Priest In Question Column Answers Question: Should We Be Holding Hands at Mass During the Our Father?

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That’s exactly the position the Archbishop our our diocese takes. My understanding is that only the priests are supposed to pray with their hands spread out during the Mass, but I think it has become so widespread for the laity to do it that they would be hard pressed to stop it, and it doesn’t really hurt anything. In our parish, you can do it if you wish, or not except for the deacons and the alter servers who are required to keep their palms pressed together in prayer position.
 
When I returned to the Church a year and a half ago, I was reluctant to join in, but now I actually enjoy it. I’m still not a fan of running around and shaking hands all over the place though…
 
In the grand scheme of things it’s just silly.
I have more of an issue with people that will see you praying with your hands folded or clasped, and will literally PRY YOUR HANDS APART in the name of “community”.
Ditto for the people in the pew behind you that will grab your arm and bend it backward to hold your hand in some sort of pretzel like formation. When you have a sore shoulder already? No bueno.

I don’t know why people can’t keep their hands to themselves in church. :confused:

Crazy. But, we’ve beaten this issue to death with a damp lectionary.
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Pax Christi.

I don’t like it, and I don’t like it.

Between the opening Sign of the Cross and the Final Blessing is the Holy Mass, which is (ahem!) A PRAYER!!

NOT a social hour!!

Sometimes DURING HOLY COMMUNION I see and hear "hello"s and small talk.

Worship is worship; prayer is prayer.

God bless.
 
I always keep my hands folded. So do my children. If someone reaches for my hand, I decline. I am a fairly easy going person, but I have never been able to accept this trend. I know the intention is good, and our Diocese leaves it up to the individual. However, I find it distracting and uncomfortable.
 
When I returned to the Church a year and a half ago, I was reluctant to join in, but now I actually enjoy it. I’m still not a fan of running around and shaking hands all over the place though…
Amen to that, haha. I’m a complete germaphobe and the whole shaking hands thing just grosses me out. I keep hand sanitizer in my purse for use afterward, in case anyone is sick around me.
 
So glad to see fellow thinking… I simply fold my hands and bow my head deeply and close my eyes…so far it has worked.
 
At our Masses, it’s pretty much “do as you please” with regard to holding hands during the Our Father.

Unfortunately, it’s also do as you please regarding when to stand, sit, kneel. If we have 200 people at Mass, to an outside observer it looks like there are 195 different liturgies going on. (And I’m not talking about people with bad knees that need to stand or sit instead of kneel).

One universal seems to be (except for me) the outstretched hands position (orans position?) Some people have their hands held high for the whole Mass. Most raise their hands for each and every response. I guess this gives them the feeling of being a priest or something. To an outside observer this sort of looks like a calisthenics class learning how to do “jumping jacks.”

Can’t we standardize on something, and then enforce it…PLEASE!!!
 
I do not like holding hands, so I am glad that it would not be required.
 
God forbid we attend Mass as a community of friends verses a church full of strangers.

Many Catholics attend Mass with the attitude that it’s between themselves and God.

They want nothing to do with the people around them and everyone should just focus on themselves and God.

That’s not what Christ calls us to do.

Holy Communion, comes from the word community. We come together as a community and worship as a community of faithful people.

Holding hands isn’t mandated, and I would never try to force a person praying with their hands folded, to hold my hand.

However, when the person next to me holds out their hand, I will hold their hand and together, we’ll pray the Lord’s Prayer, as He intended.

Salvation was never intended to be individualistic, but societal.

Jim
 
The response of the priest echos that which Cardinal Arinze gave a few years back. He discouraged treating the faithful like soldiers trying to regiment every way the move at every point in Mass. He said it is all okay as long as no new posture is be proscribed by the priest. One should not be told to either hold hands, fold them in prayer, lift them or leave them at one’s side. This issue may be done to death, but it seems to me that everyone is becoming a little more tolerant of others on this topic.
 
God forbid we attend Mass as a community of friends verses a church full of strangers.

Many Catholics attend Mass with the attitude that it’s between themselves and God.

They want nothing to do with the people around them and everyone should just focus on themselves and God.

Jim
But that’s not at all a fair description of why many of us don’t like it.
It’s hard to say why without seeming as if we are exactly as you characterize it–unsocial fogies, but here it is:

Through our union with God during this particularly special moment–right after the Consecration–we are united with the entire Body of Christ, here and in Heaven. We could not possibly be closer to the saints, angels, and brothers in the congregation, than God makes us through the Eucharist at this moment.

Whether we are holding hands with each other or physically holding onto the wings of the angels adds nothing to this unity. The unity comes from our closeness with God, it’s not a prerequisite for it.
Not that holding hands is a bad thing, but added to that fact above is the fact that the practice came to the church as an evangelical Protestant practice and was sort of an imposition to people who weren’t choosing to do it. But it felt (and feels) rude to them to turn down somebody’s hand. That’s why it spread through churches like wildfire.

There is a reason the church hasn’t encouraged it as part of the posture. Certainly, people might choose to hold hands while even receiving Communion, if it’s nothing but positive…
But there’s more to it, isn’t there? And finally, this is clearly an emotion-driven thing on some level, not, for the most part, an effort rooted in the celebration of the Mystery.
 
God forbid we attend Mass as a community of friends verses a church full of strangers.

Many Catholics attend Mass with the attitude that it’s between themselves and God.

They want nothing to do with the people around them and everyone should just focus on themselves and God.

That’s not what Christ calls us to do.

Holy Communion, comes from the word community. We come together as a community and worship as a community of faithful people.

Holding hands isn’t mandated, and I would never try to force a person praying with their hands folded, to hold my hand.

However, when the person next to me holds out their hand, I will hold their hand and together, we’ll pray the Lord’s Prayer, as He intended.

Salvation was never intended to be individualistic, but societal.

Jim
I prefer Evangelical worship customs.
 
God forbid we attend Mass as a community of friends verses a church full of strangers.

Many Catholics attend Mass with the attitude that it’s between themselves and God.

They want nothing to do with the people around them and everyone should just focus on themselves and God.

That’s not what Christ calls us to do.

Holy Communion, comes from the word community. We come together as a community and worship as a community of faithful people.

Holding hands isn’t mandated, and I would never try to force a person praying with their hands folded, to hold my hand.

However, when the person next to me holds out their hand, I will hold their hand and together, we’ll pray the Lord’s Prayer, as He intended.

Salvation was never intended to be individualistic, but societal.

Jim
Can you explain please your last sentence? As a Catholic…
 
Can you explain please your last sentence? As a Catholic…
It’s from Pope Benedict XVI’s Encyclical, Spe Salvi. This is just a piece of what he said, but its in the entire document.
  1. Yet now the question arises: are we not in this way falling back once again into an individualistic understanding of salvation, into hope for myself alone, which is not true hope since it forgets and overlooks others? Indeed we are not! Our relationship with God is established through communion with Jesus—we cannot achieve it alone or from our own resources alone. The relationship with Jesus, however, is a relationship with the one who gave himself as a ransom for all (cf. 1 Tim 2:6). Being in communion with Jesus Christ draws us into his “being for all”; it makes it our own way of being.
Jim
 
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