Prayers for my parents

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I’ve posted intentions for my father here before. He’s an alcoholic, and he and my mom’s marriage is at the breaking point (sleeping in different rooms, barely talking, etc). He feels like the only thing that can make him stop is to have support from my mom, which she refuses to give since she doesn’t understand his problem. He won’t go to AA meetings anymore because he’s so discouraged. He is also agnostic. He wants to believe, but can’t because he doesn’t understand God. My mom’s already making preparations for divorce in secret, and it’s breaking my heart to not just see this happen but be made an accessory to it. Please pray that my mom will stop erecting barriers between them and let go of some of her anger, and that my dad will learn to find peace in Gods love.
 
Lord have mercy. Both Alex’s mother and father are so discouraged and hurting.
Please help them. Lord please give Alex’s Dad the realization that it has to be his decision to give up alcohol. Being dependent means that he is not committed to giving up alcohol. Please firm his decision and his perseverance. Please give him wisdom to take the decision and follow through.
Please put forgiveness and compassion, and hope into his his wife’s heart and mind.
Please grant Alex’ urgent and heartfelt prayers for his mother and Dad and for his Dad’s sobriety and his parents’ marriage
 
Alex246 said:
I’ve posted intentions for my father here before. He’s an alcoholic, and he and my mom’s marriage is at the breaking point (sleeping in different rooms, barely talking, etc). He feels like the only thing that can make him stop is to have support from my mom, which she refuses to give since she doesn’t understand his problem. He won’t go to AA meetings anymore because he’s so discouraged. He is also agnostic. He wants to believe, but can’t because he doesn’t understand God. My mom’s already making preparations for divorce in secret, and it’s breaking my heart to not just see this happen but be made an accessory to it. Please pray that my mom will stop erecting barriers between them and let go of some of her anger, and that my dad will learn to find peace in Gods love.
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As someone who has been on both sides of this issue, child with alcoholic step-father and as a wife with an alcoholic husband, I think that I have a unique perspective for you. Please stop blaming your mom for doing what she needs to do to protect herself, and possibly you. You do not know what is going on in her head or her heart. Most likely, she is hurting so bad that it is taking everything in her to put one foot in front of the other some days.

My advice to you is to go to Al Anon. It is for family and friends of alcoholics. It will help you to figure out how to deal with this. The first thing that you should learn are the 3 Cs:

  1. *]You didn’t Cause it.
    *]You can’t Control it.
    *]You can’t Cure it.

    These are the hardest things to accept but the most freeing as well. If you are under 18, you should go to Alateen which is the one for kids/teens. See if you mom would be willing to go to an Alanon meeting. They will not judge you there. They also won’t tell you what to do. They are a safe place. To just know that you are not alone is priceless. My 1st meeting I just cried. The tissue box was right there handy for me to use.

    As for your dad, it is his decision as to whether he goes to AA and whether he picks up that drink. Yes, alcoholism is a disease, and some people never overcome it. But, there is hope. Take care of yourself first. You will be no good taking care of anyone else if you don’t take care of you. My husband has been sober for almost 3 years now. They have been wonderful years, but I can still see the disfunction that my kids carry around from that time. We take it one day at a time.

    I will pray for you, your mom, and your dad.

    al-anon.alateen.org/ (the alanon/alateen site to find a meeting near you)
 
Prayers sent to you and you parents, I can feel your pain. God Bess you.
 
Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen.
 
Lord, may Alex’s mother heal and begin to forgive her husband and try to work on their marriage together. May she give him the support that he needs so they can be happy together, and so he can have a better chance at beating his addiction. May Alex’s father come to know and love you, and love his wife, and come to see that alcohol is ruining his spiritual, marital, and physical life. May this Christmas bring healing and reconciliation to this family. Amen.
 
Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen.
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death
Amen.
 
Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen.
 
Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen.
 
***Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.

Amen.
 
Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen.
 
Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen.
 
Memorare (Prayer to Our Lady)
Remember, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to your protection, implored your help, or sought your intercession, was left unaided.
Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto you, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother. To you do I come, before you I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in your mercy, hear and answer me. Amen
 
Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name; Thy kingdom come; Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen.
 
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