Prayer for a Troubled Relationship - Getting desperate

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My girlfriend of a few years now is currently battling depression, anxiety and emotional problems.

I’ve been praying desperately and constantly for strength and wisdom on my part and something, ANYTHING, to help her.

She is constantly snapping and over analyzes things. She constantly complains and comes to bizarre conspiracy theories. She is convinced the world hates her and can become quite bitter. One time, she talked about suicide.

Then she calms down and apologizes, blames it on the anxiety and depression, and is very happy and cheerful.

To make things worse, I am on the other side of the country. We broke up in December - she left me and she was very much the same way - but we recently reunited. I’m returning home in a few months.

She wasn’t always like this. Part of me is still in love with the person she was for the first 3 years we were dating, the person I know she is capable of becoming.

But she has a family history of mental illness. She takes anti-depressants, but can’t afford a therapist. She has also left the church.

I am at my wits end. I love her very much, and she has a good heart and is a good person at her core. But I am now emotionally drained and approaching despair.

All I can do is pray. I pray constantly for her. Please, pray for us, and especially for my girlfriend and her mental health.
 
Will pray for her and for you.

You might suggest she contact Catholic Charities to see if there is a therapist for her. You could contact them yourself and see what they can offer in her area.

Simultaneously, you should consider counseling for yourself. It is very difficult for one to handle this. You appear to think that there is something you should do and if you lived closer, none of this might be happening. That is a lot of responsiblity to take on. You might end up depressed and in despair.
 
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Will pray for her and for you.

You might suggest she contact Catholic Charities to see if there is a therapist for her. You could contact them yourself and see what they can offer in her area.

Simultaneously, you should consider counseling for yourself. It is very difficult for one to handle this. You appear to think that there is something you should do and if you lived closer, none of this might be happening. That is a lot of responsiblity to take on. You might end up depressed and in despair.
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This is very good advice… I don’t need to say more … Praying for you and your girlfriend
 
I would also like to pray for you and your girlfriend.

I myself have been experiencing very similar problems with some girls that I know. One girl in particular that I have been seeing for the past month really means a lot to me, but it is very difficult to find the right way to get through to her sometimes.

Sometimes, it’s like I can understand her perfectly, but then it all seems to change very fast, and all of the positive plans that we had talked about suddenly seem very far away and almost impossible to reach.

The girl that I am talking about is very smart, but she still has many problems in her life that seem to make everything really complicated. Even though I can still see a good side of her sometimes, there are just so many complications that our relationship seems almost impossible to improve.

So, anyway, the best way I have come up with to deal with this situation, is to just try not to bother her too much, and just give her as much space as I can to try and work things out in her life. However, I also feel much better when I am able to see her and keep an eye on her whenever I get the chance.

I would really like to help this girl so much that it really drives me crazy sometimes, but I also know that sometimes trying to help to much can even make things worse in some situations.

I keep telling myself that I wish I had more money, a bigger house, or just more things to give her and try to help her more. However, I do also know that all of those things will not be able to find the true love that is in her heart. So, I guess I just try to take things day by day as they come.

Well, I’m not real sure if all of this is much help, but it does also help me to write about this to others here as well.

I really hope things can improve with you and your girlfriend. I wish both of you the best in life, and send my prayers for you also.

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Mother Mary, I commend Brokenplates1 to you. Please ease his suffering and help him to carry his cross courageously, patiently and lovingly. May he keep praying for his girlfriend and entrust her to you. May he give this problem to you and not give into excessive worry, which will get him nowhere. Please intercede for him and his girlfriend and help them to love our Lord with all their heart, mind, soul and strength. Amen.
 
I surely can relate to this. If you need help / advice on a more permanent basis, we could talk if you want (e.g. gmail chat or messenger). Just PM if you need!

Praying for you! 🙂

Ave Maria…

Most Sacred Heart of Jesus, I trust in You!
 
Remembering you and your girlfriend in my daily prayers. God bless!
 
I know this post was from a while ago and I hope everything turned out well. Wanted to leave this in case you or someone wanted it, I just finished it.

There is a st Jude novena you pray it for 9 days
St. Jude we have problems in our relationship. Beg almighty God to give us the light to see ourselves and eachother as we really are. Help us to grow daily in self-knowledge and mutual love while at the same time developing our potential to love and be loved.

Help us St. Jude to see and root out every manifestation of selfishness, vanity, and childish selfseeking those hidden enemies oflove and maturity. Show us that by learning to love and being filled with love we may compliment and nurture eachother as we share our lives together.AMEN.

Say novena once a day for nine days and then publish.
 
brokenplates1 said:
My girlfriend of a few years now is currently battling depression, anxiety and emotional problems.

I’ve been praying desperately and constantly for strength and wisdom on my part and something, ANYTHING, to help her.

She is constantly snapping and over analyzes things. She constantly complains and comes to bizarre conspiracy theories. She is convinced the world hates her and can become quite bitter. One time, she talked about suicide.

Then she calms down and apologizes, blames it on the anxiety and depression, and is very happy and cheerful.

To make things worse, I am on the other side of the country. We broke up in December - she left me and she was very much the same way - but we recently reunited. I’m returning home in a few months.

She wasn’t always like this. Part of me is still in love with the person she was for the first 3 years we were dating, the person I know she is capable of becoming.

But she has a family history of mental illness. She takes anti-depressants, but can’t afford a therapist. She has also left the church.

I am at my wits end. I love her very much, and she has a good heart and is a good person at her core. But I am now emotionally drained and approaching despair.

All I can do is pray. I pray constantly for her. Please, pray for us, and especially for my girlfriend and her mental health.
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Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning is now ever shall be world without end
Amen.
 
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