Potential breakup

[Lochias]

M’sorry to hear it, brother. It does happen, and these things have a way of drawing us closer to God, and ultimately to greater fulfillment, if we let them. I was in much the same sitch: The girl in question was never totally sure about how far we were going to go, then she needed time to think, and things just kind of went south.

All you can do now is just keep living your life. I got involved with my choir at church, and later on felt a call to check out the Secular Franciscan Order; those things really helped to focus my thoughts on things that will last. If you’re not already, maybe you can become a lector or the like at your own parish?

If you’re like me, you feel you really want to be married someday. If that’s the case, I tell you: Have hope, keep building your faith, and let God show you how to grow right where you are. Every day we have is a gift, and for those of us currently chilling as singles, there is a lot we can do to help others that folks with SO’s just can’t devote the time and energy to.

And, too: Love ya, man. I’m praying for you. Things will get better with time and focus. Trust Him.

 

[Lochias]

If you were my son and you asked me what to do, I would tell you to cancel the reservations. Regardless of whether you two stay together, your recent “estrangement” would not seem to make for a very comfortable trip.

But if you were my son, I would tell you that honestly, this girl is not treating you kindly. If she truly still cared for you, she would not take this long to “decide” what she wants to do. It would seem she wants to end your relationship without having to actually end it. Perhaps she is waiting for you to have enough and end it. And it appears that you are willing to just sit by and allow her to decide how your life goes. Please do not think that you have no say in the matter. You need to talk to her sooner, not later. You have put all the control in her hands. That is not a relationship, that is a dictatorship.

Pray about it, to know what is best for you. May God bless you and guide you.

You sound just like my Mom did when I had my own troubles of the heart. Sound advice, ma’am.