Pornography and Catholicism

[TheBreak]

English is not my native language, I’m sorry for any misspellings.

I don’t have priest who I can go talk to and ask his help, I can’t go to Catholic church because of my background religion. so this is the only place where I can ask for help.

I said before that my background religion was very very hard on many things, from watching pornography to touching women even handshakes or even listening to music or sometimes watching women on TV on the news some people think it is not allowed. So I became atheist and after all these rules and rules and rules and rules and this circle of things you can’t do I found in atheism my freedom , at that time and as a result of the rules I felt free but too much free, where I went doing almost everything that might be forbidden and now here I’m found the Christ and found the religion where it is in the middle, don’t have these too much rules that make you go crazy and at the same time has values that really worth calling them values. but I still have thing I need to change in my life as a result of the mess that I went throw and one of these issues is watching porno, I tried many times to stop them and I did for about 3 weeks (I need a medal for that) but I watched one just to check out and the whole issue back all over again and even stronger than before. and now I’m stuck in this issue again, Help please.

 

[billcu1]

English is not my native language, I’m sorry for any misspellings.

I don’t have priest who I can go talk to and ask his help, I can’t go to Catholic church because of my background religion. so this is the only place where I can ask for help.

I said before that my background religion was very very hard on many things, from watching pornography to touching women even handshakes or even listening to music or sometimes watching women on TV on the news some people think it is not allowed. So I became atheist and after all these rules and rules and rules and rules and this circle of things you can’t do I found in atheism my freedom , at that time and as a result of the rules I felt free but too much free, where I went doing almost everything that might be forbidden and now here I’m found the Christ and found the religion where it is in the middle, don’t have these too much rules that make you go crazy and at the same time has values that really worth calling them values. but I still have thing I need to change in my life as a result of the mess that I went throw and one of these issues is watching porno, I tried many times to stop them and I did for about 3 weeks (I need a medal for that) but I watched one just to check out and the whole issue back all over again and even stronger than before. and now I’m stuck in this issue again, Help please.

If you’re trying to live like a catholic have you ever considered RCIA? There’s no obligation. Then you could ask a priest questions. I don’t think you have to be catholic to talk to them.

 

[TheBreak]

If you’re trying to live like a catholic have you ever considered RCIA? There’s no obligation. Then you could ask a priest questions. I don’t think you have to be catholic to talk to them.

I wish if I could, but in my country if the authority knew that I left my background religion I might face jail time and because of that Catholic churches are no way would help me, I tried and sadly I got fired of the church because they are afraid of what might happen to them.

 

[MidnightSun12]

Having access to the sacrament of reconciliation (confession) and the holy Eucharist is very important, please continue try your best to find a safe way to become baptized and confirmed in the Catholic Church. Don’t give up, I know our Lord will help you here.

As for dealing with addictions to pornography. This video gives some really useful advice:

youtube.com/watch?v=pyx_vvWLfKI

God bless. My prayers are with you.

 

[ready]

Have a deep and loving devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary, who will help you to be pure if you invoke her often and zealously. Pray the Rosary faithfully every day for purity and for your other needs. Pray 3 Hail Marys in the morning and at night in honor of Our Lady’s Immaculate Conception, for the virtue of purity, chastity and virginity. Hope in the Blessed Virgin Mary and do not stop to invoke her assistance. She is your hope and she *will *help you if you turn to her with the deepest love, trust and devotion. Avoid all occasions of sin like the plague, and pray like you never have prayed before. Don’t ever give up, for Mary will help you if you turn to her with confidence in her mediation. God bless you.

 

[devoutchristian]

I wish if I could, but in my country if the authority knew that I left my background religion I might face jail time and because of that Catholic churches are no way would help me, I tried and sadly I got fired of the church because they are afraid of what might happen to them.

stjosephcanonlaw.com/

They can help you report those wicked men who refused to instruct you in the faith to the competent ecclesiastical authority. You should report the priest(s) who refused you to the bishop so that you can convert and so that he can’t commit such spiritual abuse against anyone else.

 

[fred_conty]

English is not my native language, I’m sorry for any misspellings.

I don’t have priest who I can go talk to and ask his help, I can’t go to Catholic church because of my background religion. so this is the only place where I can ask for help.

I said before that my background religion was very very hard on many things, from watching pornography to touching women even handshakes or even listening to music or sometimes watching women on TV on the news some people think it is not allowed. So I became atheist and after all these rules and rules and rules and rules and this circle of things you can’t do I found in atheism my freedom , at that time and as a result of the rules I felt free but too much free, where I went doing almost everything that might be forbidden and now here I’m found the Christ and found the religion where it is in the middle, don’t have these too much rules that make you go crazy and at the same time has values that really worth calling them values. but I still have thing I need to change in my life as a result of the mess that I went throw and one of these issues is watching porno, I tried many times to stop them and I did for about 3 weeks (I need a medal for that) but I watched one just to check out and the whole issue back all over again and even stronger than before. and now I’m stuck in this issue again, Help please.

