Polygamy is not sin

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Actually eventhough many non believers would not practice polygamy but that doesnt mean that they disagree with my point that polygamy was allowed according to the Bible. To them the Bible allows all sorts of bad things. My purpose here is to have a theologically/historical based conversation just like some of the convos on gay marriage.

Correction to my quoted post here. I meant to say Matthew 5:32 instead of Matthew 19:9
Half the things the Bible says aren’t to be taken literally. I guess rape and infanticide are ok and we should stone people for adultery because the Bible says so. Polygamy is not justifiable according to ANYONE OR ANYTHING besides a person devoid of morals.
 
Matthew 19:3-12

Some Pharisees came to Jesus, testing Him and asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?” And He answered and said, "Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE, and said, 'FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH '? “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to GIVE HER A CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE AND SEND her AWAY?” He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way.” “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” The disciples said to Him, “If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.” But He said to them, "Not all men can accept this statement, but only those to whom it has been given. “For there are eunuchs who were born that way from their mother’s womb; and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men; and there are also eunuchs who made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. He who is able to accept this, let him accept it.”
 
Matthew 19:3-12

Some Pharisees came to Jesus, testing Him and asking, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason at all?” And He answered and said, "Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE, and said, 'FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH '? “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to GIVE HER A CERTIFICATE OF DIVORCE AND SEND her AWAY?” He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses permitted you to divorce your wives; but from the beginning it has not been this way.” “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” The disciples said to Him, “If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.” But He said to them, "Not all men can accept this statement, but only those to whom it has been given. “For there are eunuchs who were born that way from their mother’s womb; and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men; and there are also eunuchs who made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. He who is able to accept this, let him accept it.”
If this is your objection then i already posted on this in post #15 and 17 (2nd response) of this thread. I’ll add a bit more to what ive already posted before. The " two become one flesh" description of marriage is from the OT so its nothing new. But yet during that time we find that the definition of adultery as explained in the Law, did not restrict married men from marrying additional women. How could you want marriage to be monogamous but yet prohibit ONLY the wife from all extra-marital affairs? There’s an inconsistency here or God did not intend for the man to be restricted to just one spouse. Its also interesting how some want to stick to the original concept of marriage but yet they want to ignore the ‘original’ definition of adultery as it is directly explained and exemplified/applied in the OT.
 
Matthew 5:27-28:
‘You have heard that it was said, “You shall not commit adultery.” But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Thus it follows: a man is capable of committing adultery, it does not only apply to women. It follows also that it suffices that one desires a woman who is not his wife to have committed it.

End of discussion. AgnosticBoy, you really should read the Bible thoroughly before posting such inanities.
 
Matthew 5:27-28:

Thus it follows: a man is capable of committing adultery, it does not only apply to women. It follows also that it suffices that one desires a woman who is not his wife to have committed it.

End of discussion. AgnosticBoy, you really should read the Bible thoroughly before posting such inanities.
I never said that adultery did not apply to the man. I said that married men are only prohibited from sleeping with their neighbor’s wife or an already married woman. This means that married men can sleep with and marry UNmarried women. If married men couldnt sleep with ALL women then sleeping with single women would be called adultery as well but we dont find that to be the case.

As for your passage, it is vague in that it doesnt mention the marital status of the woman nor does it mention who the woman is. It would be unreasonable to say it refers to all women because then how could the guy commit adultery by lusting after his own wife. I believe the audience Jesus was speaking to already had some understanding of the Law as is indicated by verse 27 which you quoted. So based on their preexisting understanding of adultery in the LAW they wouldve taken the passage to refer to the lusting after another man’s wife. Also, look up the word ‘woman’ in the Greek language and youll find that whats translated as woman in that passage can also mean a ‘wife’. Wife/woman = the same Greek word.
 
I never said that adultery did not apply to the man. I said that married men are only prohibited from sleeping with their neighbor’s wife or an already married woman. This means that married men can sleep with and marry UNmarried women. If married men couldnt sleep with ALL women then sleeping with single women would be called adultery as well but we dont find that to be the case.

As for your passage, it is vague in that it doesnt mention the marital status of the woman nor does it mention who the woman is. It would be unreasonable to say it refers to all women because then how could the guy commit adultery by lusting after his own wife. I believe the audience Jesus was speaking to already had some understanding of the Law as is indicated by verse 27 which you quoted. So based on their preexisting understanding of adultery in the LAW they wouldve taken the passage to refer to the lusting after another man’s wife. Also, look up the word ‘woman’ in the Greek language and youll find that whats translated as woman in that passage can also mean a ‘wife’. Wife/woman = the same Greek word.
Here’s another suggestion: go to an on-line Bible site, and put in the keyword “fornication” and see what comes up.

When you’ve done your homework, get back to us.

And if that’s not enough, then go and study Natural Law.

