POLL: What do you think about "Dialogue"?

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The goals may be laudable but too often “dialogue” means sit down and let the more powerful or persistent of the parties hit the others over the head with a sledgehammer and hope they capitulate.

We can “dialogue” all we want with the Episcopalian Church but they are not going to give up abortion and supporting homosexual marriage for example. We can “dialogue” all we want with Muslims, even moderate Muslims, but they are not going to change their mind and accept Jesus Christ nor are we going to toss Jesus under the bus and embrace Mohahmed.

My favorite rabbi says “Clarity over agreement.” IOW be clear about your position, what areas are negotiable and which are not. Offer the same consideration to the other party. If there are areas of agreement work on those. For example I see Catholics and Evangelicals side by side in the pro life movement. Neither of us are going to give up our strongly held beliefs but we come together in the protection of life.

I’ve always been believer in doing not just yammering about things. It’s usually obvious immediately where the bones of contention lie and the likelihood of their being any sort of movement toward one position or the other or a compromise.

“Dialogue” has become one of those cringe inducing words right up there with “diversity” (a POX on that one).

Lisa
And yet dialogue with Episcopalians brought many of them back into the church in the Anglican/Catholic agreement, they became Catholics while still being allowed to keep some of their Episcopal/Anglican patrimony and liturgy. Would this have happened without dialogue, I doubt it.

Perhaps it might help by not being overly attached to stereotypes. Not all Episcopalians/ Anglicans support abortion and same sex relations. Not by a long shot.
 
Lisa perhaps it would profit you to look futher into history. Or even watch the film “Gangs of New York” based on history.

There were churches, monasteries and convents burnt to the ground, all from hatred of Catholicism. There were also priests and sisters murdered. All about 150 years ago and continuing. There were entire political parties such as the “Know Nothing” party based on hate for the church. And the KKK still hates and practices violence toward Catholics even now.
 
OK, depending how you define generation; to me, it’s the time for a kid to grow up and start having kids (roughly 20 years).

It’s well off living memory, in that no-one alive today however old is likely to have known anybody from that time anymore.

ICXC NIKA
I’ve always understood a generation to be 30 years. I didn’t say in living memory, I said not far off living memory, in that when you were a child there could easily have been relations alive who could recall their parents, or grandparents experiences of it, In my book if you can trace it back to people who were alive in your early life who can remember their deceased grandparents talking about it, then its not that far off living memory. If you can fairly easily trace your family connections back into it, it really is very recent history.
 
If dialogue with all other faiths is good enough for the Holy Father it’s good enough for me. I try not be more Catholic than the Pope.
 
I do not believe anyone opposes dialogue…as long as truth is not compromised.
 
To not dialogue means no evangelism and so contrary to the Church’s mission. Remember St Francis of Assisi in 1219, went to Egypt in an attempt to convert the Sultan to put an end to the conflict of the Crusades.
  • in an attempt to convert the Sultan
  • to put an end to the conflict of the Crusades.
He wasn’t successful (at least not in his ultimate objective - God knows what good Francis really did! Probably quite a bit.) but this is what I call dialoguing. Having a firm grasp on what is right. Having a worthy goal that benefits all. And putting it out there.

When one has the truth and is prepared to present and defend it … one can entertain the honest questions and challenges in a way that benefits all.

Sometimes when I hear the word “dialogue” I worry that it could be a disingenuous way to give a platform for proponents of heresies and sins – to disseminate their follies under the seeming indulgence of the Church (if it is not done judiciously).

I remember the format of the old Phil Donahue show where they’d bring in the most cutting edge aberrations of society (e.g. something like the Dick Cavett show’s presenting the North American Man Boy Love Association, NAMBLA, advocates for dismissing child abuse and statutory rape laws) – and giving them a "fair hearing" :eek: on the airwaves. Or certain Jerry Springer episodes where similar things are brought forth (followed by Jerry’s pious post disaster homilies :tsktsk::(). THAT kind of dialogue is best done in private lest the Church be a part of giving an occasion of sin to those who hadn’t considered some corruption until they heard more about it.

youtube.com/watch?v=EUrVUYYzSZ0

youtube.com/watch?v=He3LhsE0sEk < A “dialogue” sort of. :nope:🍿

Jot down the illegal ideas broadcast on the airwaves here. Interesting.

Warning: It’s Phil Donahue and (versus?!) 1960s radical Jerry Rubin. (1970).

PS: Phil is the more conservative one here (by a lot); but perhaps they converted each other. Rubin went on to become a Wall Street broker (and according to some “a Reagan Republican”). In later years he debated his radical sidekick Abbey Hoffman in a series called “Yippie vs. Yuppie,” and wrote a book called “Growing up at 37”. Donahue went on to become … well … a lot more liberal than in this clip … Rubin and Donahue accusing each other of being insincere or uptight or being rude or disingenuously helping Nixon by (the other’s) behavior or dress or manner – is amusing to me for some reason. Anyway - “dialogues” can exacerbate things as well as solve them.

