I believe you missed the point that true femininity and masculinity is submitting to God.
Umm, I did not at all “miss the point.”
I merely noted, and will note again, the overemphasis on the receptivity aspect.
I have noticed this, by the way, in many articles and other communication in the last 10 years. I think it’s only natural, because of two things: (a) the reaction against society’s extreme counter-emphasis when it comes to the role/understanding of women, and (b) the implicit borrowing of secular re-“definitions,” or should I say, “un-definitions” (

) of women, into the Church Herself, by many misguided and confused souls. The entire point of such mismatched “borrowing” is that it has precisely resulted in the subject of this thread: the transfer of an imbalanced and manipulated (un)definition of Woman into Church functionality.
It is not I who “miss the point.” It is the secularists (in and out of the Church) who are operating from a distorted understanding of essence vs. function, and of spiritual equality vs. political equality – the latter of which is artificial and temporal, the former which is of the Divine and eternal Order.
However, it continues the distortion to place so much emphasis, in the mere volume of language, on an imbalanced understanding of Woman in an effort to restore that Divine paradigm. The healthy and holy Woman is balanced between receptivity and activity, just as the healthy and holy Man is balanced. (This was brought up recently on
Catholic Answers Live by Doug Berry, who was a guest on the show. For men to be true to their nature, he said, requires them to be receptive as well.)
I am contradicting the over-reaction (i.m.o.) which has been apparent in Catholic circles recently – a reaction which, again, I understand and sympathize with. I cannot agree more with the Church’s understanding of man and woman as complementary. Amen. They are not the same; they are not indistinguishable except for physical parts. However, they are not dichotomous. The emphasis in recent years has to
imply that they are dichotomous.
Just as men recognize the ideal of manhood when demonstrated visibly in another man whom they respect, so do women. Both are visible and active representations and presences. Maleness and femaleness are not just concepts. They are lived realities, and best understood and incorporated into the human person when they are visible to others. This is why (for example) it is so crucial for children to have a visble male pattern and a visible female pattern in the home, with whom to identify. It has nothing to do with role, but something much deeper than that. Many households --Catholic and not-- include parents with overlapping or even “reverse” roles, yet the genders are distinct and distinguished, which is what makes possible that internal “patterning” for children.