🤷
 
The flaw in your argument is that the Bible is not a piece of legislation or a legal document. It did not need to “define” terms that everyone already understood. When God provided the commandments, he did not say “Thou shalt not commit adultery, and I define adultery to be…” or “Thou shalt not commit murder, and I define murder to mean…” He said “Don’t do this” - and everyone knew what those words meant.

It is only when people try to find an “out” that they start deciding that the Bible didn’t mean what it clearly meant.
 
Here’s another suggestion: go to an on-line Bible site, and put in the keyword “fornication” and see what comes up.

When you’ve done your homework, get back to us.

And if that’s not enough, then go and study Natural Law.

🤷
It would help if you can explain because ive already posted about fornication in post # 17. Are you saying that the ‘married’ man that sleeps with UNmarried woman is called a fornicator instead of an adulterer? If so that is false. Sleeping with anyone other than your spouse is adultery unless you’re in a polygynous culture like Jesus was.
 
The flaw in your argument is that the Bible is not a piece of legislation or a legal document. It did not need to “define” terms that everyone already understood. When God provided the commandments, he did not say “Thou shalt not commit adultery, and I define adultery to be…” or “Thou shalt not commit murder, and I define murder to mean…” He said “Don’t do this” - and everyone knew what those words meant.

It is only when people try to find an “out” that they start deciding that the Bible didn’t mean what it clearly meant.
But God did define what adultery was or involved. The entire OT can be looked at as an application of the LAW which is where you can get further clarification (or case law). You can see when God called someone an adulterer, how he treated polygamists, etc.
 
But God did define what adultery was or involved. The entire OT can be looked at as an application of the LAW which is where you can get further clarification (or case law). You can see when God called someone an adulterer, how he treated polygamists, etc.
Just because he says “X is adultery”, that is not the equivalent of “Only X is adultery.” Even assuming that it is supposed to be “precedent”, as you suggest, precedents don’t define an offense; they provide fact situations can be included as examples of that offense.

The mere fact that God could point to certain behaviour and say “This is considered adultery” supports the argument that there were other behaviours already known to be adultery. He did not say, “This is a grave moral offense that shall be known as adultery.”

The difference between an illustrative statement and a definitive one can be seen in the New Testament, where Jesus does actually define a “marriage” - it is between ONE man and ONE woman. That is not an example - Jesus states “This is what marriage means.” He does not say “If a man and a woman come together, they shall be considered married.” He does not offer one woman and one man as an example of marriage - he says “This is marriage.” You cannot have a “polygamous marriage” for the same reason you cannot have a “same-sex marriage” - the essential element (ONE man and ONE woman) is missing.
 
AgnosticBoy, can you please explain how men and women can have equal dignity as persons if polygamy is moral? If men and women are equal in dignity, I cannot see how polygamy can be moral.
 
Just because he says “X is adultery”, that is not the equivalent of “Only X is adultery.” Even assuming that it is supposed to be “precedent”, as you suggest, precedents don’t define an offense; they provide fact situations can be included as examples of that offense.
A definition does not have to be comprehensive just as long as it explains what something is, even if its just in one instance. With that said, i can agree with you that the Bible does not offer a definition for adultery but you can use the examples and description/usages to form a definition and rule some things out. Thats part of what scholars do. The Hebrew concordances that Ive researched go more into detail about ‘naaph’ (Hebrew word for adultery) and they never refer to adultery as being about a married man with an unmarried woman so that was never included as adultery. Given that Israel was a polygynous nation then i doubt we can say that this scholarly definition is based on an excuse to sin as you suggested in your previous post to me.
The mere fact that God could point to certain behaviour and say “This is considered adultery” supports the argument that there were other behaviours already known to be adultery. He did not say, “This is a grave moral offense that shall be known as adultery.”
I wouldnt say that they considered other things to be adultery but rather they had a preexisting understanding of it, like sleeping with married woman being the ONLY thing that adultery involved. There are multiple definitions of adultery depending on the types of marriages allowed. I would say that Moses pointing to just that one rule on adultery could just as easily been all there was to it because the culture was a polygynous one. Also, when every mention of adultery in the OT in relation to MARRIED males is always about another man’s wife or neighbor’s wife as opposed to ALL women not his spouse - single or married, then you have to wonder about the correlation to polygyny.
The difference between an illustrative statement and a definitive one can be seen in the New Testament, where Jesus does actually define a “marriage” - it is between ONE man and ONE woman. That is not an example - Jesus states “This is what marriage means.” He does not say “If a man and a woman come together, they shall be considered married.” He does not offer one woman and one man as an example of marriage - he says “This is marriage.” You cannot have a “polygamous marriage” for the same reason you cannot have a “same-sex marriage” - the essential element (ONE man and ONE woman) is missing.
My understanding of BiBLiCAL polygamy is that it also invovlves one man and one woman but it also involves having more than one marriage. Jesus did not say you can only have one marriage at a time. A polygamous man w/ 2 wives fir instance would have 2 separate marriages with one wife in each. That leaves each marriage with 2 people.
 