I don’t say “ban dialogue”. Jesus sent his disciples out to teach (hmm, is this the same as “dialogue”?). But that bit about shaking the dust off one’s feet if a town would not listen to God’s invitation (and the TRUTH) might not be emphasized so much (methinks) in seminars and workshops that teach folks “how to” dialogue.

St. Paul’s engaging the Athenians on the hill of Mars with a reference to the shrine of the unknown god was a good conversation starter and a point of getting an audience to listen
to the Gospel by lowering their resistance … but his conversation did not turn to a discussion on the relative (i.e. equal) nature to their many gods – of the one God Paul preached.

He quickly established that the parameters of the “discussion” were to hear his presentation - and ask questions about that one, true God. 🙂
 
Dialogue can be a mutual exchange of ideas in the hopes of understanding another’s perspective. In some circles it means I want things my way and I will dialogue with you until I get it. This reminds me of arguing with a teenager. No point in it.
 
OK, depending how you define generation; to me, it’s the time for a kid to grow up and start having kids (roughly 20 years).

It’s well off living memory, in that no-one alive today however old is likely to have known anybody from that time anymore.

ICXC NIKA
Since this is squarely in my wheelhouse, I’ll have a go. My grandfather talked about his grandfathers that were injured in the civil war. That puts me four generations from it and my kids five.

My grandfather was a smoker and died in 1981. He would be 90 years old now. I’m sure there are those that are over 90 that knew those that fought in the civil war.
 
Since this is squarely in my wheelhouse, I’ll have a go. My grandfather talked about his grandfathers that were injured in the civil war. That puts me four generations from it and my kids five.

My grandfather was a smoker and died in 1981. He would be 90 years old now. I’m sure there are those that are over 90 that knew those that fought in the civil war.
Ok, point taken.

However, outliers for generational length do not change the generally observed duration.

There was a very old man at the first Obama inaugural, whose father was allegedly born into slavery (in the CSA). No one would argue from that that slavery was only “2 generations” ago.

ICXC NIKA
 
I’m intrigued over the angst that some in the Catholic Church have over the fact that there is more than one Christian Church. There are a lot of things I don’t anticipate happening in my lifetime and this would be one of them. I’m not saying that is a good or a bad thing but it is intriguing.

Even in the Catholic Church, the divisions are great. From disagreements at the parish level to more widely and hard fought divisions.

As far as “Dialogue” goes, yes, it may help or be a building block to one day the church being unified but there is so much other good it can do. I don’t think it hurts at all to celebrate the things upon which are agreed. I don’t think it a sin to love others and work together on some things when it doesn’t compromise our differing beliefs.

There are a lot of things I don’t understand about how god brings things about and often, I’m comfortable with him knowing and me not knowing. Likewise, I think the church is led by men that see the “big picture” and are led by the Holy Spirit. If you believe they are the successors of the Apostles and the Vicar of Christ, don’t you have to follow their lead?

Therefore, if the authority of the church says we should “dialogue”, I can accept that.
 
Ok, point taken.

However, outliers for generational length do not change the generally observed duration.

There was a very old man at the first Obama inaugural, whose father was allegedly born into slavery (in the CSA). No one would argue from that that slavery was only “2 generations” ago.

ICXC NIKA
I’m not claiming that my situation is normative but neither would it be unusual. I realize that people pick 20-30 years to define a generation but reality can get in the way.

My grandparents married, then he went to college at night before they had children. I’m my father’s sixth child so he was mid thirties when I was born.

If you want to be formulaic about it, suppose a Civil War veteran had a child 10 years after the end of the war (possibly and probably not a first child). Then every thirty years another generation occured, which is far from inconceivable. It is likely that the forth generation would be alive, (younger than me) If you take the same circumstances at 20 year per, the fifth generation would be five years older than me.

That four to five generations seems pretty darn valid.
 
As far as “Dialogue” goes, yes, it may help or be a building block to one day the church being unified but there is so much other good it can do. I don’t think it hurts at all to celebrate the things upon which are agreed. I don’t think it a sin to love others and work together on some things when it doesn’t compromise our differing beliefs.
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By the exceptionally inflated use of the word “dialogue” in today’s world to the degree that I cringe on someone uttering it, I came to ask myself: “What’s the point of [inter-religious] dialogue anyway?”

I don’t see the point in “dialogue”, at least not in the way I perceive it to be like. What are people hoping to achieve? I mean, i.e. Christian-Muslim “dialogue”. What do people think is going to come of it? Do Christians hope that Muslims will suddenly all convert and say “Oh dear, we’ve been wrong all along! God bless dialogue!”?

To me, “dialogue” sounds more like “Let’s talk about our views around a cup of tea”. Fancy talk but no results. I don’t think one can expect either side to change their religion, much less do I want to see a synthesis of both religions because that would most certainly be a false one.

As Christians, and Muslims would do the same, we believe our religion to be the only True Religion. Why then do we “degrade” (for lack of a better word, which is NOT to imply other people were worth less!) ourselves and sink to the level of another religion/worldview to talk about it and pretend everything were rose-coloured? Why not revive or reenforce mission?

