Praying for your baby before you even have one?

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Did you pray when you had not married or had any children yet?

if you did, how has it helped you and your born children?

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I prayed for my son at least two years before conceiving.
We chose his name and I pray for him by name almost everyday.
When I was pregnant, once the blood test came back with question. But I have never worried. I knew it was a baby of prayer and God would take care of him.

My son was born normal. He is good looking, very smart, very godly. Prayer makes all the difference. It is never too early to pray.🙂
 
Thank you for sharing this, InLight247.

I have recently started praying about it too. 🙂

I was kinda worried about how children are this day, and hope that mine will be a good one. A member at my Bible study group say - “Pray for having a good wife! That will be very important”. 🙂
 
Yep, I pray (if its in God’s plan to send me a hubby) that he be kind and decent and that I’ll be a good and supportive wife to him and a good mom to our kids.
 
I’ve prayed for my future wife, if there be one, and my future children, if there be any. Since I’m not married, nor do I have children, I have yet to wait to see the results - although I’m more than sure that certain results exist already in the present. 😉
 
You may be tempted to pray that your future child will be smart, handsome / pretty, healthy, talented in music, art, math, etc.

Pray instead that your child will seek first the Kingdom of God.

I neglected to do this, and have deeply regretted this selfish sin on my part.
 
I think it is kind of weird to pray for someone in the past (Napolean for instance) but just as weird to pray for someone who doesn’t exist (it could give the impression that we believe in the pre-existence of the soul as well). I know god is out of time, however Napoleon is wherever he is (hopefully heaven :signofcross: :crossrc: :highprayer: :gopray2: ).

Catholig
 
I pray for those who will parent the children that we will hopefully adopt. They’re the ones who will be making such a sacrifice so that their child (and we) can benefit.

I also pray for the one child that we lost in early pregnancy two years ago (and did also pray before she was conceived). Although truthfully I need her prayers more than she needs mine. She’s already in heaven.

Praying for a child has taught me that God doesn’t answer our prayers on demand, or on our time-scale. Sometimes the best we can hope for is to have our hearts and minds open to other possibilities. We’ve tried unsuccessfully for nearly three years now. By the grace of God our marriage is stronger, we haven’t lost faith, and my husband has come around to the idea of adoption. Hence the prayers for our future children’s biological parents.
 
chevalier said:
I have yet to wait to see the results - although I’m more than sure that certain results exist already in the present. 😉
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ahhhh, that gives me some hint. 😉
ricmat said:
You may be tempted to pray that your future child will be smart, handsome / pretty, healthy, talented in music, art, math, etc.

Pray instead that your child will seek first the Kingdom of God.

I neglected to do this, and have deeply regretted this selfish sin on my part.
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Thanks for your great advice. Yes, I am praying for my future children’s vocations if I will have kids. 🙂
Catholig said:
I think it is kind of weird to pray for someone in the past (Napolean for instance) but just as weird to pray for someone who doesn’t exist (it could give the impression that we believe in the pre-existence of the soul as well). I know god is out of time, however Napoleon is wherever he is (hopefully heaven :signofcross: :crossrc: :highprayer: :gopray2: ).

Catholig
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I don’t think it is weird at all. After all, most of what we pray for are for our future - things such as your loved one, your job, your spritual life, etc…
SeekerJen said:
I pray for those who will parent the children that we will hopefully adopt. They’re the ones who will be making such a sacrifice so that their child (and we) can benefit.

I also pray for the one child that we lost in early pregnancy two years ago (and did also pray before she was conceived). Although truthfully I need her prayers more than she needs mine. She’s already in heaven.

Praying for a child has taught me that God doesn’t answer our prayers on demand, or on our time-scale. Sometimes the best we can hope for is to have our hearts and minds open to other possibilities. We’ve tried unsuccessfully for nearly three years now. By the grace of God our marriage is stronger, we haven’t lost faith, and my husband has come around to the idea of adoption. Hence the prayers for our future children’s biological parents.
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SeekerJen, thank you for sharing SeekerJen. I also pray if God wants me to adopt. At this time, I am still searching for a kid to sponsor (not to adopt though - just support them some financial need).
 
I do. One of my usual rosary intentions is for my future wife, that she’ll stay strong in her faith, and for our kids, that I’ll be able to guide them to be and stay faithful Catholics.
 
water said:
Thanks for your great advice. Yes, I am praying for my future children’s vocations if I will have kids. 🙂
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Actually, I’m not speaking about vocations specifically.

