

I think I may have done something right with my 21 and 18 year old daughters’ view of what is important in a person. They have, for the most part, been attracted to young men that are caring, sensitive and compassionate.

To my eyes, my husband is the best looking man on earth plus the fact that he has the bluest eyes I have ever seen doesn’t hurt! 😃
 
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