Pray for my mother

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My mother is 89. She has severe arthritis in her knees (she had refused to have any treatment) and high blood pressure. She had several strokes that left her terribly weakened.
After therapy, which didn’t help much, we brought her home and tried to care for her, but could not. My siblings and I all have to work, my father is 90 and can’t lift her, we didn’t have any money for in home nursing and she was keeping us up all night long. She needed nursing all around the clock and was constantly getting urinary tract infections. My siblings and I tried to care for her for three weeks, but we were turning into zombies and I lost 8 pounds.

So we had to put her in a nursing home. The home is a nice one, our parish takes her communion regularly and she is well taken care of. But she isn’t happy. And I feel terribly guilty. I know that there is no way I can care for her - she needs more than I can do. But I still have so much guilt. I am praying for her every day and I ask your prayers too. If this whole ordeal has taught me anything, it’s that prayer is strong and it’s often all we can do.
 
I will pray for your mother…

Our Father, Who art in heaven
Hallowed be Thy Name;
Thy kingdom come,
Thy will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us;
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.

Amen.
 
Thank you so much. I have enrolled her in a novena offered by the Fathers of Mercy and I have pledged to pray for her every day. If anything, her illness has deepened my own prayer life.
 
Sometimes adversity and suffering can strengthen faith. St. Peter tells us…

*In this you rejoice, though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been grieved by various trials, so that the tested genuineness of your faith — more precious than gold that perishes though it is tested by fire — may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ *
- (I Peter 1:6-7).
 
Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.
 
Lord Jesus Christ, I pray that You bless this family with Your peace in their time of need. Grant them the grace to bear their crosses, and comfort them in their heartache. Dear Jesus, help them to open their hearts fully to You, that they trust in Your mercy now more than ever, and follow You all their lives. Lord, have mercy on them all. Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners now, and at the hour of death. Amen.

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Praying hard for your mother. We went through a similar situation with my mother several years ago. She had dementia and did not want to be in a nursing home. We put her in anyway and it was best for her and she eventually accepted it.
 
Been through similar situation with my godmother many years ago, she hated being in a nursing home, but needed skilled staff to care for her, mostly like you said up and down all night. Every visit was torture she just complained even though it was very nice, the staff was nice, lots of activities to participate she just did not like it. I will pray for you, it is so tough to be where you are–but you have no other choice. Praying for you and her and your family.
**The Memorare

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help or sought your intercession, was left unaided. Inspired with this confidence, I fly to you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother; to you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy hear and answer me.**
 
Praying hard that your mother is able to accept the nursing home, which seems to be the best decision for her and for your family. And kudos to you for trying to keep her with you for those three weeks. That must have been hard.

Hail, holy Queen, Mother of mercy, hail, our life, our sweetness and our hope. To thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve: to thee do we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this vale of tears. Turn then, most gracious Advocate, thine eyes of mercy toward us, and after this our exile, show unto us the blessed fruit of thy womb, Jesus, O merciful, O loving, O sweet Virgin Mary! Amen.
 
Biblioassistant said:
My mother is 89. She has severe arthritis in her knees (she had refused to have any treatment) and high blood pressure. She had several strokes that left her terribly weakened.
After therapy, which didn’t help much, we brought her home and tried to care for her, but could not. My siblings and I all have to work, my father is 90 and can’t lift her, we didn’t have any money for in home nursing and she was keeping us up all night long. She needed nursing all around the clock and was constantly getting urinary tract infections. My siblings and I tried to care for her for three weeks, but we were turning into zombies and I lost 8 pounds.

So we had to put her in a nursing home. The home is a nice one, our parish takes her communion regularly and she is well taken care of. But she isn’t happy. And I feel terribly guilty. I know that there is no way I can care for her - she needs more than I can do. But I still have so much guilt. I am praying for her every day and I ask your prayers too. If this whole ordeal has taught me anything, it’s that prayer is strong and it’s often all we can do.
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Dear friend my heart goes out to you.I am a care giver and I understand exactly the challenges you highlighted.I pray for you that you will be kinder to yourself.You have tried very hard to do everything possible and in fact although you mother seems unhappy at present it is what is best for all of you as a family.I pray that in time she will accept her situation and you will be forgiving to yourself! I pray for your mother and for all of you.May God bless each one of you

Lord please help this family.We pray for our friend who is feeling so guilty yet has tried and worked so hard to care for her mothers needs.We pray that the mother will be more accepting of her situation and ask You would place Your healing hand upon this situation.Please guide all who work with our friend’s mother to treat her kindly and with dignity that she will begin to feel happier.We pray that our friend will be kinder to herself and accept she did her best in striving to care for her mother and this is in fact the correct course of action.Lord please bless this mother and all the family.Thankyou Lord for hearing our prayers Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Lord, Biblioassistant feels guilty about his/her mother being in a nursing home. May he/she find peace in visiting his/her mother every day, and in praying a whole lot, especially for his/her mother. Please help his/her mother to understand that her family just can’t give her the care she needs at home by themselves. Heal Biblioassistant’s mother’s grief over her situation and grant her serenity. Please help her to forgive. Also, please help her and Biblioassistant to be abandoned to your merciful love full of confidence in your merciful love. Thank you, Lord, for hearing my prayer.
 
Lord please help this family.We pray for our friend who is feeling so guilty yet has tried and worked so hard to care for her mothers needs.We pray that the mother will be more accepting of her situation and ask You would place Your healing hand upon this situation.Please guide all who work with our friend’s mother to treat her kindly and with dignity that she will begin to feel happier.We pray that our friend will be kinder to herself and accept she did her best in striving to care for her mother and this is in fact the correct course of action.Lord please bless this mother and all the family.Thankyou Lord for hearing our prayers Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
tbcrawford said:
Dear friend my heart goes out to you.I am a care giver and I understand exactly the challenges you highlighted.I pray for you that you will be kinder to yourself.You have tried very hard to do everything possible and in fact although you mother seems unhappy at present it is what is best for all of you as a family.I pray that in time she will accept her situation and you will be forgiving to yourself! I pray for your mother and for all of you.May God bless each one of you

Lord please help this family.We pray for our friend who is feeling so guilty yet has tried and worked so hard to care for her mothers needs.We pray that the mother will be more accepting of her situation and ask You would place Your healing hand upon this situation.Please guide all who work with our friend’s mother to treat her kindly and with dignity that she will begin to feel happier.We pray that our friend will be kinder to herself and accept she did her best in striving to care for her mother and this is in fact the correct course of action.Lord please bless this mother and all the family.Thank you Lord for hearing our prayers Amen

Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
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Praying for you and your family
Hail Mary full of grace
The Lord is with thee
Blessed art thou amongst women
And blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus
Holy Mary Mother of God
Pray for us sinners
Now and at the hour of our death
Amen
 
Hail Mary full of grace
The Lord is with thee
Blessed art thou amongst women
And blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus
Holy Mary Mother of God
Pray for us sinners
Now and at the hour of our death
Amen
 
Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
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