Before my daughters were born, I prayed that they would be smart, healthy, beautiful, good at everything, etc.

I got what I prayed for.

But I also got 2 atheist daughters.

Instead of all those things I prayed for, I should have prayed instead that they would seek God, because that is more important than all the other stuff put together. The other stuff is meaningless.
 
ricmat said:
Actually, I’m not speaking about vocations specifically.

Before my daughters were born, I prayed that they would be smart, healthy, beautiful, good at everything, etc.

I got what I prayed for.

But I also got 2 atheist daughters.

Instead of all those things I prayed for, I should have prayed instead that they would seek God, because that is more important than all the other stuff put together. The other stuff is meaningless.
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It is never too late to pray. We have seen lives of many holy persons and saints converting after living a wrongful life style.

For vocations, it is not always about religious orders, it could be anything - marriage, teacher, spiritual director, nuns, sister, priests, love for God, etc…I personally pray that my children will offer their whole lives completely to God if that is God’s will.
 
Catholig said:
I think it is kind of weird to pray for someone in the past (Napolean for instance) but just as weird to pray for someone who doesn’t exist (it could give the impression that we believe in the pre-existence of the soul as well). I know god is out of time, however Napoleon is wherever he is (hopefully heaven :signofcross: :crossrc: :highprayer: :gopray2: ).

Catholig
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It does. But part of the reason I pray for my future wife sometimes is that I have no clue who it might be. There’s no reason why she shouldn’t already be a person close to me - some 5, 10 or 20 years to come (if it be) are a formality after all. If it not be, well, no prayer goes to waste. Strange thing, you know, and I may be delusional, but sometimes when I pray for her, I feel I pray for a person that actually exists (i.e. that there is some designate of that prayer).
water said:
ahhhh, that gives me some hint. 😉
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Great. I wouldn’t have thought. 😉

Well, sometimes it just feels that the prayer is generally about the future, but something starts happening in the present. Besides, it’s not like God listens to the prayer the moment things happen as we asked (if they do)… in fact, He knew before we were born what we would pray for, so…
 
I didn’t pray for my children before I conceived them (never thought about it, but maybe I’ll start), but while I was pregnant, I prayed that each one would be, “happy and healthy, spiritually, physically, emotionally and mentally”. That pretty much seemed to cover all the bases for me.
 
I don’t recall praying for our children before we conceived them. However, while pregnant with all of them so far, dh would pray over my belly, give the baby his fatherly blessing and ask God to never let mortal sin touch their souls. We have maintained that tradition for 5 years now.
 
chevalier said:
It does. But part of the reason I pray for my future wife sometimes is that I have no clue who it might be. There’s no reason why she shouldn’t already be a person close to me - some 5, 10 or 20 years to come (if it be) are a formality after all. If it not be, well, no prayer goes to waste. Strange thing, you know, and I may be delusional, but sometimes when I pray for her, I feel I pray for a person that actually exists (i.e. that there is some designate of that prayer).

Great. I wouldn’t have thought. 😉

Well, sometimes it just feels that the prayer is generally about the future, but something starts happening in the present. Besides, it’s not like God listens to the prayer the moment things happen as we asked (if they do)… in fact, He knew before we were born what we would pray for, so…
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I agree with chevalier in this issue. I often pray for my future husband, even if I am not sure who he is or where he is right now. He’s an existing person, even if he isn’t in my life yet -or that’s what I think, at least. I don’t know what kind of struggles he is in right now, so that’s enough motivation for me to pray that that man builts a strong and lasting relationship with God, as I want to do right here, right now, through my singleness.

I don’t tend to ask for visions or extraordinary gifts from God -it’s not good to ask for them, because giving them is up only to God’s will-, but once I saw my kid. I couldn’t see his face, and the vision wasn’t long, but knowing that that little creature was my future son has prevented me to even sin right now!! And I am sure that the fruits of my obedience to God that kid will see when he comes to this world, in the time God has thought for him.

I consider that praying for people comming to your life in the future can help not only them, but also can prepare our hearts and minds to receive that person and all God has planned to show us through them. So I highly recommend it!

God bless you all and your kids as well 😉
 
I just wanted to post something I found minorly amusing. 😃

How do people take the question title. I took it as before conception - but looking at it “having a baby” can (and usually does) mean giving birth to one. So before one “has a baby” it would be in her womb - not nonexistent as in the first example.

If the baby is in utero I certainly wouldn’t say anything bad about praying for him (my previous comment not withstanding).

Catholig
 
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