Poll: Would you give your 19mo old a razor?

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Ok, I just have to check myself here- I am being called “over protective” b/c when my husband handed our 19mo old son a shaving razor (no guard) and encouraged him to “shave” and or shave him I mentioned that might not be a good idea. (I didn’t make a big deal about it, but let dad know my concern).

(DS was not in his lap he was free to run!)

I think it is cute if the kid is 5 and doing fake shaving with capped razor and foam, but just wasn’t too hype on the 19mo old that puts everything in his mouth or runs like lightning with contraband being just handed a razor. But, I am also a mom and tend to be the err on the side of caution type.
 
Wow, I hope you don’t get any yes answers to that. You’re very far from being over protective… Thank goodness you were there to prevent any serious injuries to DS…
 
Lifeisamazing said:
Ok, I just have to check myself here- I am being called “over protective” b/c when my husband handed our 19mo old son a shaving razor (no guard) and encouraged him to “shave” and or shave him I mentioned that might not be a good idea. (I didn’t make a big deal about it, but let dad know my concern).

(DS was not in his lap he was free to run!)

I think it is cute if the kid is 5 and doing fake shaving with capped razor and foam, but just wasn’t too hype on the 19mo old that puts everything in his mouth or runs like lightning with contraband being just handed a razor. But, I am also a mom and tend to be the err on the side of caution type.
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Reality check: you’re not overprotective. Remind hubby that grown men who know how to shave sometimes cut themselves on razors.
 
Goodness, I though you meant 19 year old at first. I thought yes, I think you being over protective. A 19 month old, no not at all. Try not to make him feel stupid though, he might just quit trying. But it doesn’t sound like you did that either. As far as I’m concerned you passed all your checks, good job. 👍
 
As I was voting “no” in the poll, I was wondering for what reason would anyone want or need to? How about getting a fake one or letting him use one with the blade removed??
 
No you aren’t being overprotective. In fact I’m surprised you said " think it is cute if the kid is 5 and doing fake shaving with capped razor and foam,"

I wouldn’t allow that either. They make toy razors for that kind of thing.
 
Why don’t you go and buy your son a toy razor and surprise DH? Your hubby obviously wants to spend some “guy” time with him, but giving a toddler a real razor is a very dangerous idea. This would encourage your DH to play with your son in his own way. And you wouldn’t have to mention this (probably embarassing to DH) incident again.
 
No. It is dangerous to let a child play with anything sharp. You are not overprotective. You are a good mother.
 
NO. NO. NO. :nope:

Ask DH if he would also hand your child a piece of broken glass? Same thing! 😦
 
If your husband seriously thought it was OK for a 19 mo old to “play shave” with a real razor, I would be afraid to leave the two of them alone in the future.
 
How did your husband react when you told him that this was not ok?
 
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I’m with you, Mom. No, there is no way I would EVER give a 19-month old a real razor. My guess is that everyone who uses a razor for its intended purpose has cut themselves using one at one time or another. Since that happens just using it properly, giving it to a toddler and treating it as if it is a toy is obviously NOT a good idea.
 
HouseArrest said:
As I was voting “no” in the poll, I was wondering for what reason would anyone want or need to? How about getting a fake one or letting him use one with the blade removed??
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I’d have to say no to using one with the blade removed. Better to have a toy one that is very distinct from the type he/she is not to touch.
 
Your husband is lucky that this is an anonymous forum. If we knew who he was, we would have to report him to child protective services. I have read your other thread, and I realize that you are under a tremendous amount of stress. Even though you are tying to decide whether your marriage can be salvaged, please don’t let your husband put your child at physical risk. Please forgive me if I sound critical because I know what you are going through, and I will pray for you.
 
Marysann said:
Your husband is lucky that this is an anonymous forum. If we knew who he was, we would have to report him to child protective services. I have read your other thread, and I realize that you are under a tremendous amount of stress. Even though you are tying to decide whether your marriage can be salvaged, please don’t let your husband put your child at physical risk. Please forgive me if I sound critical because I know what you are going through, and I will pray for you.
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I just read your other thread too. I would make note of when this happened and any other time he could do something to hurt your son… He doesn’t sound too stable to me and I probably wouldn’t leave the baby alone with him. Just my 2 cents, but I think you need to get some help, NOW!
 
dulcissima said:
How did your husband react when you told him that this was not ok?
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He rolled his eyes, said I was “over protective” and that I was stopping him from being a father. He also said he was “going to make a man out of him” , meaning my 19 mo. old.:mad:
 
Please get some help. This is not normal behavior for a father. 19 months old is a baby. What your dh did was wrong and dangerous. Please get some help!
 
happymommy said:
I just read your other thread too. I would make note of when this happened and any other time he could do something to hurt your son… He doesn’t sound too stable to me and I probably wouldn’t leave the baby alone with him. Just my 2 cents, but I think you need to get some help, NOW!
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Believe me, I have had us go to 2 different counselors, spoken to friends & family, and ofcourse, I first address concerns with my husband. His response is that I am “over protective” and he resents any (name removed by moderator)ut I have on the matter.

It is apparent that his judgement with our son is not spot on. I see at as a maturity issue and he has admitted sometimes thinking of our son as much older or more capable than his age allows. This has caused tremendous stress; I have asked him how he thinks it would feel if he did not have the luxury of knowing that I am 200% responsible with our son and trustworthy- no questions asked. He has that security- I do not.

If there is potential for harm, I intervene ofcourse. This is viewed by DH as “undermining his parenting”. But, sorry, if I see something going on that is questionable, I am going to express my concern or even step in and dissolve it. I do this in a loving way, not accusatory. Parents should be able to communicate concern without fear. I fear, but nothing will stop me from guarding my son’s best interest.

I think he is struggling with ADHD as well, but when he finally agreed to go to a doctor, he went to a Phys. Assistant in a small town that told him he was “too old to have ADHD” and said he was depressed. He then declared he did what I wanted and now he wants me to go to the doctor too, b/c I am crazy.🤷

I have just been told so much that I am over protective, that even though I do the right thing in the moment, I still check and balance by asking others.

Thanks for your (name removed by moderator)ut. I would like to find a toy set- I did not know they existed. I want DH and DS to have a relationship- one without issues like this, but his judgement is not quite where I wish it was.
 
Lifeisamazing said:
He rolled his eyes, said I was “over protective” and that I was stopping him from being a father. He also said he was “going to make a man out of him” , meaning my 19 mo. old.:mad:
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Gosh, 19 months is a baby, not a man. :(:mad: I just don’t like that phrase, it usually implies that a “man” is made through toughness. Not true. Little boys need gentleness and a safe , child proof environment also.

It seems he thinks it’s not a problem to give a baby a razor. He should acknowledge that he was incorrect.

I wouldn’t buy the baby a toy razor set either, At this age he can’t figure out the difference between a toy and the real thing. What if he finds the real thing, and plays with it?

Prayers.
 
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