Prayers as I prepare for Marriage

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Hello everyone, I am looking for prayers as I am preparing for the sacrament of Matrimony with my Fiancée in a little over a month. We are both 21 and before anyone asks we know we are meant to be together and we have prayerfully discerned this after going out for over 3 years, my request is not for this though specifically.

I have been battling an addiction to pornography and masturbation for a long time. I have fought it every step of the way and continue and never plan on stopping. I have filters up the wazoo, I make an attempt to pray regularly and everything but no matter what I do I cannot break away from this. I am looking for prayers for help, and if anyone has been in a similar situation or knows of anything that might help I would greatly appreciate it.

I know marriage is not something that people have to come into being perfect, far from it actually, but it is a place to work on things as well together with your spouse. I would though like to diminish it as much as possible. Thank you and God Bless!
 
Samkuhlman said:
Hello everyone, I am looking for prayers as I am preparing for the sacrament of Matrimony with my Fiancée in a little over a month. We are both 21 and before anyone asks we know we are meant to be together and we have prayerfully discerned this after going out for over 3 years, my request is not for this though specifically.

I have been battling an addiction to pornography and masturbation for a long time. I have fought it every step of the way and continue and never plan on stopping. I have filters up the wazoo, I make an attempt to pray regularly and everything but no matter what I do I cannot break away from this. I am looking for prayers for help, and if anyone has been in a similar situation or knows of anything that might help I would greatly appreciate it.

I know marriage is not something that people have to come into being perfect, far from it actually, but it is a place to work on things as well together with your spouse. I would though like to diminish it as much as possible. Thank you and God Bless!
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Gracious and merciful Father, please come to their assistance.

Our Father, who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be, world without end
Amen.
 
You are absolutely in my prayers.

Perhaps, if you are committed to kicking this vice, for your own sake and the sake of your bride (hey, we got married at 20), you would consider getting rid of your computer or internet connection. Using only computers at the library for “musts”. If you have a smart phone that you use, downgrade to a “dumbphone”. Find ways to cut it out of your life.

What a wonderful wedding gift to your new wife if you went to such lengths to truly marry her.
 
I recommend also, if you haven’t already, telling your fiance that you struggle with this. Making yourself accountable to her. Vowing to tell her each time you fall into this sin, so perhaps if the fear of disappointing God seems too detached, disappointing your wife will discourage you.
 
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

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Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†
 
First off, you make a choice to proceed with porn. It is a choice you make and no one else. If you say I’ll try then that is what you will do… If you tell yourself I am not that man anymore and choose to STOP you will. Don’t get married until you stop. She deserves better. If you really want to stop then tell her you will commit to WEEKLY confession with the same priest… and tell him why. You will not shock him, promise.

If you are not serious enough to do that then your pride is more important than beating this sin… admit it Tough I know but I know what am asking of you… Under no circumstances should you marry if you are not willing to do this. I have heard it before… 5 years down the road… “you knew I had this “problem” when you married me, I can’t stop.”

This is not something she needs to understand. Right now take a photo of her and tape it to your monitor… all of them. make the background on your phone her photo… just her.

Every time go back to porn ask yourself why… are you mad at her? frustrated with her for something? Lonely and feeling sorry for yourself? There is a trigger. Find it. When you fail you start over… you don’t try. You do. You go to confession tell all and start over. You do not receive the Eucharist in the state of mortal sin. Porn is mortal sin (Lust to start with) Masturbation is also a sin. Tough rules.

Think of it this way. How would you feel if your wife to be told you she would “try” and be faithful to you? Porn will cause you to expect things from her that you see there. She will feel inadequate since she is not “enough” for you. If you love her then you want the best for her and want her to be happy even if you are not… in marriage when you start to believe “she should” do, want, expect, - anything then that is not love.

I pray that you do end th9s habit. You will fail. Just start again. Don’t waste your time trying… it is excusing your failure. Imagine her face when you tell her what you did? That will take the thrill out of it.

Other things to think about. Give her your passwords for all sites. Put the computer in place where you have no privacy.

Sorry to be so tough but at 21 you will have many challenges just do to you both growing older. Put this on top of those and the future is not bright.

Start here… You are not alone or the first to face this… watch this… He has been there…catholic.com/video/overcoming-pornography-addiction
 
Congrats! Ok, now, let’s get real. Drop the porn. It is mortal sin, which you know, so be done with it. Anyway, I wish you the best!
 
Samkuhlman said:
Hello everyone, I am looking for prayers as I am preparing for the sacrament of Matrimony with my Fiancée in a little over a month. We are both 21 and before anyone asks we know we are meant to be together and we have prayerfully discerned this after going out for over 3 years, my request is not for this though specifically.

I have been battling an addiction to pornography and masturbation for a long time. I have fought it every step of the way and continue and never plan on stopping. I have filters up the wazoo, I make an attempt to pray regularly and everything but no matter what I do I cannot break away from this. I am looking for prayers for help, and if anyone has been in a similar situation or knows of anything that might help I would greatly appreciate it.

I know marriage is not something that people have to come into being perfect, far from it actually, but it is a place to work on things as well together with your spouse. I would though like to diminish it as much as possible. Thank you and God Bless!
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Praying for your intentions.
 
Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.

Amen.

†

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†
 
I have found spiritual warfare prayers to be the most powerful way to combat chronic sins- and I’ve made use of all the treasures the Church has to offer.

Prayer To Confess Pornography Involvement/Masturbation

Dear Heavenly Father, You have told us in Your Word to put on the Lord Jesus Christ and make no provision for the flesh in regard to its lusts (Rom. 13:14). I acknowledge that I have given in to fleshly lusts, in the form of pornography and/or masturbation that wage war against my soul (1 Pet. 2:11). I thank You that in Christ my sins are forgiven, but I have transgressed Your holy law and given the enemy an opportunity to wage war in my members (Eph. 4:27; Jas. 4:1; 1 Pet. 5:8). I come before Your presence to acknowledge these sins and to seek Your cleansing (1 Jn. 1:9) that I may be freed from the bondage of sin (Gal. 5:1). I now ask You to reveal to my mind the ways that I have transgressed Your moral law and grieved the Holy Spirit so that I may stay pure in body and soul before You. I ask this, my Lord, strengthened by the intercession of the Immaculate Virgin Mary, Mother of God, of Blessed Michael the Archangel, of the Blessed Apostles Peters and Paul, and all the Saints and Angels of Heaven, and powerful in the holy authority of Your Name.
Amen.

St. Lucy, pray for us!
St. Barbara, pray for us!
St. Philomena, pray for us!
St. Maria Goretti, pray for us!
Our Blessed Mother, pray for us!
St. Michael, pray for us!
Amen.
 
Hail Mary full of grace the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
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