Prayers and advice needed PLEASE!

[romancatholic94]

I am caught between a rock and a hard place. I love my parents, they do everything for me and have sacrificed so much in the last 10 years, making sure me and my sister went to the best schools possible. I am also very VERY concerned about their married life. They run the pre-Cana program at my parish, my mom is an “Extraordinary Minister of Holy Communion”, and they are very involved with their church. HOWEVER, when it comes to the church’s teachings on contraception and sex, they turn a blind eye. Whenever i bring up that Catholic’s should not be using contraception and that it is a mortal sin, they roll their eyes and say the Church doesn’t know was She is talking about. They go to Church every Sunday and act like believe faith is important but when it comes to practicing it, they don’t. I have tried talking to them about the moral issues associated with artifical contraception (btw, i know they use it), and they just don’t have any good responses. My mom says we could only afford 2 kids and my dad says the Church has no right to tell him how to have sex. My question is, how can I, their son, who also happens to be faithful to the Church’s teachings on this matter, help my parents? I don’t want to make them madder because they have already called me a “pious pig” and told me i don’t know what i’m talking about. I become enraged to the point where I tell them they will burn in hell if they don’t stop and they just laugh. So if anybody has any HELPFUL advice i would appreciate this. I love my parents and I don’t want them to go down the wrong road because I am terrified they are already half way there!

 

[St_Francis]

You are their son, so you have no authority over them. You have “instructed the ignorant,” or “admonished the sinner,” so now all that is left to do is to pray and make sacrifices for them.

 

[robwar]

Hi,
there is not much at this time you can do but offer them info on what the church teaches. It is not worth getting into a fight with them over this. Yes, you are correct on Church teaching but they have the info., just pray that their minds become open to the truth. don’t let this ruin your relationship with them. it would be better to try and build a positive relationship with them than let this ruin it. You have the truth and as you grow and move on, you will make the right choices.

 

[polishandproud]

Don’t change your beliefs, your beliefs are what the church teaches. Secondly @ this point, all you can do is pray for your parents repentance.

 

[TheRealJuliane]

I am caught between a rock and a hard place. I love my parents, they do everything for me and have sacrificed so much in the last 10 years, making sure me and my sister went to the best schools possible. I am also very VERY concerned about their married life. They run the pre-Cana program at my parish, my mom is an “Extraordinary Minister of Holy Communion”, and they are very involved with their church. HOWEVER, when it comes to the church’s teachings on contraception and sex, they turn a blind eye. Whenever i bring up that Catholic’s should not be using contraception and that it is a mortal sin, they roll their eyes and say the Church doesn’t know was She is talking about. They go to Church every Sunday and act like believe faith is important but when it comes to practicing it, they don’t. I have tried talking to them about the moral issues associated with artifical contraception (btw, i know they use it), and they just don’t have any good responses. My mom says we could only afford 2 kids and my dad says the Church has no right to tell him how to have sex. My question is, how can I, their son, who also happens to be faithful to the Church’s teachings on this matter, help my parents? I don’t want to make them madder because they have already called me a “pious pig” and told me i don’t know what i’m talking about. I become enraged to the point where I tell them they will burn in hell if they don’t stop and they just laugh. So if anybody has any HELPFUL advice i would appreciate this. I love my parents and I don’t want them to go down the wrong road because I am terrified they are already half way there!

You are right, and they are wrong. But so what. You can’t change their minds by preaching to them about how wrong they are. They believe in the Church that they have created in their own minds, one that allows contraception. You know better. All you can do is pray. You’re not responsible for their salvation, as heartbreaking as that might be. You have to turn all of that over to the Holy Spirit. Detach with love. Do not directly confront them about this again. Live your life in a devout way, and do not get into arguments with them any more. There are millions of Catholics just like them in the Church today. Not to excuse it, just saying that when God straightens out His Church, He will do it without our help.

Never tell your parents they will burn in hell. Not a good evangelizing technique.

You will be in my prayers.

I love it that you are so keen to keep the Church’s tenets.



May God give you strength to stay holy.

 

[LaMusicaSenior]

This has got such a painful situation. Pray. Pray pray pray pray pray. And be a witness. St. Francis says to “Preach the Gospel always and use words if neccesary.” Echoing the words of the above posters, you have to respect their position as your parents, but not their actions which go against God, the Church, and morality.

You and your family are in my prayers.

God Bless and guide you,

Chloe M.

 

[DevotedChild]

This has got such a painful situation. Pray. Pray pray pray pray pray. And be a witness. St. Francis says to “Preach the Gospel always and use words if neccesary.” Echoing the words of the above posters, you have to respect their position as your parents, but not their actions which go against God, the Church, and morality.

You and your family are in my prayers.

God Bless and guide you,

Chloe M.

Chloe is right. I was a in a similar position as you when I found out about my parents going to nude beaches. All you can do now is pray. I had to stop complaining, especially after finding out that it has helped their marriage, and pray harder for them.

God Bless

 

[cmscms]

First you need to pat yourself on the back for being strong enough to want to follow the church when your parents don’t. Then you need to pray for them.

I agree with everyone who tells you not to talk about it with them again. If you are in a social situation where the topic comes up you can hold true to your beliefs and say ‘I pray to God I never give into the temptation of the sin of contraceptives’, you can say ‘the church teaches contraceptives are wrong and I want to follow that’. You can NOT say ‘you will burn in hell for using them’ because at the end of the day, God makes those decisions not you.

And here comes the part you don’t want to hear

And the most shocking part to me is…the fact that you discuss this with your parents

Most people keep their sex life private and to talk about your parents sex like in front of them is REALLY over stepping a boundary I am surprised the worse they have done is rolled their eyes and called you a pious pig. In my books, it sounds like you are old enough to be kicked out of the house for such a rude interferrence.

Yes it is normal to be concerned about loved ones especially your parents, but jesus told us not to judge

CM