Prayers and a Recommended Novena

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Hello everyone. I’m asking for prayers and also a recommended novena for my concern.

I’m in my mid 20’s and i’m not happy with how my life is, i’ve pray everyday for so long for God to lead me to my dreams. A good job, with a good female partner.

Now, there was some one i really loved. But she betrayed me by cheating on me, this happened about 4+ years ago, thing is thoug, she always came back to me and begging me to forgive and take her back. Over and over, i took her back due to my love her. But eventually i consistently lost her. She did allot of things to me that allot of anger in my heart (towards her and myself) remains in me and does not want to go. I’ve prayed so many times, tried novenas, asking others in real life to the internet to pray for me. Sometimes i’ve prayed to St Joseph, St Jude, and asked prayers for others to bring her and me back together in a much stronger relationship. But the answer is to finally move on, which is something ive said to myself and end up going down my bad memories and getting depressed eventually.

What gets me upset the most is, she is very happy now with out any care about how hurt i became from the way she treated me. Leaving me cold for other men, then coming back, etcetc… I never once had the chance to speak to her in person on my request, when i was in emotional pain, even through the telephone just to make myself feel better. She either hang up on me, and eventually make fun of me to her friends. However, everytime she came to me because she was hurt from something and that she wanted to speak to me just like when we were together, i gave her the chance just to respect her feelings. So in a way, i’ve felt that God favors her side more seeing that she is so happy to the new country she moved to, the new job she has and of course another new man in her life.

For so many years, i’ve been trying to move on but still so emotionally attached to this person that no matter what novenas i’ve said in the past, i can’t escape it. This issue has caused me to go into sins just for the sake of getting a brief of happiness and escape… since involving sexual things and heavy smoking to relieve my stress, and much more the inability to forgive. I want these sins gone from my life but no matter what i’ve tried, from prayers to bible reading, i am still tormented by it.

What i ask in general is for prayers that my life will change positively.
  • For God to bring a woman into my life
  • To my career in graphic designing
  • To help me conquer against my sins and live a life that HE can be proud of.
Especially a Novena that’s meant and known to work great in finding love and anything related to what i’ve said.

I want my partner, a girl that i dream about, to enter my life and possibly help me be happy again and leave behind the things i have said. To move on from the person that left me. To help inspire me, as a gift from god, to stop my sins as well… I want my life to be good, happy and much more clean to the eyes of the lord. One of my goals in life is to have God be proud of me and the family i wish he will bless with me.

Can you please pray for me and recommend me a novena.
 
Hi OP,

Prayers coming your way that you may know and do God’s will in your life. As for novenas, I suggest taking St. Raphael as one of you patrons. Ask for his prayers that you may find and meet a good wife. Ask for the intercession of St. Josemaria Escriva for your career. Always pray to Our Lady and to your guardian angel in all your needs, in all that you struggle with. You may also want to consider joining my group. Just click on my signature below. God bless!
 
Hi OP,

Prayers coming your way that you may know and do God’s will in your life. As for novenas, I suggest taking St. Raphael as one of you patrons. Ask for his prayers that you may find and meet a good wife. Ask for the intercession of St. Josemaria Escriva for your career. Always pray to Our Lady and to your guardian angel in all your needs, in all that you struggle with. You may also want to consider joining my group. Just click on my signature below. God bless!
Thank you so much.

If it isn’t trouble. Can you teach me to pray these novenas? I’ve tried Raphael, it’s a beautiful novena but i’m not so sure i’m pray correctly or something.

How do i know about my guardian angel?
 
You can pray to your guardian angel all the time. You can even pray to him internally in your heart. Say something like, guardian angel, please help me to be good.

Here are some prayers to St. Raphael. 2heartsnetwork.org/Raphael.htm

I am currently using an iPad hence it is difficult to browse. I will get back once I am using the desktop.
 
I entrust you to the care of the Blessed Virgin Mary. May she make her intnetions in these matters come true.

Hail Mary…

Amen.
 
