Porn Question

[ndeparis88]

i have to ask,why do posters think its cute to skirt the ban on profanity ?

I sincerely apologize I did not know the ban extended that far.

 

[beehumble]

Well the reason why I was in doubt is because some of the interfaces for certain devices don’t even bring certain images up because of their technical type. On wii it uses Opera and it will only bring up pictures but not play streaming video it even has a hard time playing you tube.

What I wonder though is if I still am in the realm of venial, or is it mortal. I don’t like “testing” it out that way and I know I could have looked in the manual, but I mean I was going in not with a bad intention and that’s not me trying to cover up for myself, I was ready to literally close my eyes and hit the back button.

Seems to me you could have tested for jpeg viewing with a picture of Obama or some other common image. And for flash you could have pulled up a Christian video or a sports video - anything but a porno.

What’s the point of discussing it here or with a priest - just confess to a priest and say you pulled up over the internet some porn images and the beginnings of a porn video one time, and be done with it.

(And you don’t need to discuss why you did it or go into a lengthy explanation with the priest - remember, Jesus knows everything you did and He knows what you were thinking when you did it, too. If a guy slaps his mother, all he has to say is, “I slapped my mother one time.”
Your being there confessing it means you regret it, and it means you trust in Jesus’ Mercy to forgive you. Confess it and rejoice afterwards, knowing you once again have the sanctifying grace needed to enter Heaven! )

God bless you.

 

[ndeparis88]

Seems to me you could have tested for jpeg viewing with a picture of Obama or some other common image. And for flash you could have pulled up a Christian video or a sports video - anything but a porno.

What’s the point of discussing it here or with a priest - just confess to a priest and say you pulled up over the internet some porn images and the beginnings of a porn video one time, and be done with it.

(And you don’t need to discuss why you did it or go into a lengthy explanation with the priest - remember, Jesus knows everything you did and He knows what you were thinking when you did it, too. If a guy slaps his mother, all he has to say is, “I slapped my mother one time.”
Your being there confessing it means you regret it, and it means you trust in Jesus’ Mercy to forgive you. Confess it and rejoice afterwards, knowing you once again have the sanctifying grace needed to enter Heaven! )

God bless you.

I’m more concerned with receiving the host. I would like to wait because it’s venial and I try to store up venial sins to go to confession. I usually no matter what I do go to confession once a month, but I’ve been for last week and the week before gone. I know I have to talk about it with my priest. But I don’t want to go in having to say I jump off the no porn masturbation ban wagon again. I know it may seem futile but still.

 

[Oxford_Cleric]

I’m more concerned with receiving the host. I would like to wait because it’s venial and I try to store up venial sins to go to confession. I usually no matter what I do go to confession once a month, but I’ve been for last week and the week before gone. I know I have to talk about it with my priest. But I don’t want to go in having to say I jump off the no porn masturbation ban wagon again. I know it may seem futile but still.

Please do not let that stop you from confessing. Confession is a weapon and Satan is telling you to put it down. You’re in a battle; fight on. The priest knows all about the difficulty of overcoming this sin. I once read (I can’t recall where) of an Orthodox monk who spoke about our souls as a garden, and our sins as weeds in that garden. Sure, the same old weeds keep springing up - that’s exactly why we have to weed the garden constantly. For the gardener, this is a source of satisfaction and joy. I’m praying for you, friend!

 

[ndeparis88]

Please do not let that stop you from confessing. Confession is a weapon and Satan is telling you to put it down. You’re in a battle; fight on. The priest knows all about the difficulty of overcoming this sin. I once read (I can’t recall where) of an Orthodox monk who spoke about our souls as a garden, and our sins as weeds in that garden. Sure, the same old weeds keep springing up - that’s exactly why we have to weed the garden constantly. For the gardener, this is a source of satisfaction and joy. I’m praying for you, friend!

It’s not going to stop me from confession I would just like to know if it’s venial enough. It’s not that it’s annoying to go to confession, quite the contrary. It just bothers me I would be going for the third straight week but this time I really didn’t do any of the things I did in the previous two weeks.

 

[Oxford_Cleric]

It’s not going to stop me from confession I would just like to know if it’s venial enough. It’s not that it’s annoying to go to confession, quite the contrary. It just bothers me I would be going for the third straight week but this time I really didn’t do any of the things I did in the previous two weeks.

I really, really don’t want you to think I’m being a jerk about this, and I know you’re trying your best to do the right thing. However, what you said about whether your sin was “venial enough” (to receive Communion, I’m guessing) shows me that you still need to adjust your thinking. Don’t keep walking along the edge of the building and trying to see how far you can lean over before you fall! As of right now, consult you conscience. Is Our Lord on the cross O.K. with what you did, or not? That’s the point.

