Prayers for Moving On

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I really am in need of some prayers. It has been a little over a year since my ex girlfriend broke up with me. It really devastated me and I still haven’t recovered fully. Now this was before I came back to faith, and she is not a very faithful person. I remember one time when she said prayer made her uncomfortable. After she broke up with me, she spent the next few weeks ignoring me, insulting me, and making me feel like dirt. I felt terrible and worthless. My entire life ended up falling apart to the point where I had nothing. No job, no money, no friends, no girlfriend, and only my aunt for family.

Now I thinking that perhaps all of this was temporal punishment for my many sins and for God to get my attention. I did have a ton of unconfessed sins on my soul. Since then, Ive been able to piece a little of my life back together. I have a job, car, and next week I’m going back to school. But my heart still stings when I think of my ex. For over a year I have found myself getting angry about what happened. I remember asking God to get revenge for me. After all, she didn’t even believe; all ignoring the fact I hadn’t been a good follower at all. I eventually dropped those kinda thoughts. But I still find myself getting angry about what she did.

Today, I discovered something on my way home from church. Im using anger to burry my feelings of sadness. Cause I don’t want to admit it still hurts that shes gone forever. I know there are a ton of fish in the sea, but I don’t know if I could ever find someone like her. Im not really asking for the moon, or even another girlfriend right now. I’m really just looking for prayers to help me deal with things. Handling my emotions has never been my strong point. I guess Im just scared to express how sad I really am cause it will hurt my pride. I could really use some prayers that the Lord will bring me some relief from these feelings of hurt and sadness. 😦
 
Lord, please send your love, through the love our Our Lady and the angels, to fill the void left in Drew’s heart over this matter. Accept his every prayer and draw him close to your Sacred Heart through them. Remedy all pains, emotional or spiritual, left by this episode in his life. Somehow, through the mystery of suffering, turn his life into one filled with constant joy. Send him companionship and graces in abundance in accord with the vocation to which the Father has called him. Spare a foretaste of divine light into the darkness and murkiness which linger, that he might well navigate through this fallen world unto the eternal garden. Cultivate in his heart faith, hope, love, and joy always. Have mercy, Lord. Our Lady, angels, and saints, pray with us. Amen.
 
I’m so sorry you still feel hurt and sad. Maybe you just need to let yourself grieve the loss for a bit without the anger. It’s hard when someone we love leaves in such a way. Be assured of my prayers; may the God of all comfort send you some peace!
Mary.
 
Hi Drew,

I agree with the others. Just give yourself more time, and allow yourself to grieve.

Going to church early and just sitting there in the quiet can be very calming, if you get the chance to do that.

Also, I always found sitting before Our Lord in Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament, to be very calming, too, especially during times of difficulty.

I will pray for you. God Bless You.
 
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Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning is now ever shall be world without end
Amen.

Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To thee do I come, before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy, hear and answer me. Amen

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But you are holding on to a dream of something and someone you know–that gives a kind of security. A known person who is not faithful versus an unknown person of faith who will be faithful to God and you. You might want to explore why your imagination settles on the old girlfriend.

In your faith, pray to God that HIS will be done, not yours. Let go and let God. Pray for your friend but don’t make bets or plan any futures around her. She obviously needs prayers, and praying for her might also help you to let go of her hurtful behavior and your old ways of thinking and feeling.
 
Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.

Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.

Give us this day our daily bread.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Amen.

†

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.

Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.

Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.

Amen.

†
 
I am praying for you to have a full life and for you to find the right Christian woman.
 
Auntie_A said:
But you are holding on to a dream of something and someone you know–that gives a kind of security. A known person who is not faithful versus an unknown person of faith who will be faithful to God and you. You might want to explore why your imagination settles on the old girlfriend.

In your faith, pray to God that HIS will be done, not yours. Let go and let God. Pray for your friend but don’t make bets or plan any futures around her. She obviously needs prayers, and praying for her might also help you to let go of her hurtful behavior and your old ways of thinking and feeling.
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I think my imagination settles on her cause I really thought she was perfect. She was pretty, funny, quirky. Its just hard to imagine ever finding someone like her. I think that’s the issue.
 
Our Father, Who art in heaven,
Hallowed be Thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come.
Thy Will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven. Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.

Amen.
 
Drew518 said:
I really am in need of some prayers. It has been a little over a year since my ex girlfriend broke up with me. It really devastated me and I still haven’t recovered fully. Now this was before I came back to faith, and she is not a very faithful person. I remember one time when she said prayer made her uncomfortable. After she broke up with me, she spent the next few weeks ignoring me, insulting me, and making me feel like dirt. I felt terrible and worthless. My entire life ended up falling apart to the point where I had nothing. No job, no money, no friends, no girlfriend, and only my aunt for family.

