I’m an adult male, and I will offer this:
First of all, I disagree with this practice of not marrying couples just because she is knocked up. How in the world can a Church cry about the plight of children who don’t grow up with both of their parents and then get in the way when the parents do right (assuming they are both eligible to be married)? OK, maybe I can see how when they are in high school they are immature, or if there is clear evidence of abuse or unfitness, but we do know that in this case they are in their 20s, and if there is evidence of abusiveness it should be brought forward or people should “zip da lip”. Whoever thought of this blanket policy needs to get their head examined.
**Besides, the men who knock women up need to be “taken off the streets”, so to speak, so that they don’t continue knocking up other women. **
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Norseman–your posts I typically agree with. But, what do you mean by ‘knocking’ women up? It’s a two way street. Men are not ‘knocking’ women up, and the women are asleep or something. And wake up…and poof…oh my gosh, how did I end up pregnant? No, if a woman willingly has sex with her bf, whatever…she is responsible for her actions, just like the man in question is. Getting pregnant just doesn’t happen, by men who are ‘knocking up’ women…it’s not magic or something. lol
I have never ever liked that phrase…‘getting a woman’ pregnant, or ‘knocking up a woman.’ It seems to render the notion that the woman who was voluntarily having sex with her bf, is somehow a victim or should not have the same responsibility. I don’t think you meant it this way, but just be cautious because that’s how that comes across.
Women and men who engage in premarital sex are not victims. They are responsible for their actions–equally.
