Whoever wants pornography should be allowed to view it. There exists a certain perversion already in the viewer, and it is up to each viewer individually to eventually recognize their addiction. Such perversions must get worked out, not repressed into the unconscious where it acts as a conflict and produces other unwanted behavior. Working through this perversion can lead to great personal insight and allow the person grow much higher spiritually had the perversion never existed.
I do agree with you to a certain extent, and I also want to address a greater set of issues with this, in general, using what you said, with my perspective.
To start with, a Catholic attitude should start with respect for each others Person (you can read the Theology of the Body, and other resources for this), in Body, as well as in Spirit (We are in that sense, Eternal Souls with Temporary Bodies) Particularly to the extend that it would be good to keep in mind a few passages:
Matthew 25:40
‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’
It works in the other direction, as well, instead of “For Christ” Whatever you do To another persons body, you also do To the Body of Christ.
Matthew 5:27-28
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
And this is just as important for women, as well as men.
You ~can~ “commit sin” in your mind, But! seeing sin as “Harm” to God, through Harm to another person, such as seeing another person as a “object” to be “used” without respecting the Person(Soul) especially outside of the context of a marriage, but even In that context, one can learn ~why~ these things are considered “sin” and useful as lessons, as Robert mentioned, because God doesn’t just make up rules “because I said so!”
There are legitimate reasons for the Commandments, and the way Christ prioritized and addressed them. It can be especially helpful when we read from Scripture (rather than what we read ~into~ Scripture, when we look for things to justify our feelings) how we’re Should be trying to behave. Allowing the emotional, animal mind to rule us, rather than learning how to master ourselves, is essentially handing ourselves over to sin.
Some struggle with this more than others, especially in the case of addictions, and “beating ourselves up” over it, just “beats” the guilt in deeper, stuffing our feelings, rather than allowing them to exist and pass, without indulging in them inappropriately. Certainly they can be appropriate in the context of Marriage, especially if a marriage well grounded in mutual respect and understanding, but definitely not appropriate, in the case of Pornography.
Why? Because Pornography Exploits other Human Beings, Body and Soul, and often enough, it’s not even by their own free will. Especially in the case of “home made” stuff you can find on the internet, and most Definitely wrong in the case of young adults that may not even be of the age of consent, and younger. At least with “legal” porn, you have some assurance that you’re dealing with adults who are choosing to be involved and getting paid for their “work.”
For folks who are struggling with addictions, I would suggest cartoons. Japanese animations, for example, are using Voice acting are far less exploitative of the human spirit, and could simply be considered along the same lines as “romantic novels” as those, also, are largely in the mind of the viewer/reader, at least much more so than “the real thing.”
The biggest problem I have even with “legit” pornography is that I suspect most of the people involved come with histories of child abuse, and so haven’t had the life experience of being respected as persons. How could they? Especially those who grow up being sexually abused, and find themselves situations where, even in trying to escape homes where they’ve been abused, end up on the streets and needing to survive?
And how can one even tell the difference from watching a movie? Some people may make free will choices that result in problem later on, but many more have experience only trouble, from the get go, and have no way to learn the difference, if there’s no one around to show them the difference.
Catholics and Christians especially should keep these things in mind with regard to porn. The World says it ok. God does not. Addictions and instincts can be overcome, when we seek help, professionally, through prayer or with peers, not just for our own sake, but for all of our brothers and sisters as well.
We are All Children of God.