Prayers for dealing with difficult relative

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My mother is an abusive drunk and has been all of my life. Every year there has to be some kind of crisis on Christmas or any special occasion, so she can feel sorry for herself and put us down. I am at the point in my life where it doesn’t hurt me anymore, but it makes me angry and I cannot hold my tongue anymore. Long, long story. If things are going smoothly she will find something to be upset about. Tonight she was complaining that noone helps her, but her friends kids don’t let their mother lift a finger. First of all, we do help, but it’s never good enough and she doesn’t remember from year to year. For example. She quit drinking for several years when I was in my late teens and 20’s. Even though she was a 'dry drunk" I supported her by attending meetings with her and always remembering her with a card on her anniversary date. At one point when she tried to sober up again in my 30’s, I drove from another town just to go to meetings with her, once a week. Recently she was complaining to my Dad and me that her kids where not supportive of her when she quit drinking!! Also, recently she had me get her a bottle of whiskey while I was out. I know. I shouldn’t have enabled her and do not as a rule, but sometimes it is too hard to say no, because I am living under her roof due to illness and underemployment. While at the liquor store, the woman behind the counter told me that my Mom was worried that her kids, (me & siblings) wouldn’t be able to throw a good 50th wedding anniversary. We are all financially in trouble, but we planned on doing something simple. It was awkward and embarrassing. Over the years she gets drunk and on the phone and tells everyone our business and exaggerates it to make it worse, etc etc etc. I could go on. Anyway, her friends mother is a wonderful woman who nurtured and raised wonderful successful kids. I hate to put it this way, but our mother is poison to our family. I pray to be compassionate toward her, because I am a compassionate person, but I just want to get back out on my own, tell her I love her and forgive her, and then never talk to her again. She endured some difficult things in her childhood and does have a heavy struggle within herself which she told me about last year and which I could have lived my whole life not knowing. I do forgive her as best I can, but I honestly don’t feel like I love her. So sorry for the long request. Thank you for your prayers regarding this and also for a special intention regarding a friend.
 
Remember oh most gracious Virgin Mary that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thine intercession was left unaided. Inspired by this confidence I fly unto thee oh Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To thee I come, before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. Oh Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions but in thy mercy hear and answer me. Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

Saint Dymphna, holy patron of family harmony, pray for Diem and his family that there may be harmony between all of them. Amen.

Infant Jesus of Prague, You who were born in Bethlehem in a humble manger 2000 years ago, we celebrate Your birth this evening and tomorrow. Come to the aid of Diem and his family. You have answered many petitions for help with family life. Be with Diem and his family now. Amen.

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be Thy name. Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done on earth as it is in Heaven. Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us and lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil. Amen.
 
PATER NOSTER,
qui es in caelis,
sanctificetur nomen tuum.
Adveniat regnum tuum.
Fiat voluntas tua, sicut in caelo et in terra.
Panem nostrum quotidianum da nobis hodie,
et dimitte nobis debita nostra
sicut et nos dimittimus debitoribus nostris.
Et ne nos inducas in tentationem,
sed libera nos a malo. Amen.
 
I ask God to give you peace. You sound worn out by it all. The person who should be of most love and support to your family is the person who is causing most pain.

Please give strength and protection to the family, Lord.
Lord we humbly and confidently ask You to help Diem to obtain reliable employment and be able to live a wholesome, independent life, at a safe distance, yet never abandoning the mother, while also not courting her company to the extent that is undermines peace and charity.
 
Thank you, Trishie. It has always been a deficit for myself and my siblings to essentially not have a mother. She was not only absent, but abusive-mostly verbally. All three of us were stripped of who we might have been due to what went on when we were kids. I’ve had help with it over the years, but having to live with her again is stirring up memories that I must have stuffed away. My sister remembers the most and has said that she was hardest on me. I don’t doubt that.She is the same way with my niece. I was reticent about writing about it here, but I am anonymous and the situation needs prayer. Though she does’nt hesitate to tell others about our shortcomings, I wouldn’t do the same to the people who know her. I know there is a good person in her somewhere. One time she quit drinking and began to pray the rosary and go to mass here and there and she was an entirely different person. She was pleasant to be around and even kind. But, that didn’t last long.

Thanks to all who are praying for this intention. God Bless you and Merry Christmas.
 
Hail Mary
full of grace
the Lord is with you
Blessed are you among women,
and blessed is the fruit of your womb
Jesus
Holy Mary
Mother of God
pray for us sinners
now and at the hour of our death
Amen
 
I’m praying that you find an extra measure of Christ’s peace to deal with this situation. And I hope you can find somebody to talk to about it in person; that might help. I’m praying for your mother, that she can find sobriety and peace, and I’m praying for your whole family.

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession was left unaided. Inspired by this confidence, we fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, our Mother. To you do we come, before you we stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word incarnate, despise not our petitions but, in your mercy, hear and answer them. Amen.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now, and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
Diem- I pray for God’s GRACE and PEACE come into your Mother, you and your family. I am dealing with a difficult person too and I have started replacing the negative thoughts with a simple, “GOD HAVE MERCY ON HIS SOUL.” It gives God what God wants: control over the situation. Peace my friend and prayers are coming to you right now.
 
*My Lord and My Sweet, Heavenly, Eternal, Father God…

I offer up this intention to thee…

My Sweetest, Heavenly, Eternal, Loving Father…

I dip this intention in, The Blood Of My Sweet Savior, Jesus Christ!"

And I rebuke all evil spirits, that are causing all anxiety, agitation and fear…

“In The Name Of Jesus Christ!”

My Precious, Heavenly, Eternal, Most Loving Father God…

“Fiat!” (It Is Done!)

“I Praise YOU, Sweetest Father God!”

“I Praise YOU, Sweetest, Jesus!”

“I Praise YOU, Sweetest Holy Spirit!”

“I Thank YOU, Loving, Sweet, Father God!”

“I Thank YOU, Loving, Sweet, Jesus!”

“I Thank YOU, Loving, Sweet Holy Spirit!”

“I Give All Glory, Honor and Praise To YOU!”

And I Claim This Special Intention Now…

“In The Name Of The Father, The Son, And, The Holy Spirit!”

AMEN! *
 
I am praying for you and your mother.
I watched one of my closest friends suffer years of abuse because of her alcoholic father. It was only after he passed away that she had realized that he was suffering from some sort of mental illness and was self-medicating with the alcohol. I could tell you some pretty horrible stories of Christmases that she endured but that wouldn’t do you much help. Instead, all I can do for you is pray that your mother gets the help that she needs and that God gives you the strength to bear her when she is in that drunken state …
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee,
Blessed art thout among women and
blessed is the Fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of god, pray for us sinners
now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
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