Polygamy question for same-sex marriage supporters

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A curious point occurred to me as I was thinking about same-sex marriage.

One of the most common arguments for same-sex marriage is that to deny it is a violation of a right. So would one also support the legalisation of polygamous marriages? Could it not be argued that those who desire polygamy have the same “right” to marriage as gay couples, and thus should be recognised by law? If one would support same-sex marriages but not polygamous marriages, is that not hypocritical?

I’ve never really thought about this before so am interested to hear any other perspectives on it.
 
There is more evidence to suggest polygamy is bad for society. Polygamy has to stay illegal because if it were to ever catch on in bulk it would spark a huge contest among males to find females and find a female would be less based on love so much as based on competing against all the other males around you. Plus it hurts the spread of genetic material.
There is less evidence to use to show same-sex marriage harms society. A start would be to actually do some real studies so we had something to go off of though. I also believe gay marriage gets a lot more support from the left then polygamy could ever hope to get because the gay marriage movement spits in the face of religion, which the left likes. The gay marriage movement also is for obvious reasons not an incredibly fruitful relationship haha. Thus a gay couple isn’t bringing in anymore new carbon-dioxide producing killer babies into the world either. I’m sure the far-left wishes more marriages would be as infertile as gay marriages in the name of stopping man-made global warming.
 
Well, of coiurse, the irony of the situation is that the Mormons, in order to win statehood for Utah, had to change their religious doctrine of salvation to repudiate polygamy .

Skip forward to California over a hundred years later, and they are vilified for supporting that which was forced on them earlier (marriage being between one man and one woman).
 
Catholic leaders in the United States have been warning very emphatically that same sex marriage weakens the institution of marriage. Leaders in the movement for same sex marriage in North America have already sometimes been asked if same sex marriage could lead to the legalization of polyamy and typically they will immediately dismiss the possibility and won’t talk about it. However, polygamists in the U.S. and Canada have already been calling for the legalization of polygamy, using the same arguments that have worked for the legalization of same sex marriage. And polygamy is now being practiced in North America, particularly among fringe groups of the Mormanism. I don’t know about Europe, but it is possible that polygamy will be legalized, perhaps especially in Canada, because of the weakening of traditional convictions about marriage.
 
A curious point occurred to me as I was thinking about same-sex marriage.

One of the most common arguments for same-sex marriage is that to deny it is a violation of a right. So would one also support the legalisation of polygamous marriages? Could it not be argued that those who desire polygamy have the same “right” to marriage as gay couples, and thus should be recognised by law? If one would support same-sex marriages but not polygamous marriages, is that not hypocritical?

I’ve never really thought about this before so am interested to hear any other perspectives on it.
AWESOME QUESTION Perfect Timing…

I liked the comment of one of the participants that said we need more studies to look at this with respect to genetic issues (inbreeding, etc) and its effects on society. I think for us to be consistent, we need to recognize a socio-cultural context for polygamy and perhaps a religious polygamy in which case authentic situations in my mind should be legal.

In terms of same sex marriage the issue has been dealt with 10 years ago by our Canadian government; it is a piece of legislation that I am proud of…it allows Canada to legalize any kind of marriage it wants, but State marriage is not imposed upon the church…so while we have same sex state marriages in Canada we have not nor would not impose same sex “sacraments” of marriage…that would be against our Charter of Freedom and Rights…

So I support the State (in the US too) in calling marriage whatever it wants, as long as the legislation respects and does not discriminate against churches in following their conscience with respect to the “sacrament” of marriage…

To be consitent though, I thinkwe ougt to allow the State to legalize both polygamy and same sex marriage…in a way that respects and protects the rights of churchs to express their freedom of religion…

That is my take on it…

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polygamy isn’t recognized because to legalize it would be a monstrous legal fiasco. according to law, there cant be more than two spouses. it’s not an ethical or morality question.
 
This question are for same sex marriage supporter so pardon me if I will join this conversation, because I am not a supporter of same sex marriage.
For topics according to polygamy, I know it is forbidden by God, because when He created us all, even from the beginning He just made 2 person, equivalent to one pair to become model of all mankind. So multiple marriage is not ethical from the Bible.
 
“One of the most common arguments for same-sex marriage is that to deny it is a violation of a right.”

Manifestation of disobedience of a society to the teaching of the Church.