Here is a site which you will find helpful.

catholicbridge.com/catholic/lust_recovery/index.php

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“Precious Lord, take my hand, lead me on, let me stand; I am tired, I am weak, I am worn;
Through the storm, through the night, lead me onto the light,
Take my hand, precious Lord, lead me home.” (hymn)

 

[telement10]

I’m stop watching porn about 1 month, i have enough faith to GoD. It is hard to believe but im a porn addict but i successfuly stop. thanks to GoD.

The true joy is not from watching porn, doing sex one to another. The true joy is from serving GoD and you will even meet Good Friends.

 

[Robyn_p]

I wish if I could, but in my country if the authority knew that I left my background religion I might face jail time and because of that Catholic churches are no way would help me, I tried and sadly I got fired of the church because they are afraid of what might happen to them.

That wasn’t right of them, I’m so sorry!!! The Catholic Church is very clear NO ONE is to be turned away. No one is to ever be denied access to the Sacraments. I can’t understand why any priest would do that. I mean come on, the Early Christians were viciously persecuted also. I’m so sorry that happened to you.

Do you mind me asking if this happened in more than one parish?? Is there possibly another Catholic Church in your area where the priest isn’t so cowardly??? The bishop should be informed of this. That was wrong! You have every right to become a Catholic, no matter what any government says.

Even so, I believe Jesus has been guiding you throughout this time of searching, and I know he will bring you home my friend. Just trust in him. I’m going to say a rosary right now for you. Don’t give up!!!

By the way, the Rosary is a great devotion for cultivating purity in your life:thumbsup: Cling to Our Lord and his mother, there is no sin to big for Him to conquer. Trust me on that one.

 

[aspirant]

I don’t have priest who I can go talk to and ask his help, I can’t go to Catholic church because of my background religion. so this is the only place where I can ask for help.

A priest should not turn you away if you are seeking the help and guidance of the Church, even if you are not Catholic. I do not know the circumstances in which you live, of course, what constraints your background religion, culture, and/or government may impose. But a Catholic priest should be willing to help you even if you must meet and talk privately.

my background religion was very very hard on many things, from watching pornography to touching women even handshakes or even listening to music or sometimes watching women on TV on the news some people think it is not allowed. So I became atheist and after all these rules and rules and rules and rules and this circle of things you can’t do I found in atheism my freedom , at that time and as a result of the rules I felt free but too much free, where I went doing almost everything that might be forbidden

I think I understand what you mean. The environment you describe is so repressive that the rebellion in which you engaged felt-- at least initially-- like liberation, like relief. While I don’t believe true liberation is to be found in atheism, or in lawless behavior, I don’t believe such repression is right either.

As a Catholic, I believe the only true way out of the nightmare you described, the only real liberation, is found in love: receiving the love of God and actively loving our neighbors. Uncomplicated as it sounds, this does not always feel like an easy path. But no matter how difficult it feels, it can be attained step by step, moment by moment, day by day, with the power God gives each of us. Each time we courageously step out in hope, each time we treat our neighbors with mercy and respect, each time we give generously, each time we forgive those who have wronged us, each time we encourage the weak-hearted, each time we give thanks to God for his gifts, each time we are attentive to the needs of others, each time we exercise compassion for our brothers and sisters-- in each of these actions we make a step on the journey to liberation in Christ Jesus. The chains that previously bound our hearts become a little looser and our hearts become stronger.

I still have thing I need to change in my life as a result of the mess that I went throw and one of these issues is watching porno, I tried many times to stop them and I did for about 3 weeks (I need a medal for that) but I watched one just to check out and the whole issue back all over again and even stronger than before. and now I’m stuck in this issue again, Help please.

This is a very hard form of bondage. I definitely understand your desire to be freed from this.

The repressive “rules” told you “Do not look at these people, do not listen to these people, do not touch these people.” The pornography told you “Go ahead and look at these people, look at people as objects, listen and touch for your own gratification.” Jesus’ way is different from both of these. Jesus says that if you see your neighbor to see your neighbor as a whole person, as a beloved brother or sister, someone God wills and loves for his or her own sake. Jesus says that if you hear your neighbor to listen to your neighbor with compassion, seeking to understand, as you yourself would like to be heard. Jesus says to touch or to refrain from touching with a desire to heal, to do what is good for others, for their own sakes. This will be the way of true liberation, the way of love, the way of Jesus. Difficult as it feels, it really can be done with God’s help. As you take these steps in the way of Christ, from moment to moment, it becomes a little bit easier each time. The chains will become looser, your heart will become stronger. And the more you devote yourself to virtue, the more you love people, really and truly willing and doing what is good for them, the less interested in pornography you will become.

We do sometimes fail to do what we should. If you do fail, do not spend your time wallowing in feelings of guilt, shame, or defeat. This is not what God wants for you, because God loves you and wants what is good for you. Instead, confess your wrongdoing honestly to God, ask for his help, resolve to do what is good, and start fresh: refocus on your goal to love as Jesus loves. This can be attained step by step, moment by moment, day by day, with the power God gives you. Trust him.