Now I thinking that perhaps all of this was temporal punishment for my many sins and for God to get my attention. I did have a ton of unconfessed sins on my soul. Since then, Ive been able to piece a little of my life back together. I have a job, car, and next week I’m going back to school. But my heart still stings when I think of my ex. For over a year I have found myself getting angry about what happened. I remember asking God to get revenge for me. After all, she didn’t even believe; all ignoring the fact I hadn’t been a good follower at all. I eventually dropped those kinda thoughts. But I still find myself getting angry about what she did.

Today, I discovered something on my way home from church. Im using anger to burry my feelings of sadness. Cause I don’t want to admit it still hurts that shes gone forever. I know there are a ton of fish in the sea, but I don’t know if I could ever find someone like her. Im not really asking for the moon, or even another girlfriend right now. I’m really just looking for prayers to help me deal with things. Handling my emotions has never been my strong point. I guess Im just scared to express how sad I really am cause it will hurt my pride. I could really use some prayers that the Lord will bring me some relief from these feelings of hurt and sadness. 😦
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We need people in our life that will affirm us and make us feel good about ourselves, and we them. Yes you feel anger, resentment, bitterness, grieving - these are all normal emotions and are a part of the healing process - and healing just takes time. For me it’s always amazing that I can talk to God about everything, good and bad, and he helps me sort it all out. 🙂
 
Drew, I am so sorry to hear about your breakup and the pain it has caused. You are very courageous to speak so honestly about your feelings and experience. God is very loving and merciful and he sees what is in your heart. He knows that you are trying to do the right thing and move forward with your life in a positive way with him in your heart. He will guide you through it each step of the way–just trust him… I promise! Keep praying and I will pray with you and for you.

Breakups are painful, but they are also a blessing. God has great plans for you and if you open your heart to all of the goodness and mercy he wants to show you…you will discover that the person you were truly meant to be with is really in your future and not your past.

So forgive your former girlfriend for all of the hurtful things she did and said to you. She needs to take ownership of that on her own. And, you will find when you do…that your peace will come. And you will be ready to embrace all the great things that lie ahead.

I believe in guardian angels. God sends them to us through family, friends and new people that we meet along the way. It sounds like your Aunt has been your guardian angel. Thank her and cherish her and listen to the good advise she may give you.

Pray to St. Anthony as well that he may direct you to the person whom you were truly meant to have as your partner.

Remember… Love is patient, kind, generous, forgiving and supportive. These are the things that build sustainable love in our lives. Find that person who believes in God the way you do and let the Lord lead the way.

Keep the faith and keep praying…good things are just around the corner for you.

By the way, I love the Devine Mercy Novena and Chaplet and going to adoration chapel.
It brings amazing peace to you. It’s like receiving radiation treatments of God’s peace just by sitting in the presence of the Sacrament of the Holy Eucharist.

I’ve been where you are and know what you are going through. Take it one step and day at a time. You will look back and realize that you are so much stronger as a result of this experience. Trials will come in our lives, and it is through them that we grow in spirit, character and faith. View this experience as a blessing…God is tapping you on the shoulder because he loves you. How awesome is that!

If you are interested, I can also send you a book that really helped me get through a very rough time. Let me know if I can help you in any way.

God Bless Drew.
 
Drew, prayers for you to be able to forgive and move on. I hope that you can pray for her and wish good things for her, in spite of your relationship breaking up. We really need to pray for those who hurt us, too. You will find a feeling of peace. As, OP mentioned pray in front of Blessed Sacrament, if available.

Praying for you to find someone with the same values. And, one who will love you and treat you with the same kindness that you treat her with. We all deserve someone to love us and treat us with respect and not someone who insults us. We need to pray for those people.

It is normal to grieve the loss of love relationship. If you find that you are having a hard time coping with this, you may want to consult a counselor for some short term talk therapy.
 
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Our Father, Who art in heaven
Hallowed be Your Name
Thy kingdom come,
Thy will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us;
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
For Thine is the Kingdom
and the Power
and the Glory for ever and ever.
Amen
~
O my God, leaning on your great power and your promises, I hope with a firm reliance obtain forgiveness of my sins, the help of Thy grace and eternal life, through the merits of Jesus Christ my Savior.
Amen
~
Eternal God, in whom mercy is endless and the treasury of compassion inexhaustible, look kindly upon us and increase Your mercy in us, that in difficult moments we might not despair nor become despondent, but with great confidence submit ourselves to Your holy will, which is Love and Mercy itself.
Amen

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