Another example is interdenominational (though Catholicism is not a denomination) “dialogue”. I don’t see why we talk with denominations that are either schismatic and/or heretical in their beliefs and practice in a way that suggests the Catholic Church regarded them as on any level equal with Herself (Not the people, but the doctrine!). I’d favour throwing the full weight and power of the Church behind mission, calling things by what they are: Heresy.

Please don’t take this to mean I was hostile to anyone, though the words could be interpreted that way. I’m genuinely asking your opinion, and if you think I’m wrong on how I view “dialogue” and its purpose, please do correct me. 🙂
Never underestimate the power of dialogue and the meeting of minds, accompanied by good will, in international and domestic politics as well as in inter-religious relations at the group and individual level. We dialogue with our adversaries, not with our friends, in the hope of reaching a degree of compromise, even if only incremental, on certain issues and mutual understanding of the other’s position on other issues. It can also lay the groundwork for future negotiations. There is an emotional component to dialogue as well as an instrumental one, and often the former can influence the latter. In short, dialogue is better than conflict and may in the short-term or long-term serve to diffuse or resolve a tense situation.
 
Never underestimate the power of dialogue and the meeting of minds, accompanied by good will, in international and domestic politics as well as in inter-religious relations at the group and individual level. We dialogue with our adversaries, not with our friends, in the hope of reaching a degree of compromise, even if only incremental, on certain issues and mutual understanding of the other’s position on other issues. It can also lay the groundwork for future negotiations. There is an emotional component to dialogue as well as an instrumental one, and often the former can influence the latter. In short, dialogue is better than conflict and may in the short-term or long-term serve to diffuse or resolve a tense situation.
But the truth of a religion is neither a compromise nor something to be negotiated. A compromise on religion is most definitely false.

Sure, mutual understanding is important. I don’t want people to fall out either, but I do not believe one can negotiate on religion. Either a religion is true or false. A compromise, a synthesis, is necessarily false.
 
Here’s what I would do. I would secretly take hostage of government people of all Middle East States, and take them to a locked up place. There I would accomodate them in pairs, like the Syrian President with the Israeli President, and so on, in two bedroom appartments with one kitchen and one bathroom, where they would have to eat together and cook together and talk together, and I would tell them that noone would leave this place before they all got along with each other :hey_bud:
 
Here’s what I would do. I would secretly take hostage of government people of all Middle East States, and take them to a locked up place. There I would accomodate them in pairs, like the Syrian President with the Israeli President, and so on, in two bedroom appartments with one kitchen and one bathroom, where they would have to eat together and cook together and talk together, and I would tell them that noone would leave this place before they all got along with each other :hey_bud:
I wonder whether any one of them would actually survive. 😃
 
Press headlines would be:

"Middle East: Isreali President on vacation with Middle East governments at an unknown Spa Resort"

Yesterday we’ve been informed that the heads of the governments spend vatacion together at an unknown Spa Resort. The duration of this get-together is unknown. We’ve asked citizens of Israel, Syria, and a street fighter in Gaza about their opinion.

New Journal asked an Israeli citizen:
Now that Isreal is without a President for a while, how does this feel?
“Well, how does it feel? :confused: Mmhh. We just go about our business as always. We will do fine. We didn’t always have Presidents and Kings. As a matter of fact there was a time when my ancestors…”
We’ve cut the rest of the conversation here in order to save space.

News Journal asked a Syrian woman:
Now that Syria is without a President for a while how does it feel?
“I feel more at peace. We know that noone will attack anyone because we don’t know what our government is doing at that Spa Resort…”
News Journal asked a street fighter:
So now that you’re without a government for a while how does it feel?
“How does it feel? It’s boring man. We can’t fight anyone as long as we’re kind of hanging in there in this whole Spa thingy situation. I think they all gone crazy man. So we just stay at home and care for family more.”
News Journal will keep you updated on the situation at the Unknown Spa Resort.
 
Seriously though, I think that people don’t try hard enough. Most times they’re talking about each other more than with each other.
 
Seriously though, I think that people don’t try hard enough. Most times they’re talking about each other more than with each other.
Perhaps they’re afraid that if they start talking to one another they might find some common ground, and in doing so might lose some of the moral high ground they each see themselves as occupying?
 
Getting back to the OP.
Interesting topic.
Something I have noticed in the mainstream “media” that passes for journalism these days is the constant use of the phrase “the national conversation” or “the national debate” in regard to any issue.
An observation here.
“Dialogue” can be used, many times, to silence the other side.
Our First Amendment rights were not given to us for a mere “national conversation”. Our right of free speech goes way beyond mere “debate”. It trivializes our free speech rights to think the founding fathers were only thinking about “the national conversation” in regard to free speech.
I believe what phrases like that do is use a backdoor method of silencing free speech. As if our free speech is only to be used for debate or dialogue, and nothing else.
Unless human beings are allowed to stand in the public square (high tech or otherwise) and voice thier opposition, criticize, or proclaim thier thoughts or reasonings, without “dialogue” coming into the picture, free speech has been usurped. Free self expression without interuption. It also (whether we like it or not) gives me the right NOT to listen to the other side.
Why not celebrate our differences and learn from each other instead of being forced into a “national dialogue”?
Dialogue doesn’t necessarily bring unification, many times it creates deeper division.
 
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