Merciful God, may Your will be done.
Please guide C_Del86 to wholesome and blessed resolution regard this issue.
Give him strength and wisdom to accept Your grace not to be bound by a person who has moved on to a new life, a new country, and another man, and to respect her choices.
Please give healing and new life, and help C_Del86.

Help him to find a good and happy relationship and bless his spiritual and temporal life according to all that is good, holy, and wholesome in Your sight.
 
Ask the Angels, Saints, and Our Lady for their intercession in the conversion of your heart. Read the stories of saints who lived sinful lives before learning how to be holy, such as St Augustine. Read the Gospels. Pray the rosary daily.

I spent years in prayer that God and the Saints teach me how to be a good wife if marriage was my vocation. This year, I came across a wonderful, devout man. We’re discerning if God wills that we should marry.

Praying for you.
 
Thank you all for your help.

I dont want to sound bad, but there is a question that i fear to voice out…but it pinches me, and it’s almost like a poison inside of me. This question has really broken me a bit and i do my best to never entertain it but it remains in me.

The question is. Why did God bless the person who hurt me and treated me badly in the end? I don’t ever question god nor do i want to loose my faith over something as this… but the thought of that question makes me think that god doesn’t want to bless me at all and is punishing me. I don’t want to question the lord because he is god and i will never get a directed voiced out answer from him, and another thing is i don’t think i have the right too because i know that around the world so many people are emotionally and physically suffering as well.

Nevertheless, this whole issue of mine has been killing me. It wasn’t just losing her, or her cheating on me… but the fact that i always took her back when she came back to apologies and in the end i just got back stabbed again and also got sort of hated on and looked like a crazy clingy guy. I never physically hurt her or left her coldly regardless of what she did… but in the end i get that treatment with out any sort of care or respect. Sure, i’ve probably became verbally abusive out of the frustrations of being treated like this… and i lost all sense in my words as well, the only thing that i knew in my heart was that i loved her so much.

I’ve been to various christian forums in the past… for about 4+ years now, i’ve moved around and eventually ended up asking for prayers from strengthing the relationship, for us to reconcile and get back together again, to also healing… in various forums, different people,and also the same novenas to st joseph, st jude, st mary, Jesus, the holy spirit, god the father… i’ve even been so desperate to wipe out my emotions by going to psychologists, watching random inspirational videos on how to forgive on youtube, reading various laws of attraction and God faith books, and even physics (which i made a thread here about)…

I don’t understand why that even up to know, i can’t feel the happiness and i’m so tired of blocking out the thoughts of bitterness and anger as well from my heart. Yet this person is doing so happily. Part of my bitterness is a wish for karma be sent her way, that she will be treated the way she treated me… and for a time to come where she will try to return to me just like before and i will tell her off. But i don’t want to think these things, because it is poison to think these things and two it’s already time to MOVE ON… i have prayed and asked for prayers for a long time to take away these things in my heart, but the negative things still remains. There are times where i would pray to holy spirit to blanket me and plant his seeds in me so that the anger will go away and that i would be set free… sometimes when I pray to i confess this anger, sadness, or even mention her name… i go into a trance and reminisce the past experiences and i feel nothing but anger and all the emoness… then minutes later i snap out of it and realize that i didn’t pray properly from the distraction. There where allot of times that i would pray to God for him to hold me head as i pray so that i won’t get distracted by that again. Yet i still end up getting auto snapped in thought.

So that’s why a bit of me has question whether or not God wants me to be like this. The fact that i even pray to god to help me have a straight good prayer from now on goes un effective makes me question if he wants me to be destroyed by this anger. However, I’m being as strong as i can to block these thoughts and to keep praying, praying and praying… listening to Great is thy faithfulness and all that. Main reason is, i’m embarrassed of myself being so weak and dominated by heart break… it’s pathetic. There are so many people who have worse problems and they have every right to get their prayers answered first before me… and i also want to keep in my thoughts of God toughening me and MANNING me up and that he will redeem me and bring me towards the woman who will exceed my dreams and also put my career in the right and best place.

