Prayer Request for Sexual Purity

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Please pray for my boyfriend and our relationship. We’ve been dating for a little over a year. We’ve had some hard times but have been able to overcome them with God’s help. Prior to getting into a relationship I told him that I believe in sexual purity and that if he wanted to pursue the relationship it was with an understanding that we’d wait to have sex until we were married (he has lived with someone in the past and has had several partners) . He’s been very respectful and we don’t cross any lines to tempt each other. We have a pure relationship. We attend church together and try to pray together as much as possible. He recently told me that he was very sexually frustrated and doesn’t know what to do because he’s not sure if he’s ready for marriage. He said that I’m the best thing that’s happened to him and he does want to marry me but doesn’t want to rush into marriage just so we can have sex. He says he’s been praying about it but doesn’t know what to do since he still feels a strong desire to have sex.
I told him that I’m not going to compromise my morals nor break the promise I made to God. I ask that you keep him in prayer so that he’s freed from strongholds and carnal desires. I pray that the holy spirit fills him with a strong desire to grow closer to God and fills him with calmness and security. I’m willing to let him go, if it’s God’s will, but I need discernment and peace, and I will need strength to get over the relationship. Please pray for him and our relationship.
Thank you and God Bless You.
Lord, may you bless those who pray for me, AMEN.
 
Faithopelove1 said:
Please pray for my boyfriend and our relationship. We’ve been dating for a little over a year. We’ve had some hard times but have been able to overcome them with God’s help. Prior to getting into a relationship I told him that I believe in sexual purity and that if he wanted to pursue the relationship it was with an understanding that we’d wait to have sex until we were married (he has lived with someone in the past and has had several partners) . He’s been very respectful and we don’t cross any lines to tempt each other. We have a pure relationship. We attend church together and try to pray together as much as possible. He recently told me that he was very sexually frustrated and doesn’t know what to do because he’s not sure if he’s ready for marriage. He said that I’m the best thing that’s happened to him and he does want to marry me but doesn’t want to rush into marriage just so we can have sex. He says he’s been praying about it but doesn’t know what to do since he still feels a strong desire to have sex.
I told him that I’m not going to compromise my morals nor break the promise I made to God. I ask that you keep him in prayer so that he’s freed from strongholds and carnal desires. I pray that the holy spirit fills him with a strong desire to grow closer to God and fills him with calmness and security. I’m willing to let him go, if it’s God’s will, but I need discernment and peace, and I will need strength to get over the relationship. Please pray for him and our relationship.
Thank you and God Bless You.
Lord, may you bless those who pray for me, AMEN.
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I would say that everything is normal in your dating. Normal, no. Nowadays, I must congratulate you for your decision which is not quite common.
You must understand that the root of the decision lies on you. He has already had several partners so he is more frustrated. So, you have to be, willingly or not, the pillar of the decision.

Now, look: what your boyfriend is saying is absolutely correct. He is sexual frustrated. So do you but less than him. If you want a tree to go up you cut some bottom branches and the tree directs its energy of the bottom branches to grow higher. The bottom branches, naturally, feel frustrated !!! You are cutting sexual fulfillment and you feel bad sometimes. He will feel even worse, but it is natural. You cannot ask God to suppress his sexual desires for this is impossible. Sexual desire means he likes you.

If he understands that (the image of the tree I like much for I was born in the countryside) he will understand that his frustration has a meaning: to go higher and higher on love, to search for higher forms of love that are human and that animals do not have: tenderness, compassion, sense of partnership, holding hands, eye on eye love, to just be together, to talk. Once you go for sex, everything this will be destroyed for you reached the end.

That is why maybe (maybe!!!) some of his relationships went down for he went too fast into sex.

I pray for you bu you’ve got as i explained, to be as strong as steel. I am a man and I know what a man feels about sex.

Dont let intimacy go far. Stop at predetermined point X. And then say s 2 letter word: “no”. A Danish father sent her daughter around the world and said that she could do everything she wanted and then he taught her to say “no” in 60 languages, So the story goes.

Keep it up. God Bless You.
 
Has he talked to the priest about it? Send him to the priest. They live with chastity and celibacy every day and they are men just like any other man in that they have to come to terms with saying no to any desires that come to them.

If he’s working with a priest the odds are much better of a favorable outcome. You are not alone, you have the faith community to offer support.

