Prayers for me, domestic violence

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Praying! I am so sorry to hear that you and your daughter are going throuh this. May God’s healing hands comfort you both during this time.
 
Beautiful Mother, here is an earthbound Mother who needs to be shown the direction of His Mercy and love. Please help
 
Although I support the idea of separating from this man while he is in his current spiritual state, would it be right to totally wash the hands of him. He may indeed come to the realization that his actions are very unhealthy and hurtful to the family and himself. A change of the spirit would be rather difficult but there have been cases of it being accomplished. What does the church say about domestic violence?
 
I"ll pray for you - however if you could give an update it’d be most appreciated. I hope all is well.

Catholig
 
I can answer your question on domestic violence. God is the head of man, man the head of woman. He must not abuse his authority for he is not the judge, God is. Check your psalms.
 
Prayers for you!

God, give Beverly courage to go on with her life and raise her daughter peacefully! Amen.
 
Praying for you!
You need to seek help.
Please talk to your priest first.
You and your daughter both need to receive healings for the emotional wound.
 
Psalms7:6 Rise up, O Lord, in thy anger: and be thou exalted in the borders of my enemies. And arise, O Lord my God, in the precept which thou hast commanded: 7 and a congregation of people shall surround thee. And for their sakes return thou on high. 8 The Lord judgeth the people. Judge me, O Lord, according to my justice, and according to my innocence in me. 9 The wickedness of sinners shall be brought to nought: and thou shalt direct the just: the searcher of hearts and reins is God. 10 Just is my help from the Lord: who saveth the upright of heart. 11 God is a just judge, strong and patient: is he angry every day? 12 Except you will be converted, he will brandish his sword: he hath bent his bow and made it ready. 13 And in it he hath prepared the instruments of death, he hath made ready his arrows for them that burn. 14 Behold he hath been in labour with injustice; he hath conceived sorrow, and brought forth iniquity. 15 He hath opened a pit and dug it; and he is fallen into the hole he made. 16 His sorrow shall be turned on his own head: and his iniquity shall comedown upon his crown. 17 I will give glory to the Lord according to his justice: and will sing to the name of the Lord the most high.
 
Holy Mary, embrace your daughter…embrace her as she spreads her wings so long denied the winds. Holy Mary, lift her into hope and blue skies…and show promises in your son that her children can help her find.
 
I will pray for all of you to receive the Grace and Wisdom to endure this most difficult Cross
 
Many thanks to all of you who have prayed for me and my daughter.

Things are looking up. I am job hunting. And we are safe.

The first hearing was today; it went well.
 
Giving thanks for blessings received and continuing to keep your intentions in prayer…
JMJ
 
Califman831 said:
Although I support the idea of separating from this man while he is in his current spiritual state, would it be right to totally wash the hands of him. He may indeed come to the realization that his actions are very unhealthy and hurtful to the family and himself. A change of the spirit would be rather difficult but there have been cases of it being accomplished. What does the church say about domestic violence?
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"Some abused women believe that Catholic Church teaching on the permanence of marriage requires them to stay in an abusive relationship. They may hesitate to seek a separation or divorce. They may fear that they cannot re-marry in the Catholic Church.

In When I Call for Help: A Pastoral Response to Domestic Violence Against Women, the Catholic bishops emphasize that “no person is expected to stay in an abusive marriage.” Violence and abuse, not divorce, break up a marriage. The abuser has already broken the marriage covenant through his or her abusive behavior. Abused persons who have divorced may want to investigate the possibility of seeking an annulment."

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To the OP: You are in my prayers.
 
dulcissima said:
"Some abused women believe that Catholic Church teaching on the permanence of marriage requires them to stay in an abusive relationship. They may hesitate to seek a separation or divorce. They may fear that they cannot re-marry in the Catholic Church.

In When I Call for Help: A Pastoral Response to Domestic Violence Against Women, the Catholic bishops emphasize that “no person is expected to stay in an abusive marriage.” Violence and abuse, not divorce, break up a marriage. The abuser has already broken the marriage covenant through his or her abusive behavior. Abused persons who have divorced may want to investigate the possibility of seeking an annulment."

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To the OP: You are in my prayers.
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In many diocese, the Tribunals make the presumption that if one spouse is violent or abusive, then they were not emotionally capable of consenting to a marriage. Therefore, if frequent abuse is occurring, the marriage is invalid. So if a person divorces for these reasons, there is a good possibility of receiving a favorable ruling from the Tribunal.

I was frequently abused in my previous attempt at marriage so I understand at least a little. (Of course I am a 6’ tall 250 lb man who did not fight back, not even to ward off the blows, when my 5’4" 120 ex-wife would attack me. I always kept my hands firmly planted in my pockets for fear of hurting her and then being accused of spousal abuse myself.)

Beverly Chang, you are in my prayers.
 
rpp said:
In many diocese, the Tribunals make the presumption that if one spouse is violent or abusive, then they were not emotionally capable of consenting to a marriage. Therefore, if frequent abuse is occurring, the marriage is invalid. So if a person divorces for these reasons, there is a good possibility of receiving a favorable ruling from the Tribunal.

I was frequently abused in my previous attempt at marriage so I understand at least a little. (Of course I am a 6’ tall 250 lb man who did not fight back, not even to ward off the blows, when my 5’4" 120 ex-wife would attack me. I always kept my hands firmly planted in my pockets for fear of hurting her and then being accused of spousal abuse myself.)

Beverly Chang, you are in my prayers.
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This is my understanding as well. I’ve also heard from someone on a tribunal that the head of the Roman Rota holds this view.
 
I’m praying for you–I’m so sorry you are going through this terrible time! I will also pray that your husband gets the necessary help that he needs, and that he finds the love of the Lord–soon.
(Please…find another place to live, so he cannot find you, too)😦
 
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