Prayers for husband dying

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Hello, I could use some prayers for my husband who is dying. He’s been fighting a pituitary brain tumor for the past 10 years and the last 5 he became disabled due to complications from his last surgery. He went into a seizure late last night, then into cardiac arrest at arrival of the hospital. It took approximately 5 to 8 minutes to resuscitate him, however he hasn’t awakened and was put on anti-seizure meds because he was still having seizures. Not sure he has activity left in his brain and so the doc is going to assess his brain activity after they wean him off of the anti-seizure meds. I have a decision to make as to whether or not to continue with artificial life support if it’s determined if his brain function isn’t there anymore. Has anyone had to face a similar situation with artificial life support and whether to continue it if brain activity is gone, nearly gone, somewhat gone. The tumor has grown and is large, surgery isn’t an option anymore because of the risk and the fact that it would do more harm than good. A parish priest gave him the sacrament of the anointing of the sick today, I wasn’t there when the priest was there. My husband has really suffered the past 5 years trying to rehabilitate from his last surgery complications, he has suffered with pain and sadness at the loss of so many things including the distancing of his siblings and our older kids. I have so many feelings of guilt and sadness right now thinking of my own shortcomings with him and feeling a loss of appreciation I should have had for him because he was so grateful and loving towards me. I took care of him 24/7 but not always cheerfully. I didn’t even get to say goodbye to him or kiss and hug him and I wished I’d said I loved him more, he was always much more giving in that way than me.
I feel totally sad.
Debbie
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.
†
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
And at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
I pray that you have had your priest come in and give him the sacrament of the annointing of the sick including the apostolic blessing. sanctamissa.org/en/resources/books-1962/rituale-romanum/36-the-sacrament-of-the-anointing-of-sick-apostolic-blessing-plenary-indulgence-at-the-hour-of-death.html

Praying the Divine Mercy Chaplet at his side will also give him peace. thedivinemercy.org/message/devotions/praythechaplet.php

Eternal Father, I offer you the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Your Dearly Beloved Son, Our Lord, Jesus Christ, in atonement for our sins and those of the whole world.

For the sake of His sorrowful Passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world.
 
Dear Debbie,

I am praying for you, your husband, and your family.

:gopray2:
 
Deb, tell him now how much you love him. They say the hearing is the last thing to go. He may hear you yet.

I will remember him at Mass tomorrow morning. May the Holy Spirit be with you and guide you at this difficult time.

Hail Mary, full of grace
the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, mother of God
pray for us sinners
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Debbie our hearts go to you.
It’s natural to regret past perceived ‘failures’. We do the best we can manage at the time.
His spirit is with him still, so tell him how much you love him even if his brain doesn’t know his spirit will, which means that is true self is there even if his poor brain is so damaged.

Jesus please enfold Debbie’s husband in Your love.
Surround Debbie with comfort and love. Let her know that her husband understands and smiles upon her whom he loves.

Jesus, please bring about healing in this family, especially now. Let forgiveness and reconciliation drive away division and resentment in any of the family members. Please inspire them to give each other and Debbie, kind and loving, and wise, practical support.

Father may You will be done, may Your kingdom come, in this family
 
JPJD has a good suggestion. Your husband can probably hear you and feel your love. Certainly, Jesus will tell him anything you ask of Him. Our family went through a similar trauma with my adopted mother. I can empathize somewhat. My prayers are with you.

May the Lord bless and comfort you, your family and friends.
 
I will remember you, your husband, and all of his loved ones in my prayers this evening. May the Lord be close to your husband for the remainder of his illness and joyfully welcome him into His Kingdom as he leaves this world. May the Lord be with you and all of your husband’s loved ones, giving comfort and strength in this difficult time.

I am so sorry that you must endure such a difficult trial. Know that the Lord is always with you helping you to carry all of life’s crosses.
 
I will pray for you and your husband. Please tell him how you feel. He might be able to hear you now, and if he can`t, he can hear you from heaven.

Sincerely,

Maria1212
 
Hello,

Really want to thank you all and God bless you all again for the comforting words and prayers. Where I live, I’m not really surrounded by a catholic community and my husband’s family is also not catholic so I am greatly encouraged to be a part this online community of catholics of like mind, I also feel comforted by the quick responses, as if this alone is evidence of God’s presence.
Love to you all, and God bless you all.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.
 
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.
†
 
Continuing prayers for you and your husband …
may God bless and comfort you both.

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Jesus please enfold Debbie’s husband in Your love.
Surround Debbie with comfort and love. Let her know that her husband understands and smiles upon her whom he loves.

Jesus, please bring about healing in this family, especially now. Let forgiveness and reconciliation drive away division and resentment in any of the family members. Please inspire them to give each other and Debbie, kind and loving, and wise, practical support.

Father may You will be done, may Your kingdom come, in this family.
 
Hello all of my catholic prayer warriors,

A little good news today, my husband is not off the ventilator but the resp. therapist demonstrated by shutting it off that he has the capability to breath on his own. He won’t take him off of it though until he’s conscious. He also had a reaction in his left pupil, the right one is permanently dilated due to surgery/injury so don’t know if it will react anyways. But the biggest thing is that the eeg has shown that he is not brain dead, however his brain activity is surpressed and if I understood right, it was due to some medications and probably the trauma of the seizure activity and also the heart attack.
The prayers have had an effect on him I believe. I don’t know to what extent he’ll recover, he could land up in a vegetative state or become concious with some kind of disability, but we really don’t know yet. More time has to pass before I guess a clearer picture presents itself.
So anyways, I want to thank you all for responding to my post so quickly, you are all great and God Bless you all!!
Debbie
 
Tell him that you love him - you’d be amazed at what can happen at the end of a life. Also, if you can, put a brown scapular around his neck and pray to Mary to be with him at the hour of his death. Mary loves her children, and will protect those who loved her in life.

Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.
Amen.

Most sacred Heart of Jesus, have mercy on us.
 
debgab said:
Hello all of my catholic prayer warriors,

A little good news today, my husband is not off the ventilator but the resp. therapist demonstrated by shutting it off that he has the capability to breath on his own. He won’t take him off of it though until he’s conscious. He also had a reaction in his left pupil, the right one is permanently dilated due to surgery/injury so don’t know if it will react anyways. But the biggest thing is that the eeg has shown that he is not brain dead, however his brain activity is surpressed and if I understood right, it was due to some medications and probably the trauma of the seizure activity and also the heart attack.
The prayers have had an effect on him I believe. I don’t know to what extent he’ll recover, he could land up in a vegetative state or become concious with some kind of disability, but we really don’t know yet. More time has to pass before I guess a clearer picture presents itself.
So anyways, I want to thank you all for responding to my post so quickly, you are all great and God Bless you all!!
Debbie
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Thanks for updating us. :blessyou:Your family will stay in my prayers.
 
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