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For the longest time, I have not known true peace. I am a huge worry wort and truth be told, I hate being a worrier. I have been looking for God’s will for my life for the longest time. I just turned 29 last month, I am still single, unemployed and with no hope of finding a job anytime soon. My family has seemed to have left the faith and growing up my sisters and I were never taught the faith or how to pray, so both of my sisters have now left the faith. Somehow, here I am, I seek truth and am just now starting to learn it. I have never had a spiritual director and I wish for one but can’t seem to find one. I struggle with praying everyday, on days of fast, I find difficulty when my family wonders why I am not eating. For me it is hard to practice the Catholic faith in a home where it is not lived out. For the past three weeks I have been going to a SSPX chapel about 30 to 45 minutes away from my house because I feel that there is more truth there than at the local church that is a modern building with barely any Catholic identity to it (this just makes me really sad). I just wish that the SSPX chapel was not so far away. I have prayed several Novenas seeking answers to God’s will for my life, for a community to live in, pray with, work with, and spend the rest of my life with, and to eventually die in. Since 2008, I have come into a deeper realization and love of the traditional values both in life and in the church. I find great beauty in the traditional latin mass and in wearing the veil that I desire to take part in no other type of liturgy. I know that I am not yet strong enough to be on my own or even to live the life as a single person out in the world. I know I still have a lot more to learn. I feel as though I can not get stronger in the environment that I am living in. I have been praying by myself for some time and wish I had someone to pray with me. I have hinted to my family that they should go to church, I have twice given them gifts in hopes that they would start praying with no luck, my heart is breaking and sad because of the lack of faith at home. Currently I am trying to stay afloat in the storm which I find myself in. I desire a family that has a strong prayer life, that goes to church together, that has meals together, that prayers together, that serves the community together, etc. Each member of my family seems to be going in different directions and here I am waiting for them, yet, I know I am not strong enough to teach them because I am just learning, yet I am not sure what I should do next, where I should go, etc.

Please pray for me and if anyone has any advice, please let me know. Thank you.

J.M.J.
Jessica
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†
 
Hail Mary, Full of Grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blest is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen. :bible1:
 
Lord, please shine a foretaste of the divine, heavenly light onto Jessica as she perseveres in this fallen world, where sadness and trials remain. Lead her with many graces into joy, fortitude, faith, hope, and love. Send angels to guide her to a suitable job and suitable vocation and companionship in accord with the Father’s merciful will. Fortify her faith in accord with the true teachings of the faith. Have mercy, Lord. Our Lady, angels, and saints, pray with us. Amen.
 
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For the longest time, I have not known true peace. I am a huge worry wort and truth be told, I hate being a worrier. I have been looking for God’s will for my life for the longest time. I just turned 29 last month, I am still single, unemployed and with no hope of finding a job anytime soon. My family has seemed to have left the faith and growing up my sisters and I were never taught the faith or how to pray, so both of my sisters have now left the faith. Somehow, here I am, I seek truth and am just now starting to learn it. I have never had a spiritual director and I wish for one but can’t seem to find one. I struggle with praying everyday, on days of fast, I find difficulty when my family wonders why I am not eating. For me it is hard to practice the Catholic faith in a home where it is not lived out. For the past three weeks I have been going to a SSPX chapel about 30 to 45 minutes away from my house because I feel that there is more truth there than at the local church that is a modern building with barely any Catholic identity to it (this just makes me really sad). I just wish that the SSPX chapel was not so far away. I have prayed several Novenas seeking answers to God’s will for my life, for a community to live in, pray with, work with, and spend the rest of my life with, and to eventually die in. Since 2008, I have come into a deeper realization and love of the traditional values both in life and in the church. I find great beauty in the traditional latin mass and in wearing the veil that I desire to take part in no other type of liturgy. I know that I am not yet strong enough to be on my own or even to live the life as a single person out in the world. I know I still have a lot more to learn. I feel as though I can not get stronger in the environment that I am living in. I have been praying by myself for some time and wish I had someone to pray with me. I have hinted to my family that they should go to church, I have twice given them gifts in hopes that they would start praying with no luck, my heart is breaking and sad because of the lack of faith at home. Currently I am trying to stay afloat in the storm which I find myself in. I desire a family that has a strong prayer life, that goes to church together, that has meals together, that prayers together, that serves the community together, etc. Each member of my family seems to be going in different directions and here I am waiting for them, yet, I know I am not strong enough to teach them because I am just learning, yet I am not sure what I should do next, where I should go, etc.

Please pray for me and if anyone has any advice, please let me know. Thank you.

J.M.J.
Jessica
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“Pray, Hope and don’t worry” - Saint Padre Pio
Advice: This is his feast-day. Please ask for him to intercede for you before the Throne of God​

Holy Mary most pure, pray for us.

Saint Joseph, chaste spouse of Mary, pray for us.

Saint Maria Goretti, lily of purity, pray for us.

Saint Thomas Aquinas, girded by angels, pray for us.

Saint Agnes of Rome, steadfast in purity, pray for us.

Saint Augustine of Hippo, convert from impurity, pray for us.

Saint Padre Pio, Stigmatic and Mystic of the Church, pray for us.

