Preparing a Catholic Wedding and Reception

[IsaiahStar]

It means “stop doing that!”. A lot of that document was the Pope going “Come on guys, you’ve been told before that that was not allowed. I don’t want to have to tell you again! Just wait til your father comes home!” Ok, that’s my MOM intepretation.

“The abuse is to be set aside” – doesn’t that mean it’s NOT considered an abuse in the case mentioned (a Nuptial Mass)?

Nicole

 

[IsaiahStar]

It may be traditional in the US for a father to give his daughter away… but that actually is contradictory to the sacrament of marriage. When DH and I got married, we walked down the aisle together.

Maybe it’s “more Catholic” or whatever to walk down the aisle together…but a few months ago while at Mass (just after a Christopher West conference) I was thinking about the Bride of Christ imagery during communion - how we, as the Bride of Christ, process toward the altar to receive Jesus, our Bridegroom, in the Eucharist. I see a really awesome parallel in marriage when the groom is standing at the front of the church and the bride processes toward him. How beautiful!

But again, I’m a sucker for symbolism and imagery.

Nicole

 

[He_Man]

My fiancee and I are planning our Catholic wedding and reception. I am a convert to the Church and she is finishing her RCIA program. Now, both of our families are not Catholic (Her’s is Sikh which is an Indian Religion and mine are mostly protestant or non-religious) but we both are devout to the one true Church. I had several questions and they are in regards to the aspects of using Unity Candles, Rosary Presentations, and any other traditions or things like that. I am not all that familair with Catholic weddings (we have already worked out with my parish priest that my woman and I will have a private mass before the ceremony in the Church) so I was wondering for some tips and helpful traditions. Thank you and God Bless.
-Alex

My fiance’s church actually forbids the following:

• unity candle
• strapless gowns (for either of us, I am guessing…)
• modern Catholic music
• a number of other things.

I have heard a lot of girls steer clear of the Church because of the dress stipulation, but it’s cool with me.

It’s an awesome church, verrrrrry orthodox.

Congrats on your wedding!

She found this yesterday, though I can’t vouch for it myself: catholicbrides.com/

You can also do a Latin Mass if you want. Since certain guestse may not ever attend Mass again, bring out the good stuff (IMO).

 

[He_Man]

Did you wear a “this is what a feminist looks like” t-shirt in college?

Are you Jewish, is this in regards to Jewish weddings? Am I Jewish?

“In some cultures they do X” is a really poor argument for anything.

Admit it, in OUR CULTURE the only reason why they changed it from the father walking the daughter to the parents walking both up (gag) was because it wasn’t politically correct.

I agree 100%. For me, I’m American, and Catholic, and I’m a man.

 

[BlestOne]

One of the other posters reminded me of this:

When DH and I were going over the mass part of the marriage prep, the priest asked if I was doing a unity candle… and I know I didn’t image the sigh of relief when I said no…

other questions were what I was wearing… because our parish really strongly discourages strapless (probably has to allow it since there are only 2 bridal shops within 50 miles) but they do require a dress for women, doesn’t have to be floor length or anything, but has to be a dress. A friend of mine wanted to wear pants and pastor said not unless there is a really good reason for it. And specifically what I was wearing on my head… rule there was veils are appropriate and encouraged for first weddings only, flowers are fine, and hats are subject to pastors approval (I have no idea, but my guess would be that it is a small church and no room to take it off and big hats probably would obstruct the view of the priest or the guests).

He did point out no secular music was allowed… and was very happy when I gave him my list since it was all classical or very orthodox church hymns.

 

[agapewolf]

Did you wear a “this is what a feminist looks like” t-shirt in college?

Are you Jewish, is this in regards to Jewish weddings? Am I Jewish?

“In some cultures they do X” is a really poor argument for anything.

Admit it, in OUR CULTURE the only reason why they changed it from the father walking the daughter to the parents walking both up (gag) was because it wasn’t politically correct.

Your words again, are highly insulting.

No, I am not a feminist…and nothing I said showed that I was. Your labeling of a cultural practice as “effeminate” was absolutely insulting. I’m not arguing for the practice, I’m saying your language was wrong.

who is “they” anyway? This doesn’t make sense. The idea of a wedidng procession is that it is a LITURGICAL procession…like on Sunday. Those that are involved in ministries at the Mass, and who have specific interests in that particular mass can process. Parents being a part of that, and walking with their children is not wrong, nor effeminiate. It’s not to your taste, fine. But insulting the preference as you do is not right.

It’s not to my taste either, but I’m not insulting it as wrong, or bad, or with a “gag”.

 

[Phemie]

“The abuse is to be set aside” – doesn’t that mean it’s NOT considered an abuse in the case mentioned (a Nuptial Mass)?

Nicole

No. It’s pointing out a specific abuse that must be stopped. This “set aside” translation from Latin to English leads to misinterpretation. The French translation uses the words “Il faut faire cesser l’abus suivant” meaning “We must stop the following abuse”. That is pretty clear.