Priest’s confusing advice on premarital sex

[TK421]

Premarital sex is a grave matter and it needs to be avoided.

Your situation is stressful and I don’t doubt you, but premarital sex is not going to solve your stress. It might provide short-term relief but it will create deeper long-term problems.

Peace.

 

[Dovekin]

In the Confessional, priests apply the knowledge they have learned to your personal situation. While you may have heard this as a denial of what the Church teaches, he was probably more redirecting you to other problems in your life. The gravity of this sin is less in your case than in other situations, while other issues may need more attention.

The temptation to envy or anger may need more attention than the temptation to lust as you prepare to have the most perfect wedding ever in every detail. Preparing a wedding can be exhausting and exhaustion may make you forget the love you are preparing to celebrate. Not forever, but long enough to snap at a caterer, argue with a sibling, insult a friend trying to be helpful. Help them celebrate with you instead of stressing out about everything.

 

[Saturninia]

I’d say that every part of a Catholic marriage and sexuality looks crazy in the world’s eyes. Get ready!

 

[TheLittleLady]

the priest told me to stop feeling guilty, and that because we are engaged and we are making love, not to worry. It’s an inherently good act, and that we should just slow it down so that our honeymoon isn’t boring. He said pre marital sex is only serious when your relationship is NOT serious, but because we’re getting married in two months, we’re fine.

Sometime priests are wrong, they are human.