Amen
 
Praying for your religious/vocational discernment-may you be given wisdom and open to God’s will.

Hail May, Glory Be, St. Rita-please pray for this.

I dedicated a Rosary to your discernment-may you find peace and strength-always remember that all of us are Sisters and Brothers in Christ.
 
Praying that you will discern the vocation God has for you and that you will be given the gifts (along with strength and wisdom) to guide you to your truth path.
 
Holy Michael the Archangel defend us in the day of battle.
Be our safeguard against the wickedness and snares of the devil.
May God rebuke him, we humbly pray,
and do Thou, O Prince of the Heavenly Host,
by the Power of God,
thrust down to hell, satan and all the wicked spirits,
who wander through the world for the ruin of souls.
Amen.

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession and was left forsaken. Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you I come, before you I stand, a sorrowful sinner. Despise not my words, O Mother of the Word, but in your mercy, hear and answer me.
Amen
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Hi Jessica,

I just turned 30, so trust me I know where you are in a sense. This is just my opinion and by no means am I an expert. First off, I feel for the position that you are in and I know it can not be easy. But for some reason you are in it. Remember, Gods plan is perfect and everything we experience and go through is for a reason, be it spiritual or personal growth. Perhaps you are meant to be a spiritual leader in you family. With that said, I would concentrate less on that and more on you finding a true spiritual identity. Spend time in scripture and prayer…try some meditation. Pray for the holy spirit to quiet your mind and open your heart to Gods message for you. If you feel lost, I am a true believer in the Novena to St. Jude. I can promise you after the 9th day you will get some clarity and peace. Keep after it and don’t get discouraged. Turn to the Mother Mary for strength and comfort. Hope all goes well.
 
Hi,
Good for you. There is great rejoicing in heaven because the Father has someone in your family that he can work through to gain the rest of your family, you. You are definitely on the right path, you recognize the deficiencies in your family life and you’re praying and attending church.

Now the hard part. This situation did not happen overnight and it will not resolve quickly either. But, God WILL work through you. When you pray ask for increased faith and love for him. You cannot make your faith greater, it will only come from the Father. You must also pray with great faith that your prayers will be answered in the Fathers time. He answers all prayers you must pray though in light of this. As in, you pray to Him like this,

Father, I know you will answer my prayer for my families return to the faith. But I know it will be in your time. Please make me the person you want me to be, use me as the instrument to bring my family to you, send the Holy Spirit to me to increase my faith and love in You.

Blessed Mother Mary and your Holy spouse St Joseph please intercede to your Son to make my family a loving Catholic family. Soften their hearts so that we may pray together, forgive, support, love and encourage each other daily. I ask this in Your Blessed name Jesus Christ. Amen.

The thing is, Jesus wants you to pray with faith. Pray believing that this will happen, he will answer your prayer, for he says, Matthew 7:7

7 - Ask, and it shall be given you: seek, and you shall find: knock, and it shall be opened to you.

The Lord wants what you want from them more than you do. So pray knowing it will happen, but realize it could be years. In the meantime it’s that time in the church when all programs are starting up. At least if you’re in the US. I just started a Bible Study, see what’s happening where you are. Join a prayer group like the Legion of Mary if they have one, volunteer in one of the church charities. You’ll meet other Catholics and possibly find a spiritual advisor.

Now let me tell you my experience.

When the Catholic Church sex scandal hit the news my husband decided to leave the church. That caused a huge problem for me and then the worst thing imaginable came to be. An extended family member turned out to be one of the victims. You cannot imagine the horror and my husband lost pretty much his faith. Even I found my Catholic faith severely shaken. This family member had a nervous breakdown and had been in severe psychological distress since the attack so now we all understood why.

It has taken nearly 20 years but I have my husband back at church. This past June I finally got him back to confession. It has been a long, long road. I went years without any sign that things were going to change, I would tell him I was on my way to mass and he would actually say, “not that … place again.” I would just cringe and beg God to forgive him. He hated priests and vowed never to go in there again.

Don’t give up, things will change, remember in your family YOU are God’s secret weapon, his inside man/woman, the instrument he will wield for change. So rejoice in your important roll.

One last thing, in my experience I found that I had to lead my husband by example. I couldn’t ask him over and over to pray with me or go to church. He wasn’t open to that at all. I just kept praying like mad, then I might ask if he’d come with me to church, he said no for a long time, then once he said yes. After that he went once in a while. It went on like this for years. Now he goes regularly, takes my daughter if I’m out of town, I got him to confession. But strangely he doesn’t utter a single prayer in church he’s silent. He may be praying inside, I don’t know. I don’t ask because I can’t push. But I know that The Lord will help me with this and it will be resolved eventually.

Sorry so long winded, your post just spoke to me and I want you to have faith and to be joyful that God has touched you to be his special instrument in his plan to help your family. You have been blessed.
 
Hi Jessica -

My prayers are with you, and rest assured that many here are praying with you and for you. Even though we cannot be there to comfort you, we are very much spiritually in touch with your situation.

I just want to tell you to keep going, and continue to persevere on the path of the Lord. Remember, this is just a bump in the road. The Lord will look out for you.

God Bless
J
 
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