I will pray for both of you,

Lorrie
 
I will pray…Once you know exactly what you are missing, it’s tougher…but he won’t regret waiting. He has to realize that.

…Amen…
 
Faithopelove1 said:
Please pray for my boyfriend and our relationship. We’ve been dating for a little over a year. We’ve had some hard times but have been able to overcome them with God’s help. Prior to getting into a relationship I told him that I believe in sexual purity and that if he wanted to pursue the relationship it was with an understanding that we’d wait to have sex until we were married (he has lived with someone in the past and has had several partners) . He’s been very respectful and we don’t cross any lines to tempt each other. We have a pure relationship. We attend church together and try to pray together as much as possible. He recently told me that he was very sexually frustrated and doesn’t know what to do because he’s not sure if he’s ready for marriage. He said that I’m the best thing that’s happened to him and he does want to marry me but doesn’t want to rush into marriage just so we can have sex. He says he’s been praying about it but doesn’t know what to do since he still feels a strong desire to have sex.
I told him that I’m not going to compromise my morals nor break the promise I made to God. I ask that you keep him in prayer so that he’s freed from strongholds and carnal desires. I pray that the holy spirit fills him with a strong desire to grow closer to God and fills him with calmness and security. I’m willing to let him go, if it’s God’s will, but I need discernment and peace, and I will need strength to get over the relationship. Please pray for him and our relationship.
Thank you and God Bless You.
Lord, may you bless those who pray for me, AMEN.
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Praying for your intentions….

Lord Jesus, You have said, “Learn from me, for I am meek and humble of heart.” With confidence in Your loving heart which offers rest to weary souls, we come to You in this time of special need. In Your unfailing love, read the prayer that is written on our hearts, and grant the grace that we ask of You, in accordance with Your holy will. In Your name we pray. Amen.

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, and sought thy intercession, was left unaided. Inspired with this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother, to thee I come, before thee I stand sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate! Despise not my petitions, but, in thy mercy, hear and answer me. Amen.
 
I’m going through a similar thing in my relationship (the sure thing that’s keeping us at bay right now is the fact that I’m currently half way around the world away from him) so I understand how it feels 😦 I will keep you and your boyfriend in my prayers…
 
I will pray that your relationship can maintain its purity…

Our Father, Who art in heaven
Hallowed be Thy Name;
Thy kingdom come,
Thy will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us;
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.

Amen.
 
It is hard for a young man(and even for many who aren’t so young), especially one in love to get those feelings under control, but it is wonderful that you have kept your relationship on these grounds.

I can tell you, despite the difficulties and the struggles, this is pleasing to God.
By overcoming this, your boy friend will be in a better place in life. There will always be struggles in life, and if he can develop the self-discipline to overcome the temptation to be unchaste in a relationship, it will serve him well in dealing with other, much more serious struggles in life(getting laid off and still needing to support your family, dealing with personal loss, etc). This sort of thing requires a lot of trust in God and the belief and knowledge that pleasing God is more important than pleasing self.

I will pray for you both.
 
Pfaffenhoffen said:
I would say that everything is normal in your dating. Normal, no. Nowadays, I must congratulate you for your decision which is not quite common.
You must understand that the root of the decision lies on you. He has already had several partners so he is more frustrated. So, you have to be, willingly or not, the pillar of the decision.

Now, look: what your boyfriend is saying is absolutely correct. He is sexual frustrated. So do you but less than him. If you want a tree to go up you cut some bottom branches and the tree directs its energy of the bottom branches to grow higher. The bottom branches, naturally, feel frustrated !!! You are cutting sexual fulfillment and you feel bad sometimes. He will feel even worse, but it is natural. You cannot ask God to suppress his sexual desires for this is impossible. Sexual desire means he likes you.

If he understands that (the image of the tree I like much for I was born in the countryside) he will understand that his frustration has a meaning: to go higher and higher on love, to search for higher forms of love that are human and that animals do not have: tenderness, compassion, sense of partnership, holding hands, eye on eye love, to just be together, to talk. Once you go for sex, everything this will be destroyed for you reached the end.

That is why maybe (maybe!!!) some of his relationships went down for he went too fast into sex.

I pray for you bu you’ve got as i explained, to be as strong as steel. I am a man and I know what a man feels about sex.

Dont let intimacy go far. Stop at predetermined point X. And then say s 2 letter word: “no”. A Danish father sent her daughter around the world and said that she could do everything she wanted and then he taught her to say “no” in 60 languages, So the story goes.