“Could it not be argued that those who desire polygamy have the same “right” to marriage as gay couples”

Manifestation of disobedience of a society to the teaching of the Church.

The hypocrisy lies in the audacity to make a Sodomic decision.

Andy
 
There is more evidence to suggest polygamy is bad for society. Polygamy has to stay illegal because if it were to ever catch on in bulk it would spark a huge contest among males to find females and find a female would be less based on love so much as based on competing against all the other males around you. Plus it hurts the spread of genetic material.
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I think the greater argument against Polygamy is one of economy. Can you imagine your insurance premiums when insurance is demanded for you, your four wives, and eight kids? If your employer provides health benefits, be prepared to be working two or more jobs. One job would cover your health care costs alone.This is not to mention those who woulld “marry” just to recieve benefits. Come to think of it, can you immagine the impact on government pensions, of Social Security? If you think we’re broke now…
 
I tend to agree. The argument for same-sex marriage extends very readily to polygamy (whether it’s multiple wives, multiple husbands, or both), the key being consenting adults.

To me, though, the problem is more difficult than the OP puts it. The idea of the “legalisation of” any kind of marriage is a bit problematic, to me. What makes a Catholic marriage a sacrament is not that it’s legislated–right? Thus, “legislating” gay marriage (or multiple-partner marriage) doesn’t make it a sacrament. Perhaps we should just de-legislate marriage altogether and be done with this debate???

On the other hand, if the poisonous effect on society is really the primary concern, then regarding marriage, we need to talk more about divorce! Gay marriage may not be part of God’s plan, it’s not the social problem that it’s presented as. Divorce is an ***enormous ***problem, and I don’t hear it talked about much.
 
I propose that any two long term co-domiciling adults should be able to enter into a domestic partnership which packages a number of rights such as making medical decisions, joint estate etc. It notably would not include tax benefits or adoption privilege. Longterm here would refer to three years or three of four years. I frankly don’t see why if a brother and sister are co-domiciling long term and the brother is working he couldn’t apply the normal spousal health care benefit instead to his sister. I don’t see why two best friends who have been co-domiciling shouldn’t be able to be the executor of estate for each other.
 
Socially, polygamy tends to increase competition for females between males, centralize resource control within the hands of a few powerful men, marginalize young males who are unable to gain access to wives, increase birth defects by intermarriage over generations (as seen in Colorado City, a polygamist community on the Arizona/Utah border), increase political coruption within a community, and increase sexual assault of minors (as seen in practice in Colorado City). It’s a social evil in today’s society.
 
Socially, polygamy tends to increase competition for females between males,…marginalize young males who are unable to gain access to wives,
Is this true? In a “free” society, how common would polygamy be? How many people would desire to share a spouse? The allowance of something doesn’t mean it would become normative. Do you have any evidence other than the peculiar examples of polygamy that you mention?
centralize resource control within the hands of a few powerful men,
How?
increase birth defects by intermarriage over generations (as seen in Colorado City, a polygamist community on the Arizona/Utah border),
I don’t know the example, but I do know that polygamy does not inherently lead to intermarriage. Why are you saying this would *necessarily *result, or that it would *tend *to happen? In a tiny, isolated, socially self-contained social group, sure, it’s going to happen. But, in a broader society that prefers monogamy as the norm, legalizing polygamy alone will not lead to these problems.
increase political corruption within a community,
If you mean it would result in family ties being more important to local politics, I think you’re right. But, then again, part of the problem with modern society (perhaps *the *problem) is the separation of economics and politics from local communal social bonds, so this is the kind of “corruption” we could use more of! That it wouldn’t mesh well with our society currently is a better critique of the modern nation-state and global economics than of polygamy.
and increase sexual assault of minors (as seen in practice in Colorado City). It’s a social evil in today’s society.
Again, you’re suggesting that sexual assault is the consequence of polygamy. It’s really the consequence of the general socio-cultural system you’re referring to (which is a fringe, socially outcast group).

Yeah, polygamy is a social evil in today’s society, but there is no way to really determine whether that’s a consequence of polygamy or a consequence of the practice being maligned and pressed back to the margins of society. As an analogy, drugs are an enormous social evil. That social evil is largely created, ironically, by the war on drugs, which makes the entire market for those drugs illegal and beyond regulation and normal social influence.