 

[StJudeprayforme]

It’s not going to stop me from confession I would just like to know if it’s venial enough. It’s not that it’s annoying to go to confession, quite the contrary. It just bothers me I would be going for the third straight week but this time I really didn’t do any of the things I did in the previous two weeks.

Something is either venial or it is mortal, there isn’t really an in between.

The questions you have to ask yourself is “Did I knowingly put myself in a near occasion of mortal sin?” and “Was I actually trying to test the browser capabilities, or was I just looking for an excuse?”

If the answer to these questions is that you did knowingly put yourself in a near occasion of mortal sin, and you were not just testing the browser capabilities, then you should talk to your priest about it before receiving Holy Communion. He may tell you in the confessional that you did not commit a mortal sin, and not to worry about it, or he may tell you that you did. The important thing is to talk to him and be honest. Bl. John Paul II went to confession weekly, and there are many people who go weekly or even more frequently (I think I heard a rumour that Ven. Pius XII went daily…)

Confession is a grace, and receiving it even when we are not in a state or mortal sin is a good thing. Don’t be afraid.

 

[beehumble]

I’m more concerned with receiving the host. I would like to wait because it’s venial and I try to store up venial sins to go to confession. I usually no matter what I do go to confession once a month, but I’ve been for last week and the week before gone. I know I have to talk about it with my priest. But I don’t want to go in having to say I jump off the no porn masturbation ban wagon again. I know it may seem futile but still.

You should try fasting. Some sins can only be overcome by adding fasting to prayer. Try to fast on bread (croissants or Hawaiian Rolls or just plain bread) and some beverage (some people feel they can’t do water since they feel they need the caffeine from coffee or soft drinks) on Wednesdays and then add Fridays after awhile. I believe you will find it strengthens you.

God bless you.

 

[ndeparis88]

I really, really don’t want you to think I’m being a jerk about this, and I know you’re trying your best to do the right thing. However, what you said about whether your sin was “venial enough” (to receive Communion, I’m guessing) shows me that you still need to adjust your thinking. Don’t keep walking along the edge of the building and trying to see how far you can lean over before you fall! As of right now, consult you conscience. Is Our Lord on the cross O.K. with what you did, or not? That’s the point.

I never really do that though. I’m not trying to see how much I can get away with. I don’t go looking and looking for the edge to say oh I’m in the confines of doing this or that so I can take these liberties. I feel like I’m suppose to turn myself in for a crime I didn’t commit. I have no problem confessing if I actually did masturbate while watching porn but I didn’t. There was no lust in my heart, I just wanted to chains off,to know what is around me that I really need to watch for.

 

[dshix]

I never really do that though. I’m not trying to see how much I can get away with. I don’t go looking and looking for the edge to say oh I’m in the confines of doing this or that so I can take these liberties. I feel like I’m suppose to turn myself in for a crime I didn’t commit. I have no problem confessing if I actually did masturbate while watching porn but I didn’t. There was no lust in my heart, I just wanted to chains off,to know what is around me that I really need to watch for.

You are the only person who knows whether or not you sinned. We do not know if you really had a secret intent inside to “accidentally” see some porn before shutting it off.

The only way for you to resolve this is to speak to your priest, who knows you, so he can probe in and help you bring out in yourself your true intent.

Besides, you probably committed a sin of putting yourself in an occasion of sin willfully.

 

[ndeparis88]

You are the only person who knows whether or not you sinned. We do not know if you really had a secret intent inside to “accidentally” see some porn before shutting it off.

The only way for you to resolve this is to speak to your priest, who knows you, so he can probe in and help you bring out in yourself your true intent.

Besides, you probably committed a sin of putting yourself in an occasion of sin willfully.

Yeah, I didn’t think about that last part. to be frank I didn’t know about it.

 

[Oxford_Cleric]

I never really do that though. I’m not trying to see how much I can get away with. I don’t go looking and looking for the edge to say oh I’m in the confines of doing this or that so I can take these liberties. I feel like I’m suppose to turn myself in for a crime I didn’t commit. I have no problem confessing if I actually did masturbate while watching porn but I didn’t. There was no lust in my heart, I just wanted to chains off,to know what is around me that I really need to watch for.

Well, as you know, the world around us can be a spiritually dangerous and challenging place to be. I guess the best thing I can say at this point is keep on keeping on, make (as you are doing) frequent use of the Sacraments - and consider devoting a bit more time to looking toward Jesus and his promises, and maybe a little less time looking “around” for possible threatening sins. God is with you!