Keep it up. God Bless You.
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Thank you for your prayers. We do not let intimacy get far at all. Sometimes we barely kiss because I don’t want to tempt him. I am firm on my beliefs and I do know that he loves me and he’s going through a difficult time. I want our relationship to work out and have a relationship that honors God, but at this point, he is being distant with me and has talked about breaking up. He thinks that he won’t be 100% certain about marriage until he knows if we’re sexually compatible. I know he’s torn and has some internal issues going on. I’m 33 never been married and don’t have children. I’m ready for that commitment. He’s 30 never been married, doesn’t have children and wants both of those things with me but states that he’s seen to many bad marriages that he wants to be 100% sure. I don’t know what else to do other than to part ways and pray for him???
 
I’m new to this site/forum, so I’m not sure how to post a reply without quoting everything. I just want to say thank you to all of you for your prayers. I pray that the Lord blesses you abundantly.

He went to mass without me on Sunday, I think he wanted alone time. I’m not sure if he spoke with a priest but he said he asked for help and that even though he’s prayed and asked for help he’s still frustrated. At this time, he’s being distant with me, so I really don’t know where our relationship stands. He says that sex is very important in a relationship and that he wants to make sure we’re compatible. He feels that since we’ve been dating for a little over a year, I should know that he loves me. He also understands my commitment to God and respects me for it, but he says he struggles with his desires and is torn.

I know he has a good heart and that his desires are normal. I just pray that he strengthens his relationship with the Lord and accepts His word. I don’t think it’s enough to pray we need to arm ourselves with God’s word.

Although I trust God wholeheartedly, I still feel pain in my heart. I thank you again, for uplifting us in prayer.

Dear Lord, thank you for this day and for this forum that has helped me. I pray for those who pray for me that you bless them and that the holy spirit fills them with your goodness and love. Comfort us with your peace and give us the strength to endure those difficult seasons we encounter. Let your will be done and help us accept it even when we don’t like it or understand it. Amen.
 
Lord, may Faithopelove1’s boyfriend start participating in as many Masses as possible and keep far away from occassions of sin. May he fill his mind with good things, like good holy Catholic books and the Scriptures, prayer (mental prayer and the holy Rosary), charitable works, and interior mortifications that bring him closer to doing God’s will and glorifying God. May he find a good confessor to help him fight his battle against impurity, and meet with him regularly to talk about his frustrations, hopes, etc…May Faithopelove1 remain virtuous and strong and not give in at all to any request that would compromise her purity. May she take her Mother Mary as her model and ask for her motherly intercession. Mothert Mary, I recommend this couple to you. Help them to keep pure and chaste, and filled with love for you and Jesus. Amen.
 
Faithopelove1 said:
Thank you for your prayers. We do not let intimacy get far at all. Sometimes we barely kiss because I don’t want to tempt him. I am firm on my beliefs and I do know that he loves me and he’s going through a difficult time. I want our relationship to work out and have a relationship that honors God, but at this point, he is being distant with me and has talked about breaking up. He thinks that he won’t be 100% certain about marriage until he knows if we’re sexually compatible. I know he’s torn and has some internal issues going on. I’m 33 never been married and don’t have children. I’m ready for that commitment. He’s 30 never been married, doesn’t have children and wants both of those things with me but states that he’s seen to many bad marriages that he wants to be 100% sure. I don’t know what else to do other than to part ways and pray for him???
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I think that every man is compatible with every woman, except if he is 18 and she is 92. Otherwise…It is an excuse… you know, let me be clear … I am going to tell you a man’s secret and men here are going to scold me to revealing our tribe’s secret: men only think in sex. The flowers and champagne are just one way to prepare for “that”. Women, on the contrary, think on love and sex must be a nice dessert of a beautiful dinner.

No wonder he is frustrated. It’s natural. It’s human. It’s man’s. He is trying every trick to get where his genes taught he should go: blackmail, “defense mechanisms” (Freud), etc. He is distant because he doesnt want to approach without reaching “that” end. It is like eating the “appetizers” but not the meal (so many eating images !!!).

But…if you propose marriage, he does not accept?
 