I’m in my mid 20’s. And i want a happy future. The future i pray for… i am just scarred that this anger will consume me and ruin my life…

I still respect God and i am thankful that he gave me parents who taught me about him. That’s the greatest gift i ever got…
 
Thank you all for your help.

I dont want to sound bad, but there is a question that i fear to voice out…but it pinches me, and it’s almost like a poison inside of me. This question has really broken me a bit and i do my best to never entertain it but it remains in me.

The question is. Why did God bless the person who hurt me and treated me badly in the end? I don’t ever question god nor do i want to loose my faith over something as this… but the thought of that question makes me think that god doesn’t want to bless me at all and is punishing me. I don’t want to question the lord because he is god and i will never get a directed voiced out answer from him, and another thing is i don’t think i have the right too because i know that around the world so many people are emotionally and physically suffering as well.

Nevertheless, this whole issue of mine has been killing me. It wasn’t just losing her, or her cheating on me… but the fact that i always took her back when she came back to apologies and in the end i just got back stabbed again and also got sort of hated on and looked like a crazy clingy guy. I never physically hurt her or left her coldly regardless of what she did… but in the end i get that treatment with out any sort of care or respect. Sure, i’ve probably became verbally abusive out of the frustrations of being treated like this… and i lost all sense in my words as well, the only thing that i knew in my heart was that i loved her so much.

I’ve been to various christian forums in the past… for about 4+ years now, i’ve moved around and eventually ended up asking for prayers from strengthing the relationship, for us to reconcile and get back together again, to also healing… in various forums, different people,and also the same novenas to st joseph, st jude, st mary, Jesus, the holy spirit, god the father… i’ve even been so desperate to wipe out my emotions by going to psychologists, watching random inspirational videos on how to forgive on youtube, reading various laws of attraction and God faith books, and even physics (which i made a thread here about)…

I don’t understand why that even up to know, i can’t feel the happiness and i’m so tired of blocking out the thoughts of bitterness and anger as well from my heart. Yet this person is doing so happily. Part of my bitterness is a wish for karma be sent her way, that she will be treated the way she treated me… and for a time to come where she will try to return to me just like before and i will tell her off. But i don’t want to think these things, because it is poison to think these things and two it’s already time to MOVE ON… i have prayed and asked for prayers for a long time to take away these things in my heart, but the negative things still remains. There are times where i would pray to holy spirit to blanket me and plant his seeds in me so that the anger will go away and that i would be set free… sometimes when I pray to i confess this anger, sadness, or even mention her name… i go into a trance and reminisce the past experiences and i feel nothing but anger and all the emoness… then minutes later i snap out of it and realize that i didn’t pray properly from the distraction. There where allot of times that i would pray to God for him to hold me head as i pray so that i won’t get distracted by that again. Yet i still end up getting auto snapped in thought.

So that’s why a bit of me has question whether or not God wants me to be like this. The fact that i even pray to god to help me have a straight good prayer from now on goes un effective makes me question if he wants me to be destroyed by this anger. However, I’m being as strong as i can to block these thoughts and to keep praying, praying and praying… listening to Great is thy faithfulness and all that. Main reason is, i’m embarrassed of myself being so weak and dominated by heart break… it’s pathetic. There are so many people who have worse problems and they have every right to get their prayers answered first before me… and i also want to keep in my thoughts of God toughening me and MANNING me up and that he will redeem me and bring me towards the woman who will exceed my dreams and also put my career in the right and best place.

I’m in my mid 20’s. And i want a happy future. The future i pray for… i am just scarred that this anger will consume me and ruin my life…

I still respect God and i am thankful that he gave me parents who taught me about him. That’s the greatest gift i ever got…
C_del86,

These are all very important questions and concerns. A better place on CAF to help get answers on these concerns would probably be the Spirituality forum. You might want to copy and paste this there to start a new thread. Or contact the moderator of the Spirituality forum to move it. I believe it is Klara Collins. You can send her a private message here:

forums.catholic-questions.org/member.php?u=69576

Praying for you.
 
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