Are there 21st Century examples where polygamy is a legal option but not normative? That would be the example to look at to consider what it would be like in the US were it legalized.
 
I propose that any two long term co-domiciling adults should be able to enter into a domestic partnership which packages a number of rights such as making medical decisions, joint estate etc. It notably would not include tax benefits or adoption privilege. Longterm here would refer to three years or three of four years. I frankly don’t see why if a brother and sister are co-domiciling long term and the brother is working he couldn’t apply the normal spousal health care benefit instead to his sister. I don’t see why two best friends who have been co-domiciling shouldn’t be able to be the executor of estate for each other.
Why not tax them the same way as married couples? Or, alternatively, eliminate all tax laws organized around questions of marriage and family?

Why not allow a brother-sister domestic partnership to adopt?
 
Is this true? In a “free” society, how common would polygamy be? How many people would desire to share a spouse? The allowance of something doesn’t mean it would become normative. Do you have any evidence other than the peculiar examples of polygamy that you mention?
Well, the peculiar examples of polygamy give us the data with which to work. I don’t know of any polygamous communities where the role of women isn’t devalued. Perhaps the results would be different if we looked at polyandrous communities, but my understanding is that those are few and far between, as human biology, in the absence of Christian moral codes, supports polygamy but not polyandry. Interestingly, Polygamous communities generally outlaw polyandry.

Most of the nations of Northern Africa and the Muslim crescent (except Israel, Turkey, and Tunisia) have legal polygamy. Many states that bow to Sharia law recognize it, even if the federal government does not. Australia and the United Kingdom, which might as well just recognize that they are under Sharia law themselves, recognize polygamous marriages that are contracted outside of Australia. There have been some American communistic societies, such as the Oneida Community, that practiced Group Marriage (with no set partners) and various 1960s hippie communities, and all fell apart because of the inherent instability in such relationships and the natural human desire for closeness with one mate.

I am most familiar with the polygamous communities of the American southwest. In those communities, and from what I know of African and Muslim communities, the most wealthy men are able to support the largest harems (and politically support the institution of polygamy, which benefits them) As they have the most financial resources, they are able to attract those women who seek material assets, and to force or pay poorer families to agree to offer their younger, most desirable, and most fertile daughters in marriage. Inevitably, this produces relatonships where the wife does not share complete psychological union with her husband, the resulting children do not have the full attention of their fathers, and competition between the numerous half-brothers for inheritance increases societal friction and violence.

This also produces young men who are “locked out” of the ability to marry, who are often cast out of the community by the older males.

It could be, as you suggest that polygamy as practiced in a larger community would reduce some of these societal ills. However, they still are widespread in the Muslim nations where not every marriage is polygamous, and so I doubt this would be the case.

Many men practice de facto polygamy without the benefit of marriage in western society (such as many of the socially dysfunctional men of the inner cities of America and Europe), and we can see the same evils. Some cult leaders, such as David Koresh, practiced similar systems with their followers. None of these are healthy communities.

So to answer your question, de facto polygamous communities, as well as politically and religiously sanctioned versions, are alive and well in the world. You wouldn’t want to live in any of the communities where it is recognized.

(There’s a popular children’s history book series about how unpleasant life could be in other times, with titles like YOU WOULDN’T WANT TO BE A ROMAN SLAVE! and YOU WOULDN’T WANT TO BE A PILGRIM! Maybe the next book in the series should be YOU WOULDN’T WANT TO BE IN A POLYGAMOUS COUNTRY!)
 
I don’t know the example, but I do know that polygamy does not inherently lead to intermarriage. Why are you saying this would *necessarily *result, or that it would *tend *to happen? In a tiny, isolated, socially self-contained social group, sure, it’s going to happen. But, in a broader society that prefers monogamy as the norm, legalizing polygamy alone will not lead to these problems.
I would argue that polygamous communities restrict the number of births to a smaller group of men, which results in lessened genetic diversity. (De Facto polygamy is even more dangerous, as one could have sex with a sibling or first cousin in a neighborhood or town because you don’t know for sure who each other’s father really was.)