Our Father who art in heaven,
Hallowed be thy name,
Thy Kingdom come,
Thy will be done,
On earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
And forgive us our trespasses,
As we forgive those who trespass against us,
Lead us not into temptation,
And deliver us from evil. Amen

Hail Mary,
Full of grace,
The Lord is with thee,
Blessed art thou amongst women,
And blessed is the fruit of thy womb-Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
Pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

Glory be to the Father,
And to the Son,
And to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning,
Is now, and ever shall be, world without end. Amen
 
Hail Mary,
Full of grace,
The Lord is with thee,
Blessed art thou amongst women,
And blessed is the fruit of thy womb-Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
Pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.:signofcross:
 
Pater noster, qui es in caelis, sanctificetur nomen tuum. Adveniat regnum tuum. Fiat voluntas tua, sicut in caelo et in terra. Panem nostrum quotidianum da nobis hodie, et dimitte nobis debita nostra sicut et nos dimittimus debitoribus nostris. Et ne nos inducas in tentationem, sed libera nos a malo. Amen.

Ave Maria, gratia plena, Dominus tecum. Benedicta tu in mulieribus, et benedictus fructus ventris tui, Iesus. Sancta Maria, Mater Dei, ora pro nobis peccatoribus, nunc, et in hora mortis nostrae. Amen.

Gloria Patri, et Filio, et Spiritui Sancto. Sicut erat in principio, et nunc, et semper, et in saecula saeculorum. Amen.
Pater noster, qui es in caelis, sanctificetur nomen tuum. Adveniat regnum tuum. Fiat voluntas tua, sicut in caelo et in terra. Panem nostrum quotidianum da nobis hodie, et dimitte nobis debita nostra sicut et nos dimittimus debitoribus nostris. Et ne nos inducas in tentationem, sed libera nos a malo. Amen.

Ave Maria, gratia plena, Dominus tecum. Benedicta tu in mulieribus, et benedictus fructus ventris tui, Iesus. Sancta Maria, Mater Dei, ora pro nobis peccatoribus, nunc, et in hora mortis nostrae. Amen.

Gloria Patri, et Filio, et Spiritui Sancto. Sicut erat in principio, et nunc, et semper, et in saecula saeculorum. Amen.
 
Pfaffenhoffen, I haven’t seen him since Sunday and when I mean he’s being distant, he won’t talk to me. We’ve had very few and short conversations. I finally sent him an email last night and told him that I loved him and was willing to work things out. That I understand him and will give him time to figure things out. I told him I will no longer contact him, that the ball is now in his court. I told him that if he wants to break up I will respect his decision but to understand that it would be for good.

In our short conversations this week. He said he has all of this frustration and it’s just making him angry, which is why he rather not talk to me. He feels so frustrated that he wants to physically fight someone. He no longer wants to pray because he says it’s not helping. I told him to equip himself with the word and that I’d accompany him to seek spiritual counseling but I can’t seem to get anywhere, which is why I sent him that email. I will continue to pray for him and bind whatever evil spirits have a hold on him.

I have suggested marriage but he said he wants to be 100% sure. Since he’s seen a lot of divorce in his family, he is very hesitant to rush into marriage. I don’t know what to believe because he’ll tell me that he does see himself with me and that he knew the moment he met me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. He said that God had answered his prayers by sending me to him. Why he’s so afraid to get married? I don’t know.

Although I love him and have never felt for anyone like I feel for him, I will not go against God’s will. If he chooses to leave me because I will not have sex with him, then I know he’s not the one God has planned for me. I will be heart broken but this too shall pass. God has revealed to me that there are worse things in life and that I just need to be thankful for everything I do have.

Thank you so much for your kind words, Pfaffenhoffen. God bless you.
 
I am overjoyed and cannot express in words how much I appreciate all of your prayers. I am so happy I came across this forum. I know that because of all your prayers and kind words I find myself with more peace. It is such an amazing feeling to feel the out pour of love from all of you. It is great to see God’s people support one another. Blessings and peace be with you.

1 Corinthians 16:13 Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be men of courage; be strong.

Ephesians 3:16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being.

Ephesians 4:2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.

Philippians 4:13 I can do everything through Him who gives me strength.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women and
blessed is the Fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners
now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
Our Father, who art in Heaven
Hallowed be thy name
Thy Kingdom come
Thy will be done, On Earth as it is in Heaven
Give us this day our daily bread
And forgive us our trespasses
As we forgive those who trespass against us
And lead us not into temptation
But deliver us from evil AMEN

In the name of The Father, The Son and The Holy Spirit
AMEN
:highprayer::signofcross:
 
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