AgnosticBoy, can you please explain how men and women can have equal dignity as persons if polygamy is moral? If men and women are equal in dignity, I cannot see how polygamy can be moral.
Well seeing as how defense of Biblical polygamy often includes defense of the patriarchal structure, society, and culture, it’s obviously every feminists’ worst nightmare. 🤷
 
A definition does not have to be comprehensive just as long as it explains what something is, even if its just in one instance. With that said, i can agree with you that the Bible does not offer a definition for adultery but you can use the examples and description/usages to form a definition and rule some things out. Thats part of what scholars do. The Hebrew concordances that Ive researched go more into detail about ‘naaph’ (Hebrew word for adultery) and they never refer to adultery as being about a married man with an unmarried woman so that was never included as adultery. Given that Israel was a polygynous nation then i doubt we can say that this scholarly definition is based on an excuse to sin as you suggested in your previous post to me.
First, you’re wrong. A definition is, by its very nature, comprehensive. It defines the word - it doesn’t offer one example of what the word means. If it is anything else, it is an illustration or an example.

Second, the fact that polygyny existed does not mean that it was moral; it means that it existed. Assume people looked back on our society two thousand years from now; would they then be able to conclude the pre-marital sex was moral? Or abortion? Or euthanasia? All exist and in many places are legal - but that does not equate to morality.
I wouldnt say that they considered other things to be adultery but rather they had a preexisting understanding of it, like sleeping with married woman being the ONLY thing that adultery involved. There are multiple definitions of adultery depending on the types of marriages allowed. I would say that Moses pointing to just that one rule on adultery could just as easily been all there was to it because the culture was a polygynous one. Also, when every mention of adultery in the OT in relation to MARRIED males is always about another man’s wife or neighbor’s wife as opposed to ALL women not his spouse - single or married, then you have to wonder about the correlation to polygyny.
There is nothing in the Bible or church teaching that supports that the pre-existing notion was that adultery would only occur between a married man and another married woman, particularly given that they were operating in a society that highly valued virginity and scorned prostitutes. It is simply inconsistent with what we know of society during that time to believe that they would be less scornful of having sex with an unmarried woman (who should be chaste) than they would be in having sex with a married woman (who is to be faithful to another).
My understanding of BiBLiCAL polygamy is that it also invovlves one man and one woman but it also involves having more than one marriage. Jesus did not say you can only have one marriage at a time. A polygamous man w/ 2 wives fir instance would have 2 separate marriages with one wife in each. That leaves each marriage with 2 people.
No, it leaves him with one marriage with three people, for each of his wives is connected to the other through the man. You cannot ignore or deny the relationship formed between the women through the polygynous relationship, and this is where the argument falls apart.

It is also inconsistent with Biblical teaching. Paul says that “…a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and** the two shall become one**.” The husband is not a separate person who is then free to go enter into another marriage; he is one with his wife.

You are relying heavily on the Old Testament, but ignoring that between the time of the Old Testament and Jesus’s arrival, the prophets prepared the people for a deeper understanding of the unity and indissolubility of marriage. This is why Jesus acknowledges that Moses had previously said men could divorce their wives, but he was forbidding it; because that law was a concession to the “hardness of their hearts”. The permission of polygyny was likewise the result of the “hardness of hearts” that did not understand the unity of marriage and how it unites two persons into one.
 
I’m trying to figure out the logic, and rationality of reading the Bible to defend the doctrine that polygamy is good and that only women can commit adultery and not men…using a personal interpretation of scripture?

without the Jewish interpretation of scripture (Jewish Tradition)?

Jesus cited a Jewish Rabbi who had marriage being one woman and one man. I think his is authoritative.

In addition, an agnostic using a protestant method…is also confusing and illogical.

Here’s an idea. Who wrote it, ask them. The Big Boss is upstairs. Ask him 🙂
 
AgnosticBoy, can you please explain how men and women can have equal dignity as persons if polygamy is moral? If men and women are equal in dignity, I cannot see how polygamy can be moral.
I cant go too much into this because its off topic to this forum and im no expert.
 
Why on Earth would anyone want a Dozen wives,I struggle keeping up with just One,:o
Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines

1 Kings 11:1-3: Now King Solomon loved many foreign women, along with the daughter of Pharaoh: Moabite, Ammonite, Edomite, Sidonian, and Hittite women…He had 700 wives, who were princesses, and 300 concubines. 🙂
 
And did he confirm this with each one ? Where would anyone get the time ?
 
And did he confirm this with each one ? Where would anyone get the time ?
Maybe, maybe not. However, it is rather telling all the same. When you know some history, you’ll see that Solomon was no more different than other Asian emperors of his time.

Of course many cite Solomon’s numerous marriages as instrumental to his downfall too but there’s always Jacob. 🤷
 
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