Here’s an article on the genetic birth defects that result from an Arizona polygamous community:

phoenixnewtimes.com/2005-12-29/news/forbidden-fruit/
If you mean it would result in family ties being more important to local politics, I think you’re right. But, then again, part of the problem with modern society (perhaps *the *problem) is the separation of economics and politics from local communal social bonds, so this is the kind of “corruption” we could use more of! That it wouldn’t mesh well with our society currently is a better critique of the modern nation-state and global economics than of polygamy.
Well, actually I meant that the greater concentration of power, wealth, and political and religious influence in the men who run harems means they are able to suborn families in providing them with younger daughters for marriage, often against the girls’ wills.

Not all polygamists are wealthy, of course, which leads to another problem of corruption in a social welfare society. Many polygamists in North America are unable to support all the children they produce, so they illegally put their children on the public dole by claiming the women in their harem are single mothers. Now you and I must pay to support the polygamist’s desire for a harem of wives through our tax dollars. (This is also a problem with de facto polygamy).
Again, you’re suggesting that sexual assault is the consequence of polygamy. It’s really the consequence of the general socio-cultural system you’re referring to (which is a fringe, socially outcast group).
Sexual contact with a minor by an adult is sexual assault, period. The men who seek polygamy are driven by a desire for sexual novelty and in practice, seek newer and younger women. As a result, they seek to marry very young girls. That’s sexual assault, as a child cannot legally consent to a sexual relationship. Plural marriage of children is common in Muslim countries as well, so this argument cannot be confined to a fringe, socially outcast group.
Yeah, polygamy is a social evil in today’s society, but there is no way to really determine whether that’s a consequence of polygamy or a consequence of the practice being maligned and pressed back to the margins of society. As an analogy, drugs are an enormous social evil. That social evil is largely created, ironically, by the war on drugs, which makes the entire market for those drugs illegal and beyond regulation and normal social influence.
I have already considered and discarded your argument.

(J/K. I had a really obnoxious boss who used to say that to me.)😉

The libertarian argument for polygamy argues that the social pressures of being outlawed actually create the undesireable social conditions associated with the outlawed activity. The problem arises from the fact that we don’t live in a strictly laissez-faire society, one in which we would not be held to society’s standards, but also one in which society would not financially support our ill-considered choices. Rather, we live in a society where the givernment, through it’s ability to collect taxes, supports those who make screwed-up choices. Thus, libertarian solutions to issues such as drug use - and polygamy - can only be half-measures that require the active financial support of those who don’t profit from the proscribed practice. Thus, I don’t use illegal drugs, but I must still support the social welfare system that allows drugs users who are unable to hold a steady job (because their drug use makes them late for work, unable to keep appointments, and unable to keep from sassing their boss) and need community health care because of the health risks associated with marijuana, crack, heroin, steroid, and meth abuse. As the users of those drugs also make moral choices that result in fractured families and ignored, handicapped, and abused children (as most drug users ultimately love their drug of choice more than their children), I must pay for the cost of the community programs that care for such kids, deal with their learning disabilities, and ultimately pay for their incarceration when they grow up.

Our society could free me from having to pay for the enormous societal costs of giving those drug-users a financial free-ride to support their lifestyle choices, by refusing to shelter drug users and their children from the results of their choices - most of which, as I described, have little to do with the “war on drugs” and which would result even if drugs were completely legal - but I would prefer not to live in such a society. Thus, I prefer to keep most drugs illegal, or at least tightly controlled, as long as we live in a society where the law, political sentiment, and our moral duties require us to look out for one another.
Are there 21st Century examples where polygamy is a legal option but not normative? That would be the example to look at to consider what it would be like in the US were it legalized.
Saudi Arabia comes to mind. Again, you probably wouldn’t want to live there.
 
I propose that any two long term co-domiciling adults should be able to enter into a domestic partnership which packages a number of rights such as making medical decisions, joint estate etc. It notably would not include tax benefits or adoption privilege. Longterm here would refer to three years or three of four years. I frankly don’t see why if a brother and sister are co-domiciling long term and the brother is working he couldn’t apply the normal spousal health care benefit instead to his sister. I don’t see why two best friends who have been co-domiciling shouldn’t be able to be the executor of estate for each other.
I agree, nice to see some progressive thinking…🙂

Bruce Ferguson
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Polygamy does not violate the natural law. Homosexual acts do.
Interesting point Castello…I support state defined same sex marriage and argued originally that in the interest of consistency our state ought to legalize polygamous marriage…your point is interesting…could you elaborate on it?

